Why do gays want marriage? What do they hope gain from it?

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Many Catholics, over 50% according to one survey, will acknowledge these marriages as “true” as any outside the Church. I don’t know about all gay couples, but the two I do know have never evinced any upset or lack of fulfillment because some strangers might not approve of their marriages. Or mentioned it at all. One couple did evince upset when the hurricane took out the water supply for over a week because their place is in a rural area and it took a while to get to them.
I can guarantee you that survey does not include the Catholic Church.

And I can also guarantee you that the gay community very much cares about the how strangers view them, otherwise they wouldnt claim to “feel like second class citizens.”
 
I can guarantee you that survey does not include the Catholic Church.

And I can also guarantee you that the gay community very much cares about the how strangers view them, otherwise they wouldnt claim to “feel like second class citizens.”
That’s because the government doesn’t recognize their marriages, not specifically the Church. Gay people see the church as standing in the way of that government recognition. Once government fully recognizes gay marriages, the church will no longer be an issue for 99% of gay people.

Again, look at divorce. Once it became commonplace, nobody cared anymore about what the Church said against it. Except the people who wanted to make a commitment to the Church, of course.
 
Again, look at divorce. Once it became commonplace, nobody cared anymore about what the Church said against it.
I think it’s sad (and also telling) how cavalier you are about divorce…
It’s clear to me that you see the breakdown of the American family as “not that big of a deal.”
 
I can guarantee you that survey does not include the Catholic Church.
I have no idea what you mean by “the Catholic Church” in terms of a Gallup poll of Catholics. Do you mean they didn’t call all the Bishops?
The most recent Gallup polling data backs up Maguire. When asked this month whether they think same-sex marriage should be legalized, 51 percent of Catholics said they think it should be, placing Catholics one percentage point higher than the national average. Forty-seven percent of Catholics said they think same-sex marriage should not be legal, compared with 59 percent of Protestants, and 12 percent of people who claimed no religious affiliation.
“Most Catholic theologians approve of same-sex marriage and Catholics generally do not differ much from the overall population on this issue.”
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And I can also guarantee you that the gay community very much cares about the how strangers view them, otherwise they wouldnt claim to “feel like second class citizens.”
Gay people I know don’t care what individuals think unless someone gets in their face. Feeling like a second-class citizen has to do with** the law**, not with whatever you, personally, believe. I also doubt very much you are close enough to very many gay folks that your personal observations justify you “guaranteeing” anything at all about them.
 
Q. Why do gays want marriage?
A. Satan

Q. What do they hope to gain from it?
A. The object is intrinsically evil, so their intention, even if a self-delusional good, cannot make the act good. The only extenuating circumstance might be absolute chastity within the relationship, but in order for the act to be good, the object, intention, and circumstance must all be good, and this is impossible. (Moral Theology 101).
 
Well you will see first hand for yourself if ssm becomes legal everywhere. Catholics still will not acknowledge this as true marriage. SSM participants will still feel upset and unfulfilled because of that.
If they think that is being upset and unfulfilled, wait until they learn the meaning of “eternal separation from God!”😉
 
I’m not asking about the moral issues of same sex marriage. What I am wondering is, why is this such a big deal for homosexuals? What are they trying to accomplish?
It’s the media that makes it a big issue!
 
You know up until recently, we used to have a practice that was wide spread and potentially predates civilization. Economies were based on it, it was ingrained into many different cultures and religions not only accepted it, they fully endorsed it and gave guide lines on how to practice it.

Humanity (sadly not all of humanity) has realized that this practice was wrong and took steps to abolish the practice. This in the face of religious opinion, cultural and economic factors and other forms of opposition.

Should we have kept this practice because it was part of our culture, our religion endorses it and because its always been that way?
 
I think it’s sad (and also telling) how cavalier you are about divorce…
It’s clear to me that you see the breakdown of the American family as “not that big of a deal.”
And again you are confusing ME with society. Because I have the ability to observe and comment on trends in society doesn’t mean I agree with them personally. I realize that’s an easy way to point a finger and make me an enemy, but it doesn’t mean it’s true.

Do you deny that society has accepted divorce and now the only people who care about the Church’s position on it are those WITHIN the Church? People who have no connection or desire to be in the Church really don’t care anymore.

Now, this leads to the REAL ISSUE. WHY do so many members of our society no longer care about the Church’s position on divorce? What happened in the last 40 years that made the Church’s opinion irrelevant to so many people? Where has our evangelization failed?

Those are questions for another thread obviously, but I think we have lost the forest for the trees. We’re so busy talking about what society is doing wrong and what sinners they are that we’ve lost sight of the command of Jesus to lead them to Him.
 
It’s so much like talking a to people who hated integration and allowing blacks to marry whites. I keep having deja vu. .
This is not at all the same thing. Anti-miscegenation laws were an attempt to keep blacks and whites from marrying each other. The reason people DIDN’T want such marriages to take place is because they knew they WOULD be marriages. That was the whole problem I disagree with those who supported those laws but here is the fundamental difference: race is irrelevant to marriage but sex is not.
 
Those are questions for another thread obviously, but I think we have lost the forest for the trees. We’re so busy talking about what society is doing wrong and what sinners they are that we’ve lost sight of the command of Jesus to lead them to Him.
In other words, you think the Church as lost its way? Do you think the Church should allow divorce and same-sex marriage? Is it your opinion that the Church is “out of touch” with society?
 
This is not at all the same thing. Anti-miscegenation laws were an attempt to keep blacks and whites from marrying each other. The reason people DIDN’T want such marriages to take place is because they knew they WOULD be marriages. That was the whole problem I disagree with those who supported those laws but here is the fundamental difference: race is irrelevant to marriage but sex is not.
Right. Additionally, support of these laws was motivated by racial animus. This is quite different than the motivation to keep the definition of marriage between one man and one woman.

The reason liberals attempt to draw parallels is because they long for the civil-rights-sexual-revolution glory days. A time when they were young and rebellious – and more importantly a time when they were relevant. To be sure, the fight for civil rights was a noble effort, and I applaud those individuals who sacrificed so much for the rights of so few.

It’s appalling that social liberals consistently try to demonize Christians, particularly Catholics, on this issue – as if Cathlics are akin to the Ku Klux Klan; as if Catholics promote hatred, even death, of homosexuals. Satan is the Father of Lies. And these aspersions are designed to tempt Catholics as we become marginalized in the Judean desert. Liberals offer the bread of acceptance, and will provide sanctuary in their temple – if only we fall down and accept their ideology.

This is Jesus’s response and ours:

“Get away, Satan! It is written: 'The Lord, your God, shall you worship and him alone shall you serve.”

[BIBLEDRB]Matthew 4:10[/BIBLEDRB]
 
In other words, you think the Church as lost its way? Do you think the Church should allow divorce and same-sex marriage? Is it your opinion that the Church is “out of touch” with society?
Dear Lord, what is your obsession with trying to make ME the enemy??? Where did I say ANYTHING close to what you’re indicating?

I’ll try this AGAIN.

Society (NOT ME PERSONALLY) has seemingly rejected the teachings of the Church in the matter of divorce. What has happened in the last 40 years that has changed society’s (NOT MY PERSONAL) opinion? Have we as a church failed to convey the message of Christ to the world?

I have PERSONALLY given up what society says I need in order to stay within the graces of the Church because I have been convinced by good people that there is no other place to find the truth. Why did that work for me but not for so many others?
 
This is not at all the same thing. .
I already had this conversation, and it’s not what I said. What I said was: Talking to the people objecting to SSM is pretty much exactly like talking to segregationists. Same type of arguments, (Scripture, natural law, negative effect on society) same phraseology, same old same old.

We are going to integrate gay people into our culture. Thank God. And marriage is going to be the last hurdle. Just like it was for the civil rights movement. (“Yeah, but would you want your sister to marry one?”)
 
Dear Lord, what is your obsession with trying to make ME the enemy??? Where did I say ANYTHING close to what you’re indicating?
When you are losing an argument, attack the person making the argument. When what they say makes sense, just alter what they said. When you can’t win the debate, change the subject.

Your point is that our culture stopped stigmatizing people (correct me if I am wrong) because they were divorced and that the Church’s teaching on divorce no longer has influence over the culture as a whole.
 
Dear Lord, what is your obsession with trying to make ME the enemy??? Where did I say ANYTHING close to what you’re indicating?

I’ll try this AGAIN.

Society (NOT ME PERSONALLY) has seemingly rejected the teachings of the Church in the matter of divorce. What has happened in the last 40 years that has changed society’s (NOT MY PERSONAL) opinion? Have we as a church failed to convey the message of Christ to the world?

I have PERSONALLY given up what society says I need in order to stay within the graces of the Church because I have been convinced by good people that there is no other place to find the truth. Why did that work for me but not for so many others?
The Church welcomes membership for those who have a homosexual orientation but remain celibate (which for Catholics, means chastity is implicit). You obviously understand that, Seeker. The Church cannot and will not change its position on this issue, since it is based unequivocally in Holy Scripture.
 
The Church welcomes membership for those who have a homosexual orientation but remain celibate (which for Catholics, means chastity is implicit). You obviously understand that, Seeker. The Church cannot and will not change its position on this issue, since it is based unequivocally in Holy Scripture.
Ok, so let’s take the next step. Why are there fewer and fewer people willing to accept and embrace Church teaching? Not just on this issue, but on many other social issues?

I have many friends who have ZERO issue with the words of the Creed, but cannot commit to the Church because of social issues like divorce, birth control and gay marriage. Why does the message of the Creed still resonate but not the other issues?

I realize I may be drifting off-topic here, but I think that is a question that needs to be answered.
 
I have many friends who have ZERO issue with the words of the Creed, but cannot commit to the Church because of social issues like divorce, birth control and gay marriage. Why does the message of the Creed still resonate but not the other issues?
I doubt this. Part of believing in ‘one holy, catholic and apostolic church’ is granting that its moral teachings are to be followed. That these creed-loving friends of yours think the Church is teaching moral error in at least three areas—divorce, artificial contraception, and same-sex marriage–means they think Christ is teaching moral error for he is the head of the Church!
 
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