Why do people do this during communion?

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Savior2012 said:
The other side of the coin is that some Catholics believe standing not kneeling is showing lack of reverence. In a protestant manner.

I have found traveling and locally, most Catholic churches kneel while and some stand, but it should be more monolithic nevertheless.
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When in Rome do what the Romans do. If the congregation kneels, then you kneel. If they stand, you stand. Unity through Uniformity. 😉 Whichever is more ‘reverent’, I will do what the Bishop commands.

Recently I was visiting another parish (and sitting in the front as usual) and so I stood but when I glanced back EVERYONE was kneeling. 😊 I wasn’t sure if I should just kneel or continue standing to the end. I mean, I’d stood for half of communion… it felt strange to sit after that long standing… Hahahaha.
 
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The Pastor at my church told us we need to stand to be unified as the choir is singing.
 
nickybr38 said:
Recently I was visiting another parish (and sitting in the front as usual) and so I stood but when I glanced back EVERYONE was kneeling. 😊 I wasn’t sure if I should just kneel or continue standing to the end. I mean, I’d stood for half of communion… it felt strange to sit after that long standing… Hahahaha.
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Oooooohhhh so awkward! I would have been so 😊

Just a question to the OP - how do you know they are fuming? Do they actually say something? I’d ignore them… move aside - smile sweetly etc. How people can be so grumpy after receiving JESUS is beyond me! Pray for them… imagine how grumpy they must be outside of mass? :eek:

PS. Welcome to the Church - I pray these final months of RCIA are a blessing to you!
 
nickybr38 said:
It is allowed in my diocese but I know when I was in RCIA I was not comfortable going up for a blessing so I didn’t. It didn’t hurt my spiritual growth at all. If the OP isn’t comfortable going up then she shouldn’t but before she goes up I would suggest she ask her team leader at RCIA to confirm if it is a practice that this particular parish encourages.
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I"m currently in RCIA. They usher us out after the Homily. We are told to stay in the pews if we attend other masses. After attending services in Roman Catholic churches for better than 25 years, it is a bit frustrating too.

My advise would be that you should call, email, or otherwise ask your sponsor or instructor about this… do it tonight, or first thing in the AM. At any road, I’d mentally send them all the love, charity, and mercy to the people who are doing this. I bet they don’t realize what they are doing.

Myself, when I do attend other services I make use of the time for a good old fashioned 5 finger prayer I was taught as a kid in the Lutheran church. (different church)
It is sort of like having the prayer beads with us all the time. Yes, Lutherans use beads too.

Thumb. - Pray for those close to us.
Index finger - pray for our leaders and Priests who show us the way
Middle finger - pray for our public leaders and people of influence over us including Bishops and the Church leaders
Ring finger - pray for those who are weak, ill, or in personal stress of any sort. (this is where I’d pray for those folks)
Pinky finger - pray for ourselves and to be strong to be good Apostles of Christ in our daily life
 
Good advice, all-- stand if that’s the norm for your parish, kneel otherwise. Sit on a side aisle, and move out of the way.

Since you’re coming into the church at Easter (and welcome home, BTW!), aren’t you being excused for breaking open of the word at your parish? We do this for all year two students (and year one at this point, if they wish to participate). They’re excused, along with the RCIA teachers, after the liturgy of the word and before the liturgy of the Eucharist.

As for the blessing-- our DRE (the parish vicar) does not like the practice, but neither he nor our pastor or deacon will turn you away if you go up, arms crossed. Please do not do this with the lay people who are charged with being extraordinary eucharistic ministers-- they’ll do it to, but it really isn’t appropriate (again, according to my parish vicar).
 
jazzy0710 said:
I joined RCIA at my parish back in October. My husband and I will be doing communion for the first time at Easter. We attend mass every Sunday but of course during communion, we just remain in the pew, standing.

Now the way the church is constructed there are many large spaces between most the pews that allow you to circle along the outside.However rather than going around the outside many walk right through the pews and if you don’t move out of their way they get MAD and I mean FUMING MAD!

Why is it that they feel the need to walk through all of the pews? Why not go around?
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Does everyone do that or just some? I know in our parish those who sit in the side pews will usually walk down to the back and come up the center aisle but if there aren’t that many people in attendance they will sometimes cut through a pew to get to the center aisle, nobody is rude enough to go through a pew where people are not moving out to go receive.

As for those who say ‘go up for a blessing’, please be aware that that’s not done everywhere; I’ve never been in a parish where it’s done and I’ve attended in parishes across Canada. The Church does not encourage these blessings, in fact has rules about people who shouldn’t be receiving individual blessings at all. If the priest doesn’t invite you to go up, please don’t do so. Some of our priests won’t even bless a child in a parent’s arms during the Communion procession although they’d be more than happy to bless said child after Mass if asked.
 
familyof4 said:
Since you’re coming into the church at Easter (and welcome home, BTW!), aren’t you being excused for breaking open of the word at your parish?
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The dismissal need really only be for catechumens, although parishes often lump those who will be received into full communion with them. If you don’t have catechumen the dismissal is often not done at all.
 
People who cut across pews to get back to their seats should be considerate enough to choose pews where no one is sitting. I can’t believe they get angry because you are actually having the NERVE to kneel in the pew they are used to using.

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This makes me feel very sad. But it will be difficult to break their habits. People get into some very bad habits out of ignorance I suppose. They should process around the outside or in some other way. I guess it’s good they aren’t just leaving but…

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Maybe sit in another pew? Unless you are with your RCIA group in which case, pray on and ignore the fuming. Small people do small things.
 
Marquette said:
Why are you not going up? When I was in RCIA we were told to go up with everyone else but keep our arms crossed over our chests and the priest gave us each a blessing. That way you won’t be in the pew getting dagger looks AND you will get a blessing besides.
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We were told to remain in the pew standing that we would do communion for the first time at Easter. Even after you have recieved communion everyone has to stay standing until everyone has recieved. The blessing is a good idea though I will ask about that next week, thank you! 😃
 
yellowbird said:
Just a question to the OP - how do you know they are fuming? Do they actually say something? I’d ignore them… move aside - smile sweetly etc. How people can be so grumpy after receiving JESUS is beyond me! Pray for them… imagine how grumpy they must be outside of mass? :eek:
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Sometimes you can literally see the veins coming out as they very rudely say excuse me. However that’s nothing compared to when others will stand there, huffing and puffing, tapping their foot and banging their fingers on the pew and then look at you in discust with their eyes rolling once you do move.
 
Phemie said:
Does everyone do that or just some? I know in our parish those who sit in the side pews will usually walk down to the back and come up the center aisle but if there aren’t that many people in attendance they will sometimes cut through a pew to get to the center aisle, nobody is rude enough to go through a pew where people are not moving out to go receive.
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Not everyone does it but quite a big chunk does. The strange thing though is that they don’t cut through the pews on the way back, they go around the outside of the church on the way back.
 
jazzy0710 said:
Sometimes you can literally see the veins coming out as they very rudely say excuse me. However that’s nothing compared to when others will stand there, huffing and puffing, tapping their foot and banging their fingers on the pew and then look at you in discust with their eyes rolling once you do move.
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Well that’s just RUDE. I’m so sorry this has been your experience! Does a Priest help facilitate your RCIA class? I would tell him what you’ve told us here. Hopefully an announcement or two would deter some people from cutting across?

I would be tempted to just keep on praying - eyes closed, kneeling. Maybe start to quietly make weeping noises. That ought to stop them in their tracks and put an end to their tapping, huffing, eye rolling, I’m too lazy to walk around attitude.
 
People get mad at us so that we can show God how patient we are.

It is a great gift from God when someone is angry with us. It gives us an opportunity to practice charity in spite of the person’s anger toward us. It is an opportunity to show God how much we love him. That it happens at Mass, during reception of Holy Communion, makes it even more so.

-Tim-
 
TimothyH said:
People get mad at us so that we can show God how patient we are.

It is a great gift from God when someone is angry with us. It gives us an opportunity to practice charity in spite of the person’s anger toward us. It is an opportunity to show God how much we love him. That it happens at Mass, during reception of Holy Communion, makes it even more so.

-Tim-
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This is a very nice response.

I liked my fake weeping suggestion, but I think perhaps your advice is actually better. :o
 
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