Why do people have children?

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Salibi said:
I’d have them because they’re cute.
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Honestly this is reason enough

Just got back from my family’s giant Easter get-together and there were so many cute babies toddling about. So much fun.
 
LOL “For Facebook likes.” I’m sure some couples do consider reason #2; of course, that depends on how your children are raised and what kind of adults they turn out to be. I wouldn’t count on it!
 
Simply adorable. My cousins’ kids have all reached that stage where they’ve started to talk, and the things they say would make you either want to laugh out loud or hug them tightly.

I haven’t had children of my own yet, sadly. I’m not married. 😂
 
I am adamant no child of mine will be a ‘Facebook baby’. 1. Nobody apart from me and other half and family wants to see hundreds of pics of him/her on their wall. Aka ‘baby spam’. And 2. Seriously, I don’t agree with putting their images online when they don’t have a say. It’s cute but actually when you think about it properly they don’t have a choice so I don’t think that’s right. That’s just me though
 
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Simply adorable. My cousins’ kids have all reached that stage where they’ve started to talk, and the things they say would make you either want to laugh out loud or hug them tightly.

I haven’t had children of my own yet, sadly. I’m not married. 😂
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My favorite “barely can talk” thing is my cousin’s baby, who is convinced that the name of his grandparents’ tiny dog, “Romo,” is generalizable to all animals, but can’t quite pronounce it right. So he points at pictures of Tigers and says “Momo!” He sees a duck and says “Momo!” It’s hilarious.
 
My nephew is six and has recently become very enthusiastic about his English and just parrots out stuff he hears around him and on TV. He stuff he says reminds me of that AI-generated Harry Potter chapter created from feeding a program random lines from the various books.

The best thing is when they say something unintentionally clever. His dad asked him if he can do something and he replied, “I can do it, but I can’t promise anything.”
 
“Why do people (and particularly, Catholics) have children?”

To one day have grandchildren to spoil 😀
 
My cousin’s little one’s first word was “car”, which is shocking in and of itself considering English is not our native language. 😂. It’s really hilarious since his parents have all but stopped speaking English in front of him yet he still insists on randomly saying mispronounced English words wherever he goes.

P.S. I’m the one who’s still speaking English to him. 🤫 I want him to be an English speaker. 🤣
 
Honestly, I’m just too selfish for children…Too much hard work. I love travelling, being spontaneous and just looking after myself and my husband. I have extreme broody periods but the actual thought of a having a child (and never being able to take back that decision) sends a cold shiver through my bones. The thought that the child would have disabilities or traits of autism/aspergers puts the actual fear of God into me! I never cease to be amazed at the selflessness of parents of children with special educational needs.

I have a lot of pressure on me about it - especially as I get older. My parents are absolutely desperate to be grandparents and I think my husband is ready too as we have spent years travelling, went to uni, partied lots, have good jobs, own our home etc. However, he will stand by my decision. God definitely wills it - I have the same conversation every reconciliation, no matter how subtly I slip it in.

We’ve been married for 6 years (been together 16 years - childhood sweethearts) and we have always used contraceptives.
 
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I have no deep or religious reasons that we had children. As others have said, it’s what people do. We wanted a family to share our lives with, people we can grow along side of. People to nurture and help us become the best people we can be. Our children offer us opportunities to learn as well as teach.
 
🤣🤣🤣.

You just made me remember so many funny incidents. One time I told one of the kids that if he didn’t go with his parents ( he didn’t want to leave my place) I was going to stop giving him hugs. He shrugged and said, “Stofil”, which basically translates into “your loss”.😂
 
I’ve asked my parents about this question. I was born with a genetic disorder called Muscular Dystrophy that developed when I turned 20 years old. And of course, they feel awfully sad that I have this disease, but they said, “I was overjoyed when I conceived you, and I don’t regret bringing you into this world. Also, we would still keep you if we knew that you had this disease anyways.”
So yes. My parents love me and I love them.
It is very unlikely for my children to have my disease since it is recessive, but whether healthy or not, I’m going to tell my future child that “I love you, and I want to protect you to the ends of the earth.”
 
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redbetta said:
Because they are lonely
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This is sad, it it’s also can be true. One of my friends was a higher school teacher and she said sometimes teenage girls would get accidentally-on-purpose pregnant because they wanted somebody who loved them.
 
Yes, that was exactly what I was thinking of when I was writing that.
 
Thank you for so many nice answers!

But let me make my question (or perhaps problem) more specific:

I am a Catholic. Now I am considering whether I will get married. It seems that, it is God’s will for me to get married. So, I am considering getting married seriously. But there is an obstacle or difficulty for me to get married:

As Catholics, we believe that there is the hell, where there is eternal and perhaps very intense pain, and we all have a real danger of ending up in it. For me, this is very terrifying and gloomy, and has been troubling me for many years. Yes, we all also have a possibility of ending up in the heaven, and I also want to end up in the heaven. But the possibility of ending up in the heaven has hardly made it easier for me to face the possibility of ending up in the hell.

So, if I get married, and then have children, and then my children ask me, “Since people all have a real danger of ending up in the hell, and since you are also troubled by it, then, why did you have me, which made me also have to face this danger?”, then what should I answer? Should I just answer, “Well, it is God’s will for people to have children and multiply?”

Any advice?
 
You might be overthinking things. I am pretty sure your children will never pose that question to you.

If you are not at a point in your life where you are facing children, I cannot see the point of dwelling on questions like these. Don’t put the cart before the horse, and don’t talk yourself out of something just because you don’t currently have all of the answers.

Before I met my husband, I used to wonder how people knew when they wanted children. Believe me, once you are actually married, the answer will show itself to you in one way or another. 🙂
 
I doubt it. People just tend to notice these cases more because how ironic it is.
 
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