Why do people just give themselves away like its no big deal?

[AntiTheist]

How are these people not damaged?

I agree that something is wrong with the people you describe, but it doesn’t sound like having sex “broke” them. I’d be willing to bet that they were probably messed up a very long time before they were even physically capable of having sex.

Its just irresponsible to push the “shag all in sundry if you want” message.

When exactly do you think anyone suggested this message? I’m in complete agreement that it’s not exactly the best idea to indiscriminately have sex with strangers.

Once again, it’s all black and white to you people. You think that the only two options are to never have sex until marriage or become a “shag all in sundry” whore/manwhore.

Do you honestly think that there are no other options?

 

[AntiTheist]

If you can have sex without getting married, why the heck get married except for financial reasons (perhaps a few other obscure reasons)?

Well, perhaps you should ask some of the married couples who had sex with each other before marriage…you know, talk to people with viewpoints other than your own.

You might discover, for example, that a lot of people get married because they love each other and they want to make a public declaration of that love; a lot of people get married because it’s a social convention that’s still more or less expected of people once they reach a certain age, depending on the families and cultural and individual willpower; a lot of people get married cause it’s a nice excuse to have a party and get some nice gifts; and a lot of people get married for a combination of a lot of the reasons above.

 

[commoncents]

i am a sophomore in college, and i go to blinn college and the campus i go to is one of the branches but anyway it is in a bigger town and anyway i was in class today and we were discussing " safe sex" and one guy was like yeah gotta use those condoms i mean look at me i am 30 and havent gotten any diseases…i know he has had sex because he openly said it in class one day anyway, just wondering why people think having premarital sex is no big deal…just curious

Because to these people it is not a big deal. The person either doesn’t believe in God, follows a religion that doesn’t really care about pre marital sex, or isn’t serious about a religion that is serious about pre marital sex. Sex feels good so people want to do it. If you remove the concept of God from your line of thinking, I can’t find much wrong with pre marital sex other than a risk of disease or unwanted pregnancy. (Unless sex is due to false pretenses where one person is basically tricking the other for the purpose of sex…that is wrong.

 

[commoncents]

makes sense though i just dont see what people think they prove by that…premarital sex has so many consequences…

Not necessarily…he said himself he doesn’t have diseases.

 

[AggieCatholic22]

Not necessarily…he said himself he doesn’t have diseases.

the consequences dont have to be just diseases, they can be feelings of regret, depression…etc…when you have sex with someone you are bonded to that person…in a special way…and God intended that bondage to be made with only your husband or wife…in marriage…don’t people want to be respected?..if two people love each other enough, and respect each other, they can hold off sex till marriage. that takes guts to hold off sex…its hard sometimes to not let it happen…the rewards for being chaste going into marriage are abundant…