Why do people marry outside their culture?

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‘Asian’ includes such a wide variety of people and cultures as to have no useful meaning. Jesus and the Apostles were, geographically speaking, Asian. So too, I imagine were the wives of those who were married.
 
do_justly_love_mercy said:
As you may know, there is a subset of MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) who do not have relationships with women but make an exception for Asian women because they are perceived to be more submissive/subservient.
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“Perceived” is the key word here—in actuality very untrue. For those who have had actual long term relationships with Asian women would attest to the fact that Asian women are very strong willed and determined. They are just as diverse as any other women on the planet. Don’t let the false/negative perception fool you…
 
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I am an asian woman…sorry but I find this topic offensive…its the same as" why i married a WHITE person"…to be honest just bc your an asian person doesnt mean you have traditional values or high morals…a white woman can have high morals yet the asian woman can be a party lover and a cheater even when shes married…
 
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I too am of Asian descent but am very much American.

Anyone who is looking for subservience will not find it in me.

Having lived in Japan, the women there will cooperate with their husbands in order to take care of their family but aren’t subservient in any way.
 
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do_justly_love_mercy said:
As you may know, there is a subset of MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) who do not have relationships with women but make an exception for Asian women because they are perceived to be more submissive/subservient.
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While this subset exists, it’s wrong to put every man who wants a more traditional wife in the MGTOW category; also wrong to put every man who might have a preference for Asian women or Asian culture in the MGTOW category.

In my experience, the men who were similar to what we now call MGTOW were more likely to be seeking “mail order brides” from Asia than actually getting involved in the culture or seeking out women through normal dating relationships.
 
Either the fell in love with a woman who happens to be of another culture, or they fell in love with the culture and sought out a woman of that culture, or maybe they just don’t feel like they relate to their own culture and are looking “outside the box”. The answers are various. I don’t think it’s reasonable to assume they are all fetishers or trying to get a mail order bride in order to be dominant.
 
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Are they finding values in foreign women that they can’t find in American Catholics?
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That would seem to be obvious. But, it also doesn’t necessarily say what those values are.

Do these men put a higher value on a woman being Catholic, or on a woman having traditional values? There are probably women in the US who are not Catholic but still have traditional values. So these men are choosing a disparity in culture and possibly language, over a disparity of Christianity. To me, that would seem to be the more interesting thing.
 
I think there is a big misunderstanding and a lot of prejudice. I worked and lived with many people from Asia. First of all they are not all the same, personalities are very different among individuals, even in the same culture. Also it is true that ‘drama’, open confrontation, speaking up your mind loud, disagreement with parents and figures of authority etc are stigmatized in certain cultures but this doesn’t mean people are better or worse. Actually I noticed that often in cultures in which there is no open confrontation (considered very rude), there are often passive aggressive behaviors and plenty of unspoken rules.
 
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We asiand are beautiful, arnt we? 🧨😗…Just look at Zhang Ziyi. ~❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
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Allegra said:
Either the fell in love with a woman who happens to be of another culture, or they fell in love with the culture and sought out a woman of that culture, or maybe they just don’t feel like they relate to their own culture and are looking “outside the box”. The answers are various. I don’t think it’s reasonable to assume they are all fetishers or trying to get a mail order bride in order to be dominant.
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None of the ladies in question were “mail order brides”. The couples met in the US (maybe with one exception - not sure about that one). I tried to explore the reason for these men looking “outside the box”.
 
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I think there is a big misunderstanding and a lot of prejudice. I worked and lived with many people from Asia.
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My use of the term “Asian” was a mental shortcut and perhaps not a very good one. As you will note in the original post, two of the ladies are from Egypt which is in Africa.
In general, there is always room for both misunderstanding and prejudice in the world. The five examples I gave, and they are real examples, would point to the opposite conclusion, that there is possibility for mutual understanding accross cultures and even religions.
 
Your question is addressing men marrying asian women. I am the reverse of this. I am an American woman married to an Asian man. From my perspective I didn’t start out seeking an Asian man specifically. I did meet him during a job I had in college. We became friends in that job. But, my husband was and still is to this day the funniest man I have ever met and has such a nice, easy going personality. I dated him because I thought he was cute. Not because he was asian specifically. In fact at the time I was beginning a relationship with my husband. There was a nice American boy who had a crush on me also. He was a nice boy, but I just felt more drawn to my asian man. Our personalities just complement eachother better. I think our relationship just naturally progressed to love then marriage.
 
I can’t help but feeling the topic is biased too. Why even ask the question, if not to know/ascertain if certain stereotypes are true ?

As a Frenchwoman who married a Korean, the best answer I can give to that question is : because he is a wonderful person and I love him.
 
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I still don’t understand what you are trying to demonstrate/achieve with your topic. 😶
 
Good question. The first thing that I thought of was more of a religion question. Catholic men marrying non-Christian women. Does religion play any role in our decision to marry?
As I was thinking about this, another example came to mind. A year ago at a family reunion I ran into a childhood friend. She showed me pictures of her son and his family. This very accomplished Catholic young man married an equally accomplished young woman from India. Their children were lovely.
As my own son is slowly approaching the age when thoughts of marriage might occur to him, I ask myself if religion is a factor in making that decision.
Does it matter if you marry a Catholic or a Christian? The church clearly instructs us to marry Catholics. Why do so many people ignore this?
 
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