But whether or not it has existed in the past shouldn’t affect whether or not we should allow same-sex marriage. The question really should be “Why shouldn’t society accept same-sex marriage?”
Speaking from a purely nuts and bolts perspective:
- Gay couples are already living however they want.
- Monogamy is not a requirement.
- Even though “rights and responsibilities” have been attached to this issue, I have seen no evidence of any responsibilities, except, perhaps, living together in the same place for a specified period of time.
- This appears to be a ‘pay me for my living arrangements’ situation.
- It would cause confusion, especially for young people, and affect their sexual preferences or encourage experimentation with a lifestyle that has been documented as problematic at best.
- The choice/born that way question is constantly brought up. What I hear most often is “Why would anyone want to choose being gay when there are so many negative social consequences?” Not an exact quote - just the gist. So far, there are no clear cut scientific explanations as to why some people are gay.
There is a University offering a course called “How to be Gay.” While focused on gay students, the last paragraph refers students who want to learn about gays to another study course.
Finally, I became ill last year. My straight male friend helped me in many ways without the expense of hiring an attorney.
He was with me in the emergency room for a long period of time. The issue of sexual orientation was never brought up.
I had to contact the company that manages my IRA for non-related reasons, and they told me I needed to choose a beneficiary. In 5 minutes over the phone, I selected my friend, he spoke to them briefly, and everything was made official. Nothing about sexual orientation (we are not related either). No paperwork was involved.
We decided to put his name on my meager bank account. We produced a few pieces of ID, signed a few papers. No questions about sexual orientation.
Had my illness caused me to be unable to work or gotten worse, he would have become my legal guardian with full power of attorney. That would have involved some legal stuff and expense.
Finally, if it looked bad, I could write a will and leave everything I owned to him.
I view gay marriage as an unnecessary and disruptive social experiment which appears - with all due respect - to be all about benefits. I’m not saying gay couples don’t love each other, but it’s obvious that for many, the sexual aspects are non-monogomous and the part about caring for each other can already be handled relatively quickly and easily. I love my friend but I’d never have sex with him.
Gay people are already having commitment ceremonies but I can’t tell what they’re committing to. Like my friend, he was there for me when I needed him and he, or another friend, will be chosen to take care of my other affairs (hopefully) a lot later.
Peace,
Ed