I donāt think Iāve ever come across an EC that āhatesā anything Roman. I think what you may be sensing, OP, is a frustration thatās built up over time that EC practices and distinct theological expressions (fully orthodox expressions, mind you) are somehow second-class to the practices and distinct theological expressions of the Latin Church. Iām sure that much of this has to due with the fact that the Latin Church is far and away the biggest, and therefore its practices and expressions are considered ānormalā, and EC praxis is abnormal, or grudgingly accepted with a sigh. This is my personal opinion based on my person observation as an outsider to all of it.
If that is not your experience (that ECs are second-class), then perhaps you run in an exceptionally well-rounded circle. Iāve seen the attitude on these forums myself. Itās not even something that I could probably link you to (and no small reason is that I canāt even remember where- Iām a mom to a busy toddler, so if I can remember to turn off the coffee pot before I go to bed, Iām doing good), itās more insidious than an explicit statement.