Why do the " Bad Boys" get so many women?

[Paddy1989]

Regarding the topic of this thread about why do “bad boy’s” get so many women, that would be like saying why do promiscuous women get so many men. Trust me the women these lad’s end up with wouldn’t be any decent lad’s type anyway. Good women with a head screwed on will know what they want and treating them like dirt will get you nothing but a slap. Those here who get the most women are those who chat them up the most, being assertive usually is key and that’s it really.

 

[chevalier]

I think Chev made the poster in question to reveal his preferences. To the best of my knowledge, he was reluctant to do so because he thought some on CAF are very sensitive. But I think Chev, convinced him to.

That’s true, he wouldn’t have said anything without my encouragement. So it’s now up to me to ask the other posters to cut him some slack. I mean how you talk to him, not what you tell him. He’s been getting some rough handling I don’t really enjoy seeing.

There are guys who like big, small whatever…Again, that’s just the person’s problem/choice. I will never be offended if a woman says that she likes only guys with 6 pack or whatever it’s called. That’s the woman’s choice and I would simply respect it.

Same. Although the way we talk about it does matter too. Things can be said in a way that doesn’t cause so much pain or offence.

 

[Debora123]

I think Chev made the poster in question to reveal his preferences. To the best of my knowledge, he was reluctant to do so because he thought some on CAF are very sensitive. But I think Chev, convinced him to.

People, there is no reason for anyone to get offended because of one poster’s preference. Seriously? Who should care? We guys hate and like all kinds of things about women. Honestly, I don’t think any woman should give a damn about what one guy likes or dislikes. It doesn’t change anything.

For me, I see this thread as just an opportunity for both sexes to learn about the other. For instance, experience boys talk.

There are guys who like big, small whatever…Again, that’s just the person’s problem/choice. I will never be offended if a woman says that she likes only guys with 6 pack or whatever it’s called. That’s the woman’s choice and I would simply respect it.

And being a Catholic does not mean that we are perfect. I believe lust is something that affects everyone.

Oh please. I’m not offended because he likes big breasts.

I thought some of the things he said ABOUT small breasted women were offensive. Calling women with small breasts “flat chested” and going on and on about how we (small chested women) look like boys and trannies. That is offensive and inappropriate.

Likewise, I can say I’m not attracted to overweight men. And that’s perfectly fine. However, it is another thing entirely if I start referring to overweight men as “fatties” (an offensive term) and if I start going on about how they look like pigs. THAT would be offensive and very inappropriate.

 

[EasterJoy]

…Things can be said in a way that doesn’t cause so much pain or offence…

My issue with you was writing to the guy as if these preferences are supposed to be logical. My personal suspicion is that people have the preferences, are asked to explain what is essentially unexplainable, don’t feel comfortable with that, and so they make stuff up. Of course it isn’t logical. Maybe the story trying to make sense of it all came from the logical regions of the brain, but none of the rest did.

Rest assured, these things are thrown out with the same amount of logic (or less) than they come in with. One spectacularly “right” person comes along, and the whole mental check-list goes out the window, along with all the reasons one used to suppose one had for thinking that way.

It’s right up there with the “I’m never going to get married because…” fallacy. I’ve spent a lot on wedding gifts for people who’ve said that!!

 

[Crescentinus]

Oh please. I’m not offended because he likes big breasts.

I thought some of the things he said ABOUT small breasted women were offensive. Calling women with small breasts “flat chested” and going on and on about how we (small chested women) look like boys and trannies. That is offensive and inappropriate.

Likewise, I can say I’m not attracted to overweight men. And that’s perfectly fine. However, it is another thing entirely if I start referring to overweight men as “fatties” (an offensive term) and if I start going on about how they look like pigs. THAT would be offensive and very inappropriate.

You are putting things way out of context, again. You have obviously ignored on what I said before you try to leave this thread a few hours ago.

Look, the reason why I discussed that is because it is a part of the discussion. I do not want to date women who have oversized breasts either, especially those who did that from cosmetic surgery. Let’s just say that cosmetic surgery turns me off.

On what I said that brought offense to you. Let me say a few things about that. First, I did not mean to offend anyone here and I apologize for bringing offense. Second, there are people in real life that either force me to date women with small breasts as some fetish (And I want to punch those perverted idiots!) or that if I date one, I’m basically some pedophile or a hypocrite. Sadly, people like that exist. Trying to ignore then is like trying to ignore a pink elephant in the room. My language could have been better, and I apologize for that.
Yes Debora, you ignored this:

Please understand that as far as physical attraction is concerned, I am taking this from the artistic perspective. And yes, I believe in proportions as far as aesthetics are concerned. As a whole in regards to relationships, that is only a small part.

 

[Crescentinus]

I think Chev made the poster in question to reveal his preferences. To the best of my knowledge, he was reluctant to do so because he thought some on CAF are very sensitive. But I think Chev, convinced him to.

People, there is no reason for anyone to get offended because of one poster’s preference. Seriously? Who should care? We guys hate and like all kinds of things about women. Honestly, I don’t think any woman should give a damn about what one guy likes or dislikes. It doesn’t change anything.

For me, I see this thread as just an opportunity for both sexes to learn about the other. For instance, experience boys talk.

There are guys who like big, small whatever…Again, that’s just the person’s problem/choice. I will never be offended if a woman says that she likes only guys with 6 pack or whatever it’s called. That’s the woman’s choice and I would simply respect it.

And being a Catholic does not mean that we are perfect. I believe lust is something that affects everyone.

I will tell you and everyone else (especially Debora) why I have such preferences.
Please understand that as far as physical attraction is concerned, I am taking this from the artistic perspective since I am an artist. And yes, I believe in proportions as far as aesthetics are concerned. As a whole in regards to relationships, that is only a small part. My point is, my physical preferences are minor. The reason why I discussed it here is because I am planning to discuss my preferences further. Once I have covered the minor preferences (such as height, age and figure), I will go to the majors which Debora and I have discussed partly before.

Now, are my physical preferences affected by lust? No. I do not lust over anyone anymore. I remember being a porn addict a few years ago, but I have recovered from that rather well. Sadly, there are those who confuse aesthetic proportions with lust. To anyone who reads this, please do not confuse the two things. I will discuss the differences between the two later.