As a former Evangelical Protestant from the Bible Belt of the US, I can tell you that nearly 100% of the information I heard on catholicism came from non-catholics.
In fact, there were only two exceptions to this, and these were two catholic friends I had in college. I always thought it curious that they remained catholic, because their faith in God seemed so genuine. And after all, I KNEW that the only “true” believers were Evangelical Protestants.
I never once asked them about their faith. But when it came time for me to pass critical judgment, their faithful witness is what tipped the balance. My sister fell in love with a catholic, and decided that she should convert so as to be truly one with her husband. Our mother was ready to disown her! She asked my opinion, and I assured her that she could follow God just as faithfully as a catholic, and that she was doing the right thing by accepting her husband’s faith.
That simple assurance from a family member whose faith she respected cleared the way for what has been a happy and fruitful marriage of over 20 years now. But really, she needs to thank my two catholic friends from college. For it was their witness that gave me the assurance that their faith was as real as my own.
The story does not end there. Years later God would get my attention through circumstances with no connection to my friends or my sister, and this would lead me to look objectively into the Church for myself. I was astounded by what I found. All the propaganda I had heard for all those years was completely wrong. I converted to catholicism myself by the following Easter.
I would then discover such rich resources as the Catholic Encyclopedia, and find that many questions I had as a believer, and which Protestantism gave very unsatisfactory answers to, had been answered with clarity by the Church centuries ago.
So here are my suggestions for answering those who attack your faith:
- Just be a witness to the reality of Christ in your life. That speaks more loudly than any words, and people do notice. What was unnerving to me about my two friends in college was how unwavering they were in their position. They felt no need to defend their faith. They just smiled and continued to be friends even if I or others said uncharitable things that we thought about the Church.
- Turn the question back on the person. If they start talking about Mary, ask them to tell you what they think you believe about Mary. When they are done, say “What if I told you that that is not what I believe about Mary at all. Would you like to know my understanding of Mary?” If this makes them pause, you will probably get to be the very first person who ever explains to them a catholic position on Mary. If they counter that your position is not what the Church teaches, then ask them to talk to other catholics and suggest resources such as the Catholic Encyclopedia.
Protestants have no similar “authoritative” reference. So the thought has never occurred to them that they can find a single answer to a question that speaks for the entire Church. Tell them not to argue with you. Tell them to find the “heresy” they are presently condemning in an official catholic source, as opposed to quoted out of context by a Protestant publication, and you will be happy to discuss the Church’s official position with them if they still consider that it contradicts the Bible. The ones who are the most serious about their faith will be amazed at the clarity they find in the official publications, just as I was.
- Unfortunately, as my own dear mother bears witness, there are some who simply won’t consider your position no matter how much sense you are making. She now prays regularly for the souls of both my sister and I. For these people, there truly is nothing you can say. They are caught in a form of Salvation-by-works which gives them a need to compare themselves to others so as to constantly reassure themselves that they are more acceptable to God than the next guy. Their practice is in contradiction to their stated beliefs, but if you try to point this out to them, you will only make them madder.