“Organic bodily union”, what is that? It appears to be a term with no direct meaning but is supposed to imply heterosexual sex.
Call it what you will - organic bodily union, vaginal intercourse, etc. - but you must admit that physically - and, unless you take an anthropologically dualist view, therefore spiritually and socially - vaginal intercourse is quite objectively distinct from other kinds of sexual activity - oral sex, anal sex, no matter the gender of the parties involved.
As concrete evidence of this, let me point out something unrelated to gay issues: legally speaking, in the majority of legal/social traditions, only vaginal intercourse was/is considered consummation for a marriage.
After all, no other sexual expression can result in new human life. It’s always made sense to treat as different the kind of relationship whose physical consummation and expression is exclusively that type of act…
please note that everything I said in my “
conclusion/summary” above (about this not being as mechanical as it might seem) applies here, too.
The term “procreative potential” appears to have the same problem as already mentioned, some couples lack this potential regardless of their genders. There are also couples with no intent to have children, I would suggest that they do not have “procreative potential” even if they are fully functional. Perhaps a survey should be given to everyone trying to get married that questions their intentions regarding children.
I guarantee you that this reasoning does not lead to denying marriage to infertile couples, and I encourage you to read the section that addresses this exact objection in the article I linked to.
Not at all, you appear to be extremely reasonable in our exchanges, which always helps.
Thank you - you too. It’s a relief when discussing an issue as highly charged as this one.
So you don’t want “marriage” to be changed to permit equality among homosexuals and heterosexuals but you are quite happy to fight for equality as long as they are under a separate institution that permits the same benefits as marriage does for heterosexuals. Here’s the problem now it’s just come to a problem of semantics, any opposition doesn’t mind them having the benefits of marriage but rather doesn’t want the term marriage to incorporate others. I don’t really understand why a separate institution should be set up that offers the exact same legal attributes as marriage but incorporates people who do not currently fit into the accepted definition of marriage. Why is the institution of marriage so exclusive, why can’t we change that?
Again, for the above reasons I don’t think this is a matter of equality vs. inequality.
But you’re not wrong: we as a society
can legally change the institution of marriage (otherwise this debate wouldn’t be happening), and I agree that it doesn’t make sense to set up an entirely separate institution whose legal characteristics parallel those of marriage.
Rather, I maintain that the kind of rights (hospital visitation, etc.) that gay couples want for each other really ought to be available between any consenting adults or sets of adults. I suppose that these practical matters then actually
are a matter of freedom: of states and organizations’ dictating things that should be left to the judgment of mature adults.
Why do you consider it destructive to, “dilute the uniqueness of this type of relationship?” The relationship between married couples I personally feel is completely separate to the institution of marriage itself. So the relationship that is being diluted appears to be the heterosexual relationship. How does permitting gay marriage dilute the heterosexual relationship?
I’m sorry, I don’t understand the question. Changing the structure of marriage wouldn’t dilute every heterosexual relationship but rather the legal - and therefore social - uniqueness of the exclusive and permanent union of one man and one woman. But again, I think I misunderstand your question.