Why I believe many Gays turn away from the Church.

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And that is your prerogative yet if you stopped for a second and thought about it you would realize that if I hated you I wouldn’t have bothered wasting my time telling you that you were doing something wrong that could put you in Hell. Think of it like this. Lets say I’m about to cross a rope bridge over a ravine that to all appearances looks like its in good shape. However you 100% believe the bridge is on the verge of breaking. What would the loving thing be for you to do in that case? Let me walk over the bridge to what you are convinced is almost certain death without saying anything, or warn me you believe the bridge is about to break? If you speak up and tell me not to walk over the bridge does that make you a hater of people that cross bridges?
Except no one wants to hear your opinions on what will send them to hell. Because that is all it is, an opinion. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said “you know, I think you are going to hell for going to Catholic Church…I don’t hate you, I just hate the sin of you going to Catholic Church. I am worried for your soul.” How would you view that person?
 
if you are inerested in those aspects of the Catholic faith i recommend Fr Spitzer and those at the magis institute
there are quite a few others besides these people but in my opinion they do the best job of explaining those aspects of authorative chrch teaching and discipline and how they relate to modern cosmology.

Shalom
God Bless you on your journey 😃
You mean not all “cosmologists” are “atheists?” Roman Catholics can be cosmologists and astrophysicists and exobiologists etc. too? Next you’ll be telling us that the Big Bang theory was developed by a Catholic!:eek:
 
Except no one wants to hear your opinions on what will send them to hell. Because that is all it is, an opinion. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said “you know, I think you are going to hell for going to Catholic Church…I don’t hate you, I just hate the sin of you going to Catholic Church. I am worried for your soul.” How would you view that person?
I don’t randomly go up to people and tell them how they should do things. If someone brings it up in a conversation or asks my opinion I state the Truth as I know it. I also have no qualms placing Church teaching into public discourse where it can be presented along with all the other philosophies out there. To do anything less would be to ignore the golden rule. And yes I would want others to do the same. This criticism is somewhat of a joke coming from you considering you have had no qualms in giving your opinions all over these forums.
 
Okay, I will get right to the point, I have read and seen a number of discussions about gays ( and I actually mean the whole GLBT community I suppose) on the net. Now, let’s take an example of someone we all probably know of, Dan Savage, Gay and an Atheist.

See, this is the thing, so often we may encounter a person and so often it comes to “I’m gay and I’m an Atheist”. This sort of bothers me. To me, it seems a number of homosexuals may reject the Bible or the Church because it seems they see the Bible and the Church in general rejecting their lifestyle.
Many homosexuals reject the Church because they are unwilling to give up their “lifestyle”. In other words, they value their sexual gratification more highly then love of God!
 
you mean not all “cosmologists” are “atheists?” roman catholics can be cosmologists and astrophysicists and exobiologists etc. Too? Next you’ll be telling us that the big bang theory was developed by a catholic!:eek:
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Many homosexuals reject the Church because they are unwilling to give up their “lifestyle”. In other words, they value their sexual gratification more highly then love of God!
Exactly! And the OP even put it correctly- homosexuals turn away from the Church, not the other way around!
 
Many homosexuals reject the Church because they are unwilling to give up their “lifestyle”. In other words, they value their sexual gratification more highly then love of God!
Maybe some of them do this but I have a feeling a lot of them just reject that God would disapprove of their love. They just believe that the Church is wrong on the issue and that God either does not exist, or does not hate homosexuality.
 
Maybe some of them do this but I have a feeling a lot of them just reject that God would disapprove of their love.
God could never disapprove of friendship. The disapproval, as enunciated in Scripture and as evident in the order of creation, is the sexualizing of a relationship which belongs to a category of a non-sexual friendship.

To have the highest and deepest form of love for another human being of either gender does not require sexualizing that love, but rather requires self-sacrifice and “disinterested” (in one’s own benefit) love.

Love is not sex, nor does sex in non-unitive relationships (which all homosexual relationships are) make those relationships suddenly unitive, or like heterosexual married relationships.
They just believe that the Church is wrong on the issue and that God either does not exist, or does not hate homosexuality.
God does not “hate.” God is not capable of “hate” in the way we understand that word. It is simply that activity of any kind (murder, calumny, etc.) which is incompatible with God keeps the person outside of full relationship with God. God never stops loving us as individuals, as His love is pure and centered on us, not Him. When we choose to behave in such a manner which keeps us outside of intimacy with God, we are the ones rejecting or “hating,” not Him.
 
What I have to add to the discussion is that I had a gay friend about 18 years ago (lost touch around that time) and he revealed to me that a priest sat him down and lectured him about being a terrible person and that he was going to hell, etc, etc and this had an impact on him to fear the Catholic Church and to avoid the Catholic Faith from that point on. Maybe the priest could have been more tactful in addressing this soul. I’m not sure, but to hear him describe it, and this happened when he was a boy and not a man, I could see the profound impact it had on him, effectively driving him away from the Church.

I certainly don’t have answers to this issue, but the above approach seems wrong to me.

God Bless,
Bill
 
Maybe some of them do this but I have a feeling a lot of them just reject that God would disapprove of their love. They just believe that the Church is wrong on the issue and that God either does not exist, or does not hate homosexuality.
that God would disapprove of their love.

From lifeteen:

No, that’s not what I’m saying. The Church says they can’t love each other as a man and woman united in Marriage can love each other. That does not mean they can’t have a deep friendship-type love.

True love means to will the good of the beloved.

What is the good of the beloved? It is to always act with our ultimate end in mind — eternal happiness in heaven. We have to look out for each other’s souls since we are all brothers and sisters.

Both heterosexual and homosexual people are called to live a life of virtue, a life of chastity, because we’re all called to be saints. Contrary to what many believe, the highest expression of love for someone is not to have sex with them (CCC 2359).

In a document from the Catholic Bishops about homosexuality, they say:

“It would not be wise for persons with a homosexual inclination to seek friendship exclusively among persons with the same inclination. They should seek to form stable friendships among both homosexuals and heterosexuals . . . A homosexual person can have an abiding relationship with another homosexual without genital sexual expression. Indeed the deeper need of any human is for friendship rather than genital expression.”

You see, sex is supposed to mirror Christ’s love for us and be free, faithful, fruitful, and total — this is only possible in the Sacrament of Marriage. When the procreative side of sex is removed — like it is in homosexual sex — it has become reduced to pleasure and the couple is only using each other.

Is love merely use? No!

If a person with same-sex attraction acts upon their desire with a partner it’s not a true expression of love because it’s not caring for the other person’s soul. Our sexuality makes sense in light of the opposite sex. Adam needed Eve in order to “be fertile and multiply” (Genesis 1:28).

Someone who has same-sex attraction can absolutely love others, but that does not have to be through sexual expression.
 
Maybe. But I feel that, in such a situation, someone would become a deist unless they truly didn’t believe in God.
 
Except no one wants to hear your opinions on what will send them to hell. Because that is all it is, an opinion. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said “you know, I think you are going to hell for going to Catholic Church…I don’t hate you, I just hate the sin of you going to Catholic Church. I am worried for your soul.” How would you view that person?
This has happened to me many times. (I used to live in Kansas City where it happened on almost a weekly basis.) I generally took the attitude of “I disagree with your conclusion but I appreciate your concern.” In the instances where the person was someone I actually knew, I would explain why I believed what I did. Recently, most of the people who’ve said things like this to me have been people I with whom I was well-aquainted and who I knew had a legitimate (albeit misguided) concern for my soul. So, no, I never thought they hated me and I never viewed them as a horrible person.
 
Many homosexuals reject the Church because they are unwilling to give up their “lifestyle”. In other words, they value their sexual gratification more highly then love of God!
Not only homosexuals. This statement describes an overwhelming percentage of our society in general. It has gotten to the extent that alarming numbers of seemily normal people put sexual gratification ahead of their faith, their morals, their own personal safety, their emotional well being, their reputation, their other relationships, the well-being of their children, and their own self-worth.
 
that God would disapprove of their love.

From lifeteen:

No, that’s not what I’m saying. The Church says they can’t love each other as a man and woman united in Marriage can love each other. That does not mean they can’t have a deep friendship-type love.

True love means to will the good of the beloved.

What is the good of the beloved? It is to always act with our ultimate end in mind — eternal happiness in heaven. We have to look out for each other’s souls since we are all brothers and sisters.

Both heterosexual and homosexual people are called to live a life of virtue, a life of chastity, because we’re all called to be saints. Contrary to what many believe, the highest expression of love for someone is not to have sex with them (CCC 2359).

In a document from the Catholic Bishops about homosexuality, they say:

“It would not be wise for persons with a homosexual inclination to seek friendship exclusively among persons with the same inclination. They should seek to form stable friendships among both homosexuals and heterosexuals . . . A homosexual person can have an abiding relationship with another homosexual without genital sexual expression. Indeed the deeper need of any human is for friendship rather than genital expression.”

You see, sex is supposed to mirror Christ’s love for us and be free, faithful, fruitful, and total — this is only possible in the Sacrament of Marriage. When the procreative side of sex is removed — like it is in homosexual sex — it has become reduced to pleasure and the couple is only using each other.

Is love merely use? No!

If a person with same-sex attraction acts upon their desire with a partner it’s not a true expression of love because it’s not caring for the other person’s soul. Our sexuality makes sense in light of the opposite sex. Adam needed Eve in order to “be fertile and multiply” (Genesis 1:28).

Someone who has same-sex attraction can absolutely love others, but that does not have to be through sexual expression.
Good post.

There seems to be a deal of hostility and/or resentment that some Gays have towards the Church (meaning Church in general).

startribune.com/local/west/171335631.html

Here is a news stories and I have seen similar ones in the past of someone who went on a bit of a vandalism spree against an assortment of Churches.

It just seems we are at an impasse in society on this issue.

I would post this story in the news section but it seems to minor of a story really.

And to clarify the story, Minnesota votes on maintaining the traditional or to my thinking I would say understood definition of marriage this November, that being that marriage is between 1 man and 1 woman.

Note, the accused person did his acts against basically Churches in general, various denominations, not all of these Churches are say for the Marriage Amendment (Marriage defined as being between 1 man and 1 woman).

And I’m sorry for this young man and I hope this situation is properly remedied.
 
If I may throw my two cents in here… I think the gays turn away from the Church because they don’t want to hear that their ‘lifestyle’ is wrong. In fact, many church-hop until they get what they want to hear. It’s typical human nature, although most of us can handle criticism and being told unpleasant truths. Nobody likes to be wrong.

I also don’t think God, Jesus, the Church, the Pope, other clergy, etc… HATE gays. Gays LOVE to throw the word “hate” around like monkeys flinging you-know-what, but ‘hate’ is a strong word. I think all of the above DISAPPROVE of the behavior, rather than HATE the person. Hate is NOT in line with the most fundamental Christian teachings. Most of them don’t seem to get that…

Rather than try to change their behavior, when gays don’t get approval, they just take their ball to another playground, no matter the spiritual consequences… usually making a scene and crying about how they’re hated and persecuted by the Church as they leave.
 
If I may throw my two cents in here… I think the gays turn away from the Church because they don’t want to hear that their ‘lifestyle’ is wrong. In fact, many church-hop until they get what they want to hear. It’s typical human nature, although most of us can handle criticism and being told unpleasant truths. Nobody likes to be wrong.

I also don’t think God, Jesus, the Church, the Pope, other clergy, etc… HATE gays. Gays LOVE to throw the word “hate” around like monkeys flinging you-know-what, but ‘hate’ is a strong word. I think all of the above DISAPPROVE of the behavior, rather than HATE the person. Hate is NOT in line with the most fundamental Christian teachings. Most of them don’t seem to get that…

Rather than try to change their behavior, when gays don’t get approval, they just take their ball to another playground, no matter the spiritual consequences… usually making a scene and crying about how they’re hated and persecuted by the Church as they leave.
You know what, I do think a lot of Christians and Catholics hate gays. I don’t know how many times I have read that gays pushing for marriage are selfish and are going to be the cause of the downfall of society. If you think someone is causing the downfall of society, isn’t it only logical to hate them?

In some time the church will stop talking about gay marriage just as divorce is not talked about. I wonder how many people would leave the church if priests started preaching about how anyone that is divorced needs to stay abstinent or they are committing adultery. The church might not change their stance on gay marriage but they will certainly keep it hush hush in the future.
 
You know what, I do think a lot of Christians and Catholics hate gays. I don’t know how many times I have read that gays pushing for marriage are selfish and are going to be the cause of the downfall of society. If you think someone is causing the downfall of society, isn’t it only logical to hate them?

In some time the church will stop talking about gay marriage just as divorce is not talked about. I wonder how many people would leave the church if priests started preaching about how anyone that is divorced needs to stay abstinent or they are committing adultery. The church might not change their stance on gay marriage but they will certainly keep it hush hush in the future.
Here’s the thing. As Catholics and Christians, we have to strive to imitate Christ in every aspect of our lives. That means we show Christ’s love to all of His children and all of our neighbors (who, are everyone on this earth.) Having a same-sex attraction doesn’t cancel out the fact that the person is still a child of God of whom we are called to show God’s love to.

The issue of Homosexual marriage is a big issue in society. Divorce is a big issue in society. The Church’s stance on divorce is that the couple must get an annulment before they begin a new relationship. This is because, without the annulment, they are still sacramently married in the eys of the Church.

The Church will not change her stance on the issue of homosexual “marriages” and here is why: God created the beautiful sacrament of mariage the way it is: between a man and a woman. And it is not the duty of the creation to change the way the Creator made things.

Sex has two reasons within marriage: bonding and procreation. When you take away the bonding aspect - through abuse or rape as an example - you vioalte a person. Likewise, when you take away the procreation aspect - through contraception, unnatural sterilizations and homosexual unions - you violate a person and the natural aspects of sex the way God intended it.

The late Archbishop Fulton Sheen once said, “There are not even 100 people in this country who hate the Catholic Church, but there are millions who hate what they think the Catholic Church to be.”

The Church has the amazing and beautiful wisdom backed by two-thousand years of Church tradition, divine revelation and scripture. Who am I to say that I am smarter than the Church?
 
Here’s the thing. As Catholics and Christians, we have to strive to imitate Christ in every aspect of our lives. That means we show Christ’s love to all of His children and all of our neighbors (who, are everyone on this earth.) Having a same-sex attraction doesn’t cancel out the fact that the person is still a child of God of whom we are called to show God’s love to.

The issue of Homosexual marriage is a big issue in society. Divorce is a big issue in society. The Church’s stance on divorce is that the couple must get an annulment before they begin a new relationship. This is because, without the annulment, they are still sacramently married in the eys of the Church.

The Church will not change her stance on the issue of homosexual “marriages” and here is why: God created the beautiful sacrament of mariage the way it is: between a man and a woman. And it is not the duty of the creation to change the way the Creator made things.

Sex has two reasons within marriage: bonding and procreation. When you take away the bonding aspect - through abuse or rape as an example - you vioalte a person. Likewise, when you take away the procreation aspect - through contraception, unnatural sterilizations and homosexual unions - you violate a person and the natural aspects of sex the way God intended it.

The late Archbishop Fulton Sheen once said, “There are not even 100 people in this country who hate the Catholic Church, but there are millions who hate what they think the Catholic Church to be.”

The Church has the amazing and beautiful wisdom backed by two-thousand years of Church tradition, divine revelation and scripture. Who am I to say that I am smarter than the Church?
As I said, the church will not officially change its stance on gay marriage BUT it won’t be talked about like it is today. In 25 years the pope will not say anything about gay marriage publicly because it will be so accepted in society, like divorce and remarriage, that it would alienate so many followers by preaching about it. Technically gay marriage is the same sin as divorce and remarriage (fornication outside of marriage)…and you could even argue that divorce and remarriage is worse because it is also adultery. But you don’t hear priests calling people that are divorced and remarried adulterers, do you?

Gay marriage is coming and will soon only be opposed by the most radical of religious folks and people that just hate gays for reason or another.
 
You know what, I do think a lot of Christians and Catholics hate gays. I don’t know how many times I have read that gays pushing for marriage are selfish and are going to be the cause of the downfall of society. If you think someone is causing the downfall of society, isn’t it only logical to hate them?

In some time the church will stop talking about gay marriage just as divorce is not talked about. I wonder how many people would leave the church if priests started preaching about how anyone that is divorced needs to stay abstinent or they are committing adultery. The church might not change their stance on gay marriage but they will certainly keep it hush hush in the future.
I agree, gay marriage is the hot topic right now, just like divorce was years ago. Women were told by their Priests and fellow Catholics that they had to stay with physically abusive husbands rather than consider the sinful act of divorce. Divorce was going to destroy society and the institution of marriage. Priests DID preach about divorced people staying abstinent or they were committing adultery. Divorced people were shunned by the good married Catholics in the parish and community. I had a friend in grammar school whose parents divorced and it was horrible how the family was treated.
 
Not only homosexuals. This statement describes an overwhelming percentage of our society in general. It has gotten to the extent that alarming numbers of seemily normal people put sexual gratification ahead of their faith, their morals, their own personal safety, their emotional well being, their reputation, their other relationships, the well-being of their children, and their own self-worth.
This behavior will start to be reflected in studies. One was done at UT-Austin, and another broader study was done at the U of Minnesota-TC.

It’s pretty much the same general pattern as co-habitation. In the late 60s and early 70s, cohabitating couples said it was “no big deal” but studies done in the 80s and 90s clearly show otherwise.

In fact, those folks are less likely to marry or to have a lasting marriage.
 
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