Why Muslims...why so strict??

[bosnian_muslim]

lol, you should see how she looks at me. Its like when I walk by, she stares until I look at her and smile at her. And this goes on like everyday, oh and well today, beside her name the boss always makes a mistake because he writes Herr (mister) instead of Frau (Ms.) Usually she corrects it for herself, but today I did it for her. Man, when she saw me she looked at me like I gave her flowers or something. I also had a small talk with her today.

I do have a feeling that she is nonreligious, considering how she dresses and the fact how close she is with her white German friend.

It looks like this Bosnian Catholic needs to pull some tricks out of his sleeve

Its either tomorrow or never

LET`S DO THIS!!!

As i said,if she is nonreligous she may go for that…but nothing else,so dont tthink there will be something,i mean sure there can but the chance is like 0,01%

so good luck,bosnian catholic(there are bosnian catholics.?? wow)

 

[jakasaki]

But why God put me in this situation Pam?? I was ready to leave Germany and find myself a Catholic Dominican back in the states

Oh well, we´ll see how tomorrow it´ll will work out. I Need to put this agony to an end.

Ben, do as you planned to do and come to the states. Let this woman be!

I would like to tell you in all good faith… “trust me Ben”… Let his woman go.

Close your eyes, follow your plan to leave Germany and don’t look back.

I know you are young, so I hope you will do the right thing.

But why God put me in this situation Pam??

Ben, my dear brother in Christ, … How do you know God put you in this situation???

Surely you don’t know, do you?

You do know how s…a…t…a…n… loves to deceive us and take us away from what is right.

Peace and may God show you the way Ben. Never lose faith over a woman my dear friend.

As always, best regards to you,
Pam

 

[bosnian_muslim]

and it will not be funny if her brothers find out about you…then you will wish you left Germany long time ago

morroco people are really strict about those kind of things,a muslim girl with a christian is the worst thing…my friend had problems with her family for years because her boyfriend(now husband) was a catholic from Chile,and now he is a muslim but they still dont like him

 

[dzheremi]

But why God put me in this situation Pam?? I was ready to leave Germany and find myself a Catholic Dominican back in the states

Oh well, we´ll see how tomorrow it´ll will work out. I Need to put this agony to an end.

I seriously mean this in the most non-accusatory way I can phrase it, but I gotta ask, with all due respect to what you must be feeling…

Why does it have to be God putting you in this situation? Why can’t it just be hormones or adrenaline or something like that?

By all means straighten things out with this girl if you feel that’s something you need to do, but I would follow what most people (Catholic, Orthodox, Muslim, Atheist men and women) in this thread have said and let her go. God will lead you to a good Christian woman, no matter what you might feel about this Muslim woman right now.

 

[jakasaki]

Originally Posted by bosnian_muslim
and it will not be funny if her brothers find out about you…then you will wish you left Germany long time ago

morroco people are really strict about those kind of things,a muslim girl with a christian is the worst thing…my friend had problems with her family for years because her boyfriend(now husband) was a catholic from Chile,and now he is a muslim but they still dont like him

What… what… what… J_Carnelian do you mean by this…

and it will not be funny if her brothers find out about you…then you will wish you left Germany long time ago

Perhaps it was this quote from above??!!!

a muslim girl with a christian is the worst thing…

Or perhaps it was this quote from above…!!!

Surely you know islam means peace and there is no “threats”… !!!

Sarc/Sarc/Sarc…

To OP:

Benjamin packs your bags.

 

[bosnian_muslim]

that was just an honest answer

 

[Eucharisted]

uhm…actually this is the first time I encountered something like this before.

Well to be honest, I don´t even know 100 percent if she is Muslim, I know shes from Morocco and like her best friend is this white German girl.

Well, it must have been another poster than. My bad.

 

[dolphinlove]

that was just an honest answer

so you are just confirming its ok for the brothers/father/uncle etc to kill the daughter or the boyfriend for falling in love…
yes, that sounds very islamic to me

 

[ferdie]

But why God put me in this situation Pam?? I was ready to leave Germany and find myself a Catholic Dominican back in the states

Oh well, we´ll see how tomorrow it´ll will work out. I Need to put this agony to an end.

Since you put it that way, then maybe God is calling you to witness to this girl?

 

[famdigy]

I do have a feeling that she is nonreligious, considering how she dresses and the fact how close she is with her white German friend.

Hi Ben,

Marriage between two people who don’t follow the same religion creates problems in the day-to-day life of the couple because no aspect of our life is outside the jurisdiction of the Islamic shari’ah. Consequently restriction in marriage based on religious differences is quite natural. But this is irrelevant if the girl you like is non-religious.

However, keep in mind that just because she doesn’t keep up with the dress code doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t believe in the values.

 

[Sam_777]

Why can´t Muslims females marry non-Muslims?!?!?!

Because Allah said so…, a Muslim woman can not marry non-Muslim man per (Quran 2:221), but a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or a Christian woman per (Quran 5:5).

so good luck,bosnian catholic(there are bosnian catholics.?? wow)

Don’t laugh, maybe one day you would become Bosnian Catholic woman…

However, keep in mind that just because she doesn’t keep up with the dress code doesn’t necessarily mean she doesn’t believe in the values.

 

[Benjamin8o8]

According to the Qur’an, the husband is the head of the household and his wife should obey him. Allah does not put the Muslim woman in a position that a non-Muslim becomes her head in her own private life. Allah has spared her to suffer from being under the authority of a non-Muslim husband.

Actually I would treat a wife real good, regardless of what she believes in. Though I do like pork…

 

[Benjamin8o8]

As i said,if she is nonreligous she may go for that…but nothing else,so dont tthink there will be something,i mean sure there can but the chance is like 0,01%

so good luck,bosnian catholic(there are bosnian catholics.?? wow)

Yeah, well she doesn´t appear as religious. I think last Friday I think she attended a party as well. And in party’s you either dance or drink, so I guess shes pretty comfortable with non-Muslims (like a lot of Muslims are in Germany)

Lets hope you´re wrong so the chances might sum up to 99%

And yes there are Bosnian Catholics, and there is Bosnian Orthodox, I prefer myself Croatian though because that´s where I was born before the war broke out. Boy the Yugoslavian war made everything confusing.

 

[Benjamin8o8]

Ben, do as you planned to do and come to the states. Let this woman be!

I would like to tell you in all good faith… “trust me Ben”… Let his woman go.

Close your eyes, follow your plan to leave Germany and don’t look back.

I know you are young, so I hope you will do the right thing.

Well I am 19, and even though my parrents don´t want me to go, I decided to go back because I was fed up with a lot of things here in Germany. My main motive for leaving was due to the lack of a future for me here. But like I said Pam, I was ready to go, I was so excited I got the job, but there she was. I don´t know how I can let go just like that. Well either way, today I´m going to see whats good with her.

Ben, my dear brother in Christ, … How do you know God put you in this situation???

Surely you don’t know, do you?

You do know how s…a…t…a…n… loves to deceive us and take us away from what is right.

Peace and may God show you the way Ben. Never lose faith over a woman my dear friend.

As always, best regards to you,
Pam

Well even though you might be right, I´m not sure. I just know I didn´t doubt myself at all for leaving but once she came in the room, we connected.

And I´ll try not to loose faith, but Pam…all this is quite confusing for me.

 

[Benjamin8o8]

and it will not be funny if her brothers find out about you…then you will wish you left Germany long time ago

morroco people are really strict about those kind of things,a muslim girl with a christian is the worst thing…my friend had problems with her family for years because her boyfriend(now husband) was a catholic from Chile,and now he is a muslim but they still dont like him

I´m not scared of Muslims bosnian girl. Come on now, I can´t even imagine anything like that happening. I am ust take things slow for now, I don´t want to get ahead of myself. Because I do that a lot.

 

[Benjamin8o8]

I seriously mean this in the most non-accusatory way I can phrase it, but I gotta ask, with all due respect to what you must be feeling…

Why does it have to be God putting you in this situation? Why can’t it just be hormones or adrenaline or something like that?

By all means straighten things out with this girl if you feel that’s something you need to do, but I would follow what most people (Catholic, Orthodox, Muslim, Atheist men and women) in this thread have said and let her go. God will lead you to a good Christian woman, no matter what you might feel about this Muslim woman right now.

hey Dzheremi,

good questions. Once you mentioned adrenaline (lol) that is exactly what I am facing right now. Geesh, my heart just keeps beating and I´m kinda nervous too. But when I said why did God put me in this situation because I just found it funny how one day I said too myself “in order for me to stay here is if I find a proper trade school and fall in love” I was half joking when I said that because that´s so unlikely to happen and now look at me. Crazy.

 

[Benjamin8o8]

lol, thanks for joining jharek.

You did come up in my mind when I started this thread because I do remember some of your previous posts where you mentioned you had a few Muslims as girlfriends.

lol, I remember how I used to think how it would turn out if I ever become affiliated with a Muslim girl…

be careful for what you wish for/think about

 

[Benjamin8o8]

Because Allah said so…, a Muslim woman can not marry non-Muslim man per (Quran 2:221), but a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or a Christian woman per (Quran 5:5).

CORRECTION: Because mohammad said Allah said so…

 

[bosnian_muslim]

i dont think she is gonna like your attitute towards islam,you will gonna have to change

 

[famdigy]

Yeah Ben,
I don’t think she will appreciate that sort of attitude, especially her parents if you plan to have good relations with them in the future.