This phrase has always creeped me out too, before I understood it and experienced it for myself. If you read through the Psalms and Proverbs and many other books of the bible and you can’t see how CRAZY in love with us Jesus is, then you won’t understand that term.
It is entirely possible to hold Him as King, and friend. Did you not know that the scripture tells us Jesus is a “________” of sinners?
Answer? “Friend”
Friend, loosely defined could be a buddy. But, if you’re in relationship and fellowship wiht Christ through a life of worship, bible study, prayer and meditation and many other spiritual disciplines, you know how possible it is for our Almighty King of Kings and Lord of Lords to also love us enough to be our ‘buddy.’
But, I believe you reject the idea because many people ARE finding true fellowship with Christ in a different manner than which you are accustomed to.
Then you’d have to concede a small portion of the ongoing debate.