Generally speaking, people in the Southern United States, where I live, are rather hedonistic (for lack of a better word) where food is concerned — the more, the tastier, the heartier, the better (and all the public health issues that go with this). Aside from Louisiana, and nowadays, the Charlotte and Raleigh metropolitan areas in North Carolina (which are becoming basically Northern enclaves due to in-migration), Southern culture is not a Catholic culture. Penance is an unknown concept. Abstaining from any sort of food would only be understood in a health context. (Not sure how this impacts Jews who keep kosher.) You have people for whom you might be the only practicing Catholic they’ve ever known — one Baptist co-worker of mine, raised in a very insular environment, once struggled to ask me about the concept of nuns, she referred to them as “those women”, couldn’t articulate what she was talking about.HomeschoolDad:
I get what you mean, I myself fast every Wednesday and Friday from meat (lots of pasta, pizza and seafood), it usually only comes up in conversation when going out to eat with others on either Wednesday or Friday…I’'m not sure I’ve ever heard anybody say those exact words, but at least in my part of the country, people devour meat — barbecue, sausage, fried chicken, ham, bacon — and if you served a meal without it, you’d get very funny looks. Except during Lent, Friday abstinence is unknown. Non-Catholics just can’t grasp it. And for one such as me, who adheres to the default practice of abstinence on all Fridays (not just Lent), no one knows quite what to make of it — it is not something I discuss, but if I do have to tell anyone, Catholic or non-Catholic, they find it very strange.
…I find that most people (not all) are familiar with Friday fasting, but I’ve gotten some strange looks for Wednesday fasting.
Oh… total abstinence from all animal products. An hour spent in chapel kneeling before the exposed Blessed Sacrament, reciting 15 decades of the rosary. Things like that. When reflecting on the enormity of my sins, I have to marvel at what a merciful Lord we have, to allow His Church to prescribe such token penances as we have. It is far easier to expiate our sins in this life, rather than leave them unexpiated and have to suffer for them in purgatory.HomeschoolDad:
That’s fine. I’m not sure what you think the penance is supposed to be?No doubt it is theologically significant and symbolic. But I find Friday abstinence, taken all by itself, to be more of a minor inconvenience than anything else.
I will confess that I would be the first to be “slack” in the matter of the penance we actually do, versus the penance we should be doing.