Wife asked why I didn't receive Communion

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Almost Everytime I go to confession and make my examination if conscious, I come up with something I am ashamed to tell the priest. If I have to apologize to someone, there is always shame. How is this wrong?
What the heck does pride and shame have to do with each other? You have some really strange ideas.
 
If you tell Jesus, then shame did not overcome you, and you gave your shame to Him.
 
My wife asked me this once. I told her I wasn’t spiritually prepared and it was wrong to take it without being properly prepared. I didn’t need to go into further detail as she isn’t my priest or God. She understood and she is Baptist.
 
rondirect said:
My wife is my soul mate
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Yet, folks keep bring in these lovely, romantic ideas. That is a sweet thing to say to your wife, however, when it comes down to brass tacks the idea of a human “soul mate” is contrary to Catholic doctrine.

Your wife is your spouse in this life. You have individual souls.
 
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Sometimes I don’t receive because I ate or drank something on the way to Mass.
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Ummmm, you are not aware of the Eucharistic Fast? Yes, (unless we have medication we must take with food, an illness like diabetes, etc.) we must fast from all food and drink (except water) for one hour before we receive. Breaking that fast is a grave sin.
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She told me these were examples that were NOT sin, but reasons why someone would refrain from Eucharist.
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From the pressing tone of your former posts, I am guessing that she meant “reasons that are not sins of adultery, masturbation, lust”. You seem to keep insisting that every spouse who sins is sinning in a sexual way.

If this has been a problem for someone you love, for a friend, for a family member, I understand why it is easy to project that hurt onto everyone else. Thing is, every situation is not that situation. Every person is not the person who hurt the person you know.
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This thread just gave me a brilliant solution to any of you who are married to someone who trusts you so much they want you to feel compelled to tell them about their sins.
Next time you unfortunately commit a serious sin, and are ashamed to tell your spouse, on Sunday morning accidentally drink a cup.of coffee a few minutes too late for the fast. Then, when you are interrogated on the way home, you can honestly say you drank coffee too late.

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Wow 287 opinions. On what might be true or maybe the reason for not receiving the communion because of might have a sin .
Or how a relationship is between a man and his wife or soul mate.
That says a lot!
 
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You know an accidental break of the fast does not mean you have to refrain?
 
Sorry you guys misunderstand an act of charity for “interrogation”.

Really quite sad for Catholics to think this way.
 
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Its a bit of thread drift, but I disagree with you on this also.
Can. 919 §1. A person who is to receive the Most Holy Eucharist is to abstain for at least one hour before holy communion from any food and drink, except for only water and medicine.
§2. A priest who celebrates the Most Holy Eucharist two or three times on the same day can take something before the second or third celebration even if there is less than one hour between them.
§3. The elderly, the infirm, and those who care for them can receive the Most Holy Eucharist even if they have eaten something within the preceding hour.
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I see nothing in the law that says if I accidently eat or drink a little late, its ok to ignore the requirement. I am not legalistic on the matter, but if I happen look at my watch and realize it has not been an hour, I abstain. It so happens, that this occurred this morning. We went to 7:30 mass, which is unusual, so that we could watch Wimbedon and the World Cup Final (I am sure you have a problem with arranging mass around sporting events also 🙂 ). I was drinking my coffee and realized it was 7:15 and decided I needed to quit, but was not concerned. Low and behold when we were going to communion it was only 8:10. Yes it was accidental. If I had not looked at my watch until afterwards, I would not have worried I had sinned, as it was an accident. But since I knew it was not an hour, how can I go? The law is quite clear.

Oh, BTW, no one in my family asked me why I did not go. I suppose no one cares about my soul 🙂
 
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Oh, BTW, no one in my family asked me why I did not go. I suppose no one cares about my soul 🙂
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We would have to believe that one must always ask when seeing anyone in the whole family refraining. I certainly don’t think they are obligated to ask.

This is a matter of the ability for the act to be done in good faith, from a spouse. And how the Spirit compels the one being asked to honor the spouse.
 
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You are saying that a person can ask his spouse question, the answer to which he has no right to know, and the Holy Spirit compels the spouse to answer? Which would imply there is a further sin in declining to answer?
 
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You are saying that a person can ask his spouse question, the answer to which he has no right to know,
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It is the last part that begs the question, is it something that the spouse has a right to know? Should Christians try to deceive God? Yet he relationship between husband and wife is that of Christ and His Church. I only have my own opinion, but I would think anyone who does not understand this, and who insists on such rights, does not understand the Sacrament of Matrimony and would be better served remaining single.
 
I do not believe a person has a general right to know his spouse’s sins.
If you think they do, then you would agree that a priest should not be found by the seal of confession if he is talking sole to the penitent’s wife?
 
I’m not reading the entire thread anymore but this is important for you to be clear on because it’s church teaching:

It is not sinful to eat before Mass.

One is free to receive the Eucharist or not. IF one chooses to receive, one must fast for 1 hour (used to be much longer in the good old days but has since been relaxed). The 1 hour fast is required by church law if one chooses to receive communion.

The sin comes in when one does not keep the fast and then goes up anyway. If one abstains, there is no sin.

I hope this clears it up.
 
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If you think they do, then you would agree that a priest should not be found by the seal of confession if he is talking sole to the penitent’s wife?
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Of course I do not agree with that. It is an entirely separate issue. The seal of confession has nothing to do with this issue. There is no seal of “seeing someone not receive communion.”
 
Next j’me, just tell her respectfully that the reason you didn’t receive communion is none of her business.
 
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