Wife asked why I didn't receive Communion

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Does that matter?

I’m not sure if they married before his becoming Catholic.

Can a Catholic and a non Catholic be Sacrametally married?
 
rcwitness said:
Can a Catholic and a non Catholic be Sacrametally married?
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Yes, they can. They would simply need to get the appropriate dispensation from the bishop. So long as the non-Catholic had a trinitarian baptism it’s a sacramental marriage.

Whether the OP’s marriage has met these requirements is unknown. You are really far too quick to make judgements about things you could not possibly know the answers to.
 
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rcwitness said:
Can you give an example?
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Sure!
rcwitness said:
You are not Christ, but is He in You? Are you trying to allow Him to be your Lord?
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This in response to my telling you that my husband and I participate in the Sacraments, we apologize to each other when we do wrong, and we avoid near occasions of sin. And from this you conclude:
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You are admitting that it’s on account of not following Him that you refrain from confessing to one another.
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Say what?

Ignoring the possibility of vice is not how one grows in virtue. 🤷‍♀️
 
mrsdizzyd said:
Yes, they can. They would simply need to get the appropriate dispensation from the bishop. So long as the non-Catholic had a trinitarian baptism it’s a Sacramental marriage
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Well if that’s true, then they have the grace to know each other’s sins, forgive and strengthen one another.
 
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rcwitness said:
Well if that’s true, then they have the grace to know each other’s sins, forgive and strengthen one another.
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Not necessarily. If this were universally true, we wouldn’t even need private confession (or arguably, confession at all, because grace would mean we’d never sin again. Grace strengthens us, but it doesn’t mean we’ll never sin again.)
 
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Right. Not saying we wont sin again. But that we can ask and confess sins in good faith, and be strengthened.
 
But you can discuss wrongdoing and ask forgiveness without divulging the contents of sacramental confessions.
 
Well, depending on how it relates to harming the relationship between husband and wife, yes I agree. Sometimes, it would be an identical confession as in the Sacrament. Sometimes it would be much more general.
 
You all realize many sins “get into the business” of our spouse, Right?

It’s not so much of a “right” to know, but a granted privilege as Christian husband and wife.
 
Of course. Any man and woman where both are free to marry and validly baptized enter into a Sacramental marriage. If either is Catholic the additional req is that they marry with permission of the Church.

Nazarene wife, Baptist husband

Assemblies of God wife, Nazarene husband

Presbyterian wife, Catholic husband

Catholic wife, non Denom husband.

On and on and on.
 
No it’s not. She is being truthful and honest about herself, quite impressive in my opinion. You are being quite presumptuous.

Contrast that with yourself, who is adamant that he would ask everytime, yet does not know how he would respond if his wife declined to answer, yet hopes he would be gracious.

I’ll let others decide for themselves which approach is best, I know my opinion.
 
tafan2 said:
Contrast that with yourself, who is adamant that he would ask everytime, yet does not know how he would respond if his wife declined to answer, yet hopes he would be gracious.
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I’ve said nothing about “asking everytime”.

Yes, I hope I will be gracious for sure!! I have all the reason in heaven to be gracious if my wife ever opens her heart to helping me. God willing, that is my hopeful prayer.
 
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Before you said: “I am the one who has kept my arguments simple, concrete, and consistent.” Now this. And then, you wanted me to “quit misrepresenting my (your) point.” This is such a circular argument. No wonder I and some are confused with your posts.
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I will type slow so you can keep up 🙂
I was trying to clarify one simple statement I had made many times: A person does not have a general right to know his/her spouse’s sins.
That is simple, concrete, and consistent. Nothing circlular about it. Because of one other poster’s response, I had the idea the word general had been misinterpreted, so I tried to clear it up.
Didn’t know we had to keep score. 2 people disagreed; that must mean a lot!!
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I was insulted by another poster, I believe unintentionally, and so I tried to respond in a semi-humous way to diffuse the situation. Lets just move on.
Seriously? In 46 years of one marriage, I nor my wife never said those words to each other. Even calling the Sacrament of Marriage, “fraternal,” says a lot about where you are coming from. No, spouses help each other not by shutting them up, but by talking and extending help.
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First of all, the term “fraternal correction” is a common term in Catholic teaching. It is when one brother/sister in Christ, honestly and sincerely, corrects another’s behavior, typically when the other does not see that they are doing something wrong. If you think it is a sexist terminology, take it up with Catholic theologians who have used it for centuries.

Secondly, what does 46 years matter to you, yet you told another poster the number of years does not matter, it would be naïve to trust your spouse, just watch the news.

Thirdly, It certainly is not that unusual for my wife to correct me in simple and concise terms. Less often do I do so with her. But it is the best way to do it. Don’t make a big deal out of it, say it and move on. Oh, BTW, that is how at least one saint, St Jose Maria Escirva, recommended doing fraternal correction also.
 
But if she declines to answer, you don’t know how you will act. That was my point.
 
You really need to quit making assumptions about other people. There is no indication the OP is married outside the Church.
 
So what? I trust God’s grace to keep me persevering. When the Love of God is in you, you will see gain in suffering for righteousness.

Not that I always Do! I am a sinner. Trying to repent more than give in to sinfulness.
 
It’s wasn’t about them, but Church Teaching, I had forgotten.

If they received a dispensation, then no harm done, Right? They will see it as a mistake by me.

Sorry, if a marriage can be a valid Sacrament between a Catholic and nonCatholic Christian, that was my mistake.
 
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tafan2 said:
You really need to quit making assumptions about other people. There is no indication the OP is married outside the Church.
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Funny, how many in this thread are assuming the reason for not receiving is not into their spouses business.
 
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