Wife keeps feeding me meat in Lent

[CRV]

Some years ago, I too used to forget (due to a health issue) the days I didn’t eat meat (Wed/Fri/Sat), which caused an issue with my other family member as they’re allergic to fish/seafood - they used to suggest a meat dish and forgetting as I did I cooked it and ate it only remembering later or the next day even that I shouldn’t have eaten meat. So in the end, we each got our own meals.

And due to my memory problems I made the decision to cut out all meat (except once or twice a year), so only ate fish, which meant I no longer had to worry about forgetting to not eat meat on those days.

As an aside:- And my priest told me that as I don’t eat meat, then to abstain from “meat” on Ash Wednesday & Good Friday I should not have fish therefore I eat only vegetables and rice on these days. (Whilst I fulfilled the law of abstaining from meat on these days, my going without fish in lieu of meat, meant I was also fulfilling the spirit of the law in my own individual circumstance, and thus was joining in with the whole Church).

Perhaps the OP could also make Fridays ‘fish meals’ or as I think I read above - perhaps join his wife in vegetarian meals on Fridays.

 

[ioannes_pius]

Why does the word “obedient” not have any place?

 

[C.Ray]

At issue is not that I am incapable of feeding myself. I can. I have a freezer full of fish sticks which I stockpiled before Lent. No trouble there.

 

[ioannes_pius]

Are Canadians not bound to abstain on Fridays in Lent? I thought they were.

 

[TheLittleLady]

It is important, children obey your parents, Christians obey God, workers obey the boss, citizens obey the law.

Makes me remember an old song:

Trust and obey
For there is no other way
To be happy in Jesus
But to trust and obey

 

[ioannes_pius]

That’s what I thought.

 

[twf]

No. We can substitute another penance (as on other Fridays throughout the year). Ash Wednesday and Good Friday are mandatory of course.

 

[Neithan]

IDK, makes me thankful I’m “unequally yoked” to a “heathen” husband who’s content with mutual respect. Now I think I’ll go fix him a nice steak, just the way he likes.

Really? We’ll never win the culture back like this. The OP’s use of the word was dark comedy; but those who persist in rejecting the faith are tragic. Also I’ve never met a Catholic man who believed his wife was an extension of his will. Some might, but that’s their own personality flaw. And there are plenty of heathens who are into all kinds of weird power games.

 

[GospelOfMatthew]

Should be an equality and acting out of love and respect. Obedience implies servitude and inequality. Submissiveness. The vow of “love, cherish, obey” is optional in weddings. You may just say love and cherish, correct?

 

[TheLittleLady]

Except the issue was made that the OP needs to work on getting his wife to be more “obedient”,

Too tired to re-read 70+ posts, but, I think that was a comment from a poster trying to be provocative, I don’t recall our original poster using that term.

 

[GospelOfMatthew]

The comment made it sound like the wife should be “more obedient” like you train a dog to be “more obedient”. It is highly distasteful and has no place in a relationship

 

[powerandglory]

Yes, REALLY! I don’t treat my marriage as some sort of conquest, and who are you to decide that my husband is “tragic” simply because he’s not Catholic, nor seeking to be Catholic. Good grief!

 

[TheLittleLady]

My fiancée is also a bit of a heathen. But I handle the meals and she eats what I make. Maybe start doing the cooking.

Also work on getting your wife to be a little more obedient. Seems odd to me she continues to repeatedly ignore specific requests. Seems to be a lack of respect for your will.

@GospelOfMatthew @powerandglory

This word was not used by our original poster. Direct the complaints about using this word, as it should not be used, in reference to one’s spouse to @CCHcolonel

 

[powerandglory]

Yes, I know. I never said the OP said that, in fact I noted about halfway through the thread that the OP never said this was about obedience.

 

[kainosktisis]

That’s TERRIBLE!!!

And a stereotype…

Not all women are into flashy jewelry…

 

[ioannes_pius]

Submissiveness

…which, oddly enough, St. Paul admonishes wives to observe with respect to their husbands.

 

[ioannes_pius]

Huh. Out of curiosity, where did the CCCB say this?

 

[maryjk]

That calendar in the kitchen wall? Write LENT on the Fridays of Lent. Write “No Meat For Me” on meatless days, or easier, go meatless Friday all year long.

I used to do it for my son, now it is just habit.

On Ash Wednesday and Good Friday, I write, on the microwave above the stove. “No Meat, Day of Fast.”
And on Fridays, I used to write, “No Meat.” I don’t do that anymore because everyone, even my non-Catholic husband remembers and follows the rules of the Church.

 

[twf]

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Officially its encouraged year round, but we have the option to substitute other forms of penance on every Friday except Good Friday.

 

[Irishmom2]

Write No meat today on 2 pieces of paper. Put one on the fridge and one on the stove on Friday morning. Repeat every Friday throughout Lent. If your wife still make a meal with meat, she is doing it on purpose. If she does cook meat and you eat it, that is on you.