Wife No Longer Open to Marriage Act after Contraception Discussion

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Yes! It’s better to uphold Holy vows, than unlawful. And place our hope in a spouse converting to what is good.

I have hope our OP’s spouse is not opposed to the Catholic marriage she entered. After all, it’s not an easy path.
 
I’m saying we shouldn’t be judgmental of a spouse who had the rules of her marriage changed midstream. And the OP might want to consider a discussion with his priest.
 
Withholding the marriage debt is not a recommended way to uphold marriage vows. We give ourselves, not only when our spouse is perfect, but even when they are sinners.

I pray our OP has a talk with his priest.
 
It seems she’s willing to have a sex-free marriage; OP is the one who’s opposed.
 
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Withholding the marriage debt is not a recommended way to uphold marriage vows. We give ourselves, not only when our spouse is perfect, but even when they are sinners.
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It’s not the sin for me as much as i cannot get my head around how I wouldn’t be cooperating.
 
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You are neglecting that she entered a Catholic marriage, which does not support a sex free choice, unless both consent.
 
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Ummm, except for NFP. Which is the OP’s intentions.
 
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Ummm, except for NFP. Which is the OP’s intentions.
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NFP is abstinance (only at the fertile times, but it is still abstinance). Maybe if his wife takes time to become familiar with a method she will agree to relations when she is not fertile.
 
Yes! Agreed. NFP is definitely not “sex free”.
 
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She was also clearly unprepared—and there’s no indication she is Catholic. She’s made it clear she wouldn’t have entered into a Catholic marriage if she’d understood this part of Church teaching.
 
But we are to assume she has consented, but only needs to be clarified on what her husband, and the Church, is expressing.

He is not obligated to adhere to the rules of their contracepting practices prior to the Catholic marriage.
 
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Of course he is not. But there are going to be consequences, and his wife has made it clear that non-contraceptive sex is not on the table.
 
That is why the Holy See wrote the document for Confessors, to help explain the why.

Really, call the Family Life office at your Diocese if you are not comfortable speaking with your priest, they will have a Moral Theologian who can speak with you.
 
Yes, but seeking pleasure with a wife who is demanding contraception is a strange notion to expect of a sincere Catholic.

How can that be arousing?
 
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I didn’t say it was. But it is morally acceptable if she is the one contracepting and he’s voiced his objections. He needs to talk to his priest.
 
Its morally acceptable for him, but not for her!

So that’s a strange notion for a husband to take pleasure, while his wife is committing sin.
 
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