OK, you are both not getting the point. The Eucharist IS Jesus Christ, body blood soul and divinity, the SOURCE and the SUMMIT of all Christian life. Why? Because He is God, and God created us (source) and God made us because He wants us to be united to Him forever in heaven(summit) (whether we are or not depends upon how we respond to His grace). Therefore, there is NOT more to life than the Eucharist because the Eucharist is God and God keeps us in existence. Without God, we wouldn’t have life; we wouldn’t even be here. And perhaps that’s the problem when it comes to discussing “fellowship.” Do you want fellowship with mere human beings, or do you want fellowship with God? By entering into fellowship with God, you have fellowship with all the other human beings who also are in fellowship with God–that’s what communion is all about. And those who have said we need each other are absolutely correct. We are members of the one mystical Body of Christ. When one member suffers, we all suffer. When one member is honored, the whole Body is honored. But many people neither understand that, nor have experienced it. Whenever I’ve needed help, God has put people into my path, but maybe that’s because I put God first–before my children, before my husband, before my parents, etc., etc.
I agree with what you say.
However, I respectfully suggest that you are emphasizing the spiritual and disregarding the physical, and this is not correct Catholic thinking. The Catholic Church has always cared for the complete human being–not just our spiritual needs, but our physical needs. Mass is a wonderful demonstration of the melding of spiritual and physical–the “smells and bells” along with the architecture, appeal to all our senses, not just our inner souls.
Many Christians are simply not at a place yet where they can abandon all human interests, especially friendships, and be totally devoted to Jesus Alone.
They accept intellectually that Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament is the Alpha and the Omega, the Summit of all, and the Way, Truth, and the Life.
But they still wish they had a friend to have lunch with after Mass. And they wish that they could find that friend in the Church, in their own parish. But for many, their parish doesn’t seem to have a lot of opportunities to meet others and make friends. Mass is not that place for chatting and small talk and lunch invitations. But if not Mass, then when and where and what?
That’s what the OP is asking. And I think he/she has a legitimate question-why don’t Catholic parishes provide opportunities to meet others in the parish?
I see no sin at all in that human longing for human companionship. I’m not sure if I’m misinterpreting you, because I am getting the impression that you believe that such longing is wrong and insulting to the Lord Jesus. If I am wrong, please tell me.
**I think it is very appropriate for a parish
in this day and age, 2010, to work to provide social settings and opportunities for parishioners to meet each other and make friends. **
In the past, as recently as the 1950s and 60s, it wasn’t necessary, because many parishioners lived in the same neighborhoods, went to the same parish schools, worked in the same factories and offices, attended the same block BBQs and Tupperware parties, bowled on the same leagues, sat on the porches and watched while all their children played block baseball together, and eventually, attended each other’s funerals.
But in this day and age, 2010, things aren’t like that.
Many Catholics choose to send their children to public schools, secular private schools, even Protestant schools, and many homeschool. People don’t work in a few huge factories anymore–many work from home and are completely isolated from their parishioners for most of the week. And most of us have never even had a block BBQ in our neighborhood, and if we did, most of the people attend other churches, not our parish.
I think that many local parishes need to accept that the days of the neighborhood parish are gone in most cities, and they need to consider the possibility of adding some opportunities for fellowship. I don’t think “Coffee and Donuts” is enough, especially when many parishioners are trying to avoid eating for at least 15 minutes after receiving the Lord in Holy Communion, and considering that for many of us, donuts, sadly, are off our diets, and so it coffee.
Another thing that has changed in the last few decades is the large number of converts in the Catholic Church who have come out of the evangelical Protestant traditions, where there is a very different mechanism in place for meeting people, making friends, and being involved socially outside the worship services.
**I’m NOT saying that the Catholic Church needs to become “more Protestant.” But what I’m saying is that Catholic parishes need to be aware that there are many converts who are enthusiastically “home in Rome” when it comes to their religion, but who don’t feel at home at all when it comes to social interaction. **
Work needs to be done to help these converts meet others, make friends, and become involved in the parish. IF the converts do not become involved, I predict that many will eventually leave the Catholic Church out of loneliness and lack of inclusion and a feeling that no matter how wonderful the Eucharist is, it doesn’t seem to make a difference in real life. Telling these people that Christ is the Summit will not help at all–they already know that, but they’re still lonely and they’re still human beings and they still need friends and some kind of involvement in the parish life.
I am fortunate that my parish, and indeed, all the parishes that I know in our city, provide a rich tapestry of social, service, and study opportunities. There is no excuse in our city for Catholics to be lonely and left out and bored!