Woman Seeks Reform of US and Church Divorce Laws

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stanley123:
No. I claim that she used the following grounds for annulment:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
This is something which is recognised bny the tribunals, but the claim is that this is a trivial reason to grant an annulment.
I also claim that this case would never have arisen in the first place unless she was first unfaithful to the marriage.
You are claiming that she used Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and I didn’t disagree with that point. I said you are accusing her of suborning perjury; you said effectively that she went looking for proof where she knew there was none, or had reason to know that there was none, and got a psychiatrist to say that her husband had this defect:
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stanley123:
She notices that her husband has been concentrating on his golf and on his gym work and does not show any interest in her discussions on wicca theology and feminism. So she gets a psychiatric expert to state that her husband is suffering from a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This then allows her to get her annulment, which says that there was never any marriage in the first place.
I am curious how she “got a psychiatrist” to state that her husband had a Narcissistic Personality Disorder without at least interviewing the husband; she either suborned perjury, or there is more to the case than you know.

I suppose it is entirely possible that it occured as you stated; but I have a hard time believing any psychiatrist who is actually licensed would issue an opinion not based on an actual interview, without so many qualifiers that a tribunal would not take notice that the psychiatrist had never actually talked with the husband. And if the psychiatrist issued the opinion without qualifiers, then I would have to presume that something was going on sub rosa; she was suborning perjury.

Psychiatrists don’t go around issuing opinions as to someone’s personality without at least interviewing them any more than medical doctors diagnose diseases without seeing the patient, or without clear qualifiers that they are issuing an opinion solely based on a certain set of facts, and that the opinion is limited to those facts…

Further, even assuming that what you state is actually what happened, and is the sum total of the facts of the case (that is, there isn’t anything missing that would strenthen the finding, such as actual interviews, and a long-standing exhibiting of personality disorder well beyond what you describe), we still come to the same ending, and that is that any individual case does not prove that either the rules of evidence or the findings of fact in that particualr case mean that the general grounds discussed are wrong, inadequate or irrelevant to determining intent or lack thereof. An error on the Court’s part does not prove the law bad.
 
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stanley123:
Some Catholics do not think that the current teaching and practice of annulments is a game. They look on it quite seriously, as it has destroyed their lives and the lives of their families. They are married for fifteen years or so, and there never is any question of an invalid marriage until the wife is unfaithful to the marriage. Then all kinds of issues are brought up, which never would have been brought up in the first place, unless the wife was unfaithful to the marriage. The Church officially declares the marriage annulled. What really hurts is that the wife was having relations with the local parish priest and he was the one who had the specialised knowledge and the expertise of knowing how to get the annulment with great ease.
Some might think the annulment process is a game, but people whose lives and families have been ruined and wrecked have a different opinion on it.
I have yet to meet anyone who has thought that the annuement process is a game. Every one of the people I have met, and talked with about annulments, have been through an emotional hell of a divorce. Some of them filed; some of them were filed against. Some applied for the annulment; others were in a situation where the other party filed for the annulment.

All situations created enormous psychological, social and mental pain. None of them had lives that got off scot free. Some of them had difficulty because they believed, as you incorrectly stated, that the Church’s annulment meant that the marriage never occured; but that is not what an annulment means. It means that there was a natural marriage (such as they would have had if they had been married by a Justice of the Peace or a judge, or had been married in a church ceremony in another church without a dispensation as to form), but not a sacramental marriage.

I have yet to find anyone who thinks an annulment is a game. Do they exist out there? Undoubtedly there are some, just as there are some Catholics who have no faith whatsoever, but live a “Catholic” life - going to Mass regularly, involved with the other sacraments through their lives and their family - while not believing anything at all. They are, however, few. I am not talking about those who are poorly catchised and play “pick and choose”; I am talking about those who approach the whole sacramental system as a game.

Lives are ruined by divorces; although, if truth be told, they are often ruined long before that by choices mad that lead up to the divorce. The emotional trauma does not simply go away, and without some healing, the annulment only serves to throw salt on the wound. that, however, rather than going to the issue of rightnes or wrongness of the annulment proceedure, goes to our brokenness as children of Adam. As Paul says, we are all sinful. We feel the results of sin because of the choices we make, and because of the choices others make. Whether we are innocent or guilty, we still feel the results.
 
otm, you are still very eloquent in defense of tribunals; but the more I read your posts, the more I get the impression that you consider the current rates of divorce and annulment to be something almost normal, and to be expected—a normal result of our sinful condition.

It almost begs the question as to what the solution might be, because it sounds like the current sad state of marriage is not to be considered an abnormality.

The Church has always considered that everyone has a natural right to marriage. It also considers sacramental marriage to be permanent and indissoluble. If so very few people are capable of contracting a sacramental marriage, then perhaps the Church should consider trying to winnow out those few, and allowing only them to have a sacramental marriage.

Yet, I don’t see that happening. The alternative would be to emphasize strongly the nature of the marriage contract which they are entering, specifically as to permanence, fidelity, and openness to life.

I just find it hard to understand how we can expect people to sign documents binding them to a 30-year mortgage, but not a long term marriage. Surely the same impediments that prevent them from understanding the nature of marriage also prevent them from understanding the nature of the mortgage.
 
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otm:
Unitl rome has reviewed the cases and reversed them, they are simply talking about numbers of cases and opinions as to why the cases are decided the way they are.

Rome certainly has the ability to review cases. Whether they can review them on their own, without an appeal specifically made, I do not know. But unless they are actually reviewing the case files, they are issuing an opinion not substantiated by facts.

I don’t disagree that we have a problem; I disagree that they problem is at the tribunal leve; I believe it is with the individuals who have approached the altar with little or no catechesis and with a contracepting mentality.
You are defending the indefensible. You reject the views of Rome on this matter, you reject common knowledge, you reject common experience and you base it all on your anecdotal experience.

Let me see if I can summarize your position:
  1. The majority of those who “staff” tribunals are orthodox and only want the truth to come out, while the rest of the Church ignores marriage prep and catechesis in general in great numbers.
  2. That many civilly divorced folks have much paper work to fill out and are emotionally charged means that the process is working for the service of truth.
  3. Rome is clueless about these matters because they have not reversed, or otherwise intervened, in the tribunal process.
  4. Psychology is not seen, or used, as an escape hatch in these matters because it is seen as legitimate even though the Pope has said those psychologists and psychiatrists used in these matters should have a Christian understanding of life and not a secular understanding.
  5. Most folks who now view the tribunal process as little more than a Catholic divorce are ignorant.
I may have missed a few points, but that is basically it, correct?
 
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otm:
How many individuals have you spoken to who have received an annulment? Have you actually spoken extensively with them concerning the process? Have you actually spoken with anyone who is in a tribunal about how they operate?

Or is this just more Catholic Urban Legend that keeps passing around like the latest gossip, every one saying"Oh, my!" and passing it on further, self-assured that it is complete truth?

You seem to be quite knowledgable about how sloppy the tribunals are, and how easily people achieve an annulment. Was it one case you heard about that convinced you they are all sloppy, or was it two? And did you actually speak to anyone involved with the case, or was it just what someone told you?
  1. Yes, I have known a 8 or 9 of folks who have been through the process and I have one in my family right now.
  2. Many of my posts here have been copied and pasted from sites that quoted the Pope and Rome.
  3. I am not blaming the tribunals as being the chief culprit, but they are a major part of the problem as many have tried to point out here. The start of this thread was concerning the premise behind so many more decrees of nullity than in previous years. Rome has taken note of it as has many “common” folks and they see a problem. Your position is that the Church machinery is working very well and the problem is that there are many invalid marriages. That seems to beg the question.
 
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otm:
They were doing so before the Commission for Humanae Vitae was enve consdiered, let alone assembled. It wasn’t the lay people later. The lay people were the ones who were seeking to use birth control; they were the ones creating the question. Use of the pill was wide spread by the time the Commission was assembled.

It wasn’t the theologians out in front leading a charge; it was the lay people out in front looking for a way to regulate births; they, while using, created the question to the theologians who responded. By the time the Commission leaked it’s majority report, people were long entrenched in the issue of the pill. And when Humanae Vitae came out, the reaction was not from the theologians and eventually the laity; it was from everyone all at once.

The theologians were mostly priests, although the study of theology had opened up more to laity. However, no, they were not “leading” the people; they were responding to an on-going issue of the laity’s use of the pill.
If not for these priests;/theologians/sisters etc., the lay people wouldn’t have a leg to stand on. Yet they had plenty. And now, still have more than ever. Plenty of dissent. Plenty of horrible catechesis. Plenty of belittling of sacraments.

As I write this, I reflect on the homily given this past Sunday at my local parish which made my heart ill as the will of the priest was read into the Gospel. “Son of David” being a racial slur. The demon only being the demon of prejudice. Jesus possible having prejudice. Jesus being enlightened to what His mission should be. What a mess.
 
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otm:
Obviously you have never even seen the paper work for an annulment, and it would appear you have not spoken with anyone who is involved with the tribunal.

Often the tribunal imposes conditions before one of the parties can be remarried. The process is anything but pleasant, if you have spoken with someone who applied - have you?
That was included in my “some time passes”. No, I haven’t been involved, thanks be to God. Seeing as I believe the words of Jesus, I shouldn’t be seeing those papers.

Do those conditiions include rigorous marital preperation and catechesis? If not then they are ineffective.
 
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JimG:
otm, you are still very eloquent in defense of tribunals; but the more I read your posts, the more I get the impression that you consider the current rates of divorce and annulment to be something almost normal, and to be expected—a normal result of our sinful condition.

It almost begs the question as to what the solution might be, because it sounds like the current sad state of marriage is not to be considered an abnormality.
No, I consider it to be a great anomaly, which is due to the confluence of a number of things, all impacting the Church.

I believe it was Pope Pius 10th who was alleged to have had a vision, in which the devil was given 100 years to destroy the Church. To anyone paying attention to what has happened in the last 100+ years, a survey of social, legal, moral and economic issues would most certainly give credence to the vision.

To put it another way, an optimist would say that in his opinion, the world is getting better; a pessimist would say that in his opinion, the world is going to hell in a hand basket.

A realist woud say that factually, the world is going to hell in a hand basket, and the basket has no lid, and a hole in the bottom… and I would probably put myself in the realist camp.
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JimG:
The Church has always considered that everyone has a natural right to marriage. It also considers sacramental marriage to be permanent and indissoluble. If so very few people are capable of contracting a sacramental marriage, then perhaps the Church should consider trying to winnow out those few, and allowing only them to have a sacramental marriage.
I know of priests who have refused to marry couples. There are several difficulties with this approach.
  1. People have a right, within Canon law, to the sacraments (this was the issue concerning priests who denied Communion to those who knelt). Someone who goes through the engagement process has completed what the Church requires, and the priest who denies them marriage in the Church may not be on the most solid ground.
  2. Many priests, having denied marriage in the Church to a couple, have seen them leave the Church. There is a tension between the responsibility of the couple for their own actions and the responsibility of the priest for those entrusted to his care. Rigorous moralists might say that the responsibility lies only with the couple; a reading of the Gospels might say otherwise. Christ was not a rigorous moralist, or he would have stoned the womn caught in adultery; by Jewish law (and he was a Jew), he would have been perfectly within the law to cast the first stone. Rigorous moralists never understand that passage; they see it as either a) kick them out, or b) condone their sin; they never see a third alternative. The net result is that the priests often allow them the Church marriage, and give it over to God.
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JimG:
Yet, I don’t see that happening. The alternative would be to emphasize strongly the nature of the marriage contract which they are entering, specifically as to permanence, fidelity, and openness to life.
I see it happening, but expecting things to change immediately is to fail to acknowledg how deep the problem is.
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JimG:
I just find it hard to understand how we can expect people to sign documents binding them to a 30-year mortgage, but not a long term marriage. Surely the same impediments that prevent them from understanding the nature of marriage also prevent them from understanding the nature of the mortgage.
Most of them understand that they will live in two, thre or more houses within that 30 year time. and they see their parents, their older siblings, their neighbors, their fellow parishoners, and a massive portion of the rest of society treating marriage like those 30 year mortgages. They get the idea that there is no permanence, they expect no permanence, they don’t know anyone who has lived in a house for 30 years unless maybe they are in their 60’s or 70’s, and they only know a couple of people like that. and they treat marriage the same way because “every one else does too”.

That is never a legitimate answer. I don;'t suggest that it is. I am just stating the obvious; that is how they are reacting. By the time they get to marriage age, they have spent some of their most formative years in a society that reacts to long term marriages as a fluke. When that is almost all of what you see, and what you know, and you live in a society, and a Church, where 85% of the people reject something so basic as the birth control postion of the Church, why are we suprised that they likewise reject the Chr\urch’s teaching on the permanency of marriage? Who are some of the greates teachers around? Parents and peers. And what are they teaching?
 
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fix:
You are defending the indefensible. You reject the views of Rome on this matter, you reject common knowledge, you reject common experience and you base it all on your anecdotal experience.

Let me see if I can summarize your position:
  1. The majority of those who “staff” tribunals are orthodox and only want the truth to come out, while the rest of the Church ignores marriage prep and catechesis in general in great numbers.
My experience with those in tribunals is that they do want the truth to come out. My experience with those in the pews is that the figure of 85% contracepting is spot on; my experience with those who were catechised over the period from @ 1975 through @ 2000 were by an large not given a solid doctrinally based, honest instruction of what the Church teaches in sacraments and moral theology.
  1. That many civilly divorced folks have much paper work to fill out and are emotionally charged means that the process is working for the service of truth.
I have yet to meet anyone who took the annulment process as a game, Everyone I have met have stated, in one for or another, how painful the process was. I have met people who went through an annulment and still could not articulate well the meaining of the process, but I have met none who were not seeking truth.
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fix:
  1. Rome is clueless about these matters because they have not reversed, or otherwise intervened, in the tribunal process.
I think Rome is about as clueless in this matter as you think they are clueless in a number of the bishops they have appointed, of whom you find to be so thoroughly out of touch with the Church. Or do you posit that Rome knew exactly what they were doing when they appointed all those bishops?
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fix:
  1. Psychology is not seen, or used, as an escape hatch in these matters because it is seen as legitimate even though the Pope has said those psychologists and psychiatrists used in these matters should have a Christian understanding of life and not a secular understanding.
I don’t recall saying that there have been no bad cases. My position is that they are significantly smaller than you make them out to be. The number of cases going through is a drop in the bucket to the number of divorces of Catholics.
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fix:
  1. Most folks who now view the tribunal process as little more than a Catholic divorce are ignorant.
No, I believe, based on my personal experience, and conversations with priests, catechists, numerous articles in reputable publications (e.g. National Catholic Register and Our Sunday Visitor) is that most Catholics under the age of, say, 45, are ignorant of most of their faith. That includes the work of the tribunals, but is most definitely not limited to it.
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fix:
I may have missed a few points, but that is basically it, correct?
Nope. Not even close. To begin with, my information is not anecdotal, it is first hand; I speak with those who have had annulments, not thier friends or relatives; I speak with the priests who present annulment cases, not what someone else said the priest said or did; I speak with members of tribunals, not someone who reports what someone else said someone told them the tribunal did.

I am still waiting to hear your first hand reports.
 
fix said:
1. Yes, I have known a 8 or 9 of folks who have been through the process and I have one in my family right now.
  1. Many of my posts here have been copied and pasted from sites that quoted the Pope and Rome.
  2. I am not blaming the tribunals as being the chief culprit, but they are a major part of the problem as many have tried to point out here. The start of this thread was concerning the premise behind so many more decrees of nullity than in previous years. Rome has taken note of it as has many “common” folks and they see a problem. Your position is that the Church machinery is working very well and the problem is that there are many invalid marriages. That seems to beg the question.
If there are many invalid marriges, then the tribunals are not a major part of the problem, or any part of the problem at all, as the tribunal is not the source of catechesis. It is only the source of a decision as to the sacramental nature of the issue. If there are relatively few invalid marriages, then I would agree that the tribunals were the problem.

You and I seem to agree that catechesis went in the toilet, and the toilet was flushed long ago. It is my position that the tribunals are there sweeping up the detritus of a 30 or 35 year hiatus, one that was assisted by a society that at the minimum appears to tolerate, if not outright promote sex as an end in and of itself - look at movies, videos, music videos, women’s magazines with cover models who’s only difference from a street walker is that their clothes are more expensive (if not more revealing) and they haven’t been beat up by their pimp; a population (reflected or mirrored fairly accurately in the Church) which is about 85% contracepting; a majority of couples (that’s more than 50%) who have been either living together outright, or having consensual intercourse repeatedly before they approach the altar. I could go on… I fail to see what part of this prepares young couples for a lifelong committment.

I am reading of bishops publicly addressing this issue; of changes to marriage preparation, of better catechetical materials. But is is somewhat akin to trying to turn an ocean liner with a paddle. It can be done, but it’s going to take a lot of work. We spent 40 years digging this hole. It isn’t going to change overnight.

Above all, I am trying to say that there have been vast changes in society, and in civil law, which have had a hugh impact on the issue of intent. Ignoring that , and focusing only on three things - 1) the number of annulments in 1930; 2) the number of annulments in any given year within the last 10, and 3) the changes in the evidnece that goes to intent (called “soft” psychology) is at its kindest called myopic.
 
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otm:
You and I seem to agree that catechesis went in the toilet, and the toilet was flushed long ago.
Perhaps you are right on this and that since Vatican II, catechesis, and some of the teachings of the Church went into the toilet. For example, the teaching on the indissolubility of marriage. However, in an attempt to pretend to save the teaching on the indissolubility of marriage, the Church theologians have come up with a way around it. Namely, they have introduced the practice of easy to obtain annulments.

A spouse’s extramarital affair(s), trouble holding a job, financial irresponsibility, refusal to care for the home and/or children, dependence on parents, reliance on peer approval, alcohol or drug use, run ins with the law, etc. serve to demonstrate that the spouse exhibits an antisocial personality which would prevent him/her from fully understanding or carrying out the obligations of a lifelong relationship and therefore evidence that the spouse lacked the due competence required to form a sacramental marriage.”

"Many people believe that virtually any failed marriage can be annulled on the basis of incapacity and immaturity. It is not all that difficult to prove that someone was immature at the time of the marriage or did not fully understand all the obligations and developments involved in a lifelong marriage."
 
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otm:
My experience with those in tribunals is that they do want the truth to come out. My experience with those in the pews is that the figure of 85% contracepting is spot on; my experience with those who were catechised over the period from @ 1975 through @ 2000 were by an large not given a solid doctrinally based, honest instruction of what the Church teaches in sacraments and moral theology.

I have yet to meet anyone who took the annulment process as a game, Everyone I have met have stated, in one for or another, how painful the process was. I have met people who went through an annulment and still could not articulate well the meaining of the process, but I have met none who were not seeking truth.

I think Rome is about as clueless in this matter as you think they are clueless in a number of the bishops they have appointed, of whom you find to be so thoroughly out of touch with the Church. Or do you posit that Rome knew exactly what they were doing when they appointed all those bishops?

I don’t recall saying that there have been no bad cases. My position is that they are significantly smaller than you make them out to be. The number of cases going through is a drop in the bucket to the number of divorces of Catholics.

No, I believe, based on my personal experience, and conversations with priests, catechists, numerous articles in reputable publications (e.g. National Catholic Register and Our Sunday Visitor) is that most Catholics under the age of, say, 45, are ignorant of most of their faith. That includes the work of the tribunals, but is most definitely not limited to it.

Nope. Not even close. To begin with, my information is not anecdotal, it is first hand; I speak with those who have had annulments, not thier friends or relatives; I speak with the priests who present annulment cases, not what someone else said the priest said or did; I speak with members of tribunals, not someone who reports what someone else said someone told them the tribunal did.

I am still waiting to hear your first hand reports.
I do not want to make the effort to reply to your points seriatim. I just want to make clear that your evidence is anecdotal and not scientific. The last Pope , and others with special knowledge, have stated publicly there is a problem. That problem consists of too many decrees of nullity. I have posted articles that addressed this issue. I agree with you that many who enter into marriage may enter with some false understandings, but that does not mean the tribunals should find any way possible to give them an “out”. That I believe is what JPII and others are saying. You make the argument that the tribunals are all operating within the letter and spirit of the law. That is our dispute.

First hand accounts would still be anecdotal. Would you take a new drug based on one or two persons experience as they relate it to you without an additional information?
I think Rome is about as clueless in this matter as you think they are clueless in a number of the bishops they have appointed, of whom you find to be so thoroughly out of touch with the Church. Or do you posit that Rome knew exactly what they were doing when they appointed all those bishops?
I think that Rome allows bishops to go uncorrected at times and Rome lets these tribunals to go uncorrected at times. I see no inconsistency in the reasoning.
 
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otm:
Above all, I am trying to say that there have been vast changes in society, and in civil law, which have had a hugh impact on the issue of intent. Ignoring that , and focusing only on three things - 1) the number of annulments in 1930; 2) the number of annulments in any given year within the last 10, and 3) the changes in the evidnece that goes to intent (called “soft” psychology) is at its kindest called myopic.
Talk about myopia? Disregarding the tribunal process as an important aspect in all this is classic myopia.
 
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fix:
Talk about myopia? Disregarding the tribunal process as an important aspect in all this is classic myopia.
Some might say it is more like blindness. Blindness mixed with ignorance perhaps?
 
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buffalo:
An annullment is a decree of nullity - a marriage never existed in the eyes of God.

Some things that would make it null:
  1. deceit going into the marriage
  2. not wanting children
  3. impediments
  4. coercion
to name a few.

Which new ones have been added? or do some of the current behaviors fall into these classes?
Wow, I guess my Catholic marriage is null according to this list. I was married in the Catholic Church. We even had a Mass. But neither of us have ever wanted children. Fortunately, God, who knows our hearts, answered our prayers, because we are unable to conceive as a couple. Despite this “impediment” which technically makes our marriage “null” in the eyes of the Church, our marriage continues to be as strong as ever. I love my wife and my wife loves me. Our commitment to each other is for life.
 
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Tibbar:
Wow, I guess my Catholic marriage is null according to this list. I was married in the Catholic Church. We even had a Mass. But neither of us have ever wanted children. Fortunately, God, who knows our hearts, answered our prayers, because we are unable to conceive as a couple. Despite this “impediment” which technically makes our marriage “null” in the eyes of the Church, our marriage continues to be as strong as ever. I love my wife and my wife loves me. Our commitment to each other is for life.
This is an interesting point. suppose there is a attempted marriage in the RCC where the couple finds out a few years later on that there was one of the many impediments present at the time of the marriage. What do they do then. Do they get remarried? How many times would they have to attempt to remarry, if they keep on finding one of the newer soft psychological impediments to marriage which were put in place after Vatican II ? Also, during the interlude when they are setting up the schedule for the next attempted remarriage, are they required to live as brother and sister?
 
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stanley123:
Perhaps you are right on this and that since Vatican II, catechesis, and some of the teachings of the Church went into the toilet. For example, the teaching on the indissolubility of marriage. However, in an attempt to pretend to save the teaching on the indissolubility of marriage, the Church theologians have come up with a way around it. Namely, they have introduced the practice of easy to obtain annulments.

A spouse’s extramarital affair(s), trouble holding a job, financial irresponsibility, refusal to care for the home and/or children, dependence on parents, reliance on peer approval, alcohol or drug use, run ins with the law, etc. serve to demonstrate that the spouse exhibits an antisocial personality which would prevent him/her from fully understanding or carrying out the obligations of a lifelong relationship and therefore evidence that the spouse lacked the due competence required to form a sacramental marriage.”

"Many people believe that virtually any failed marriage can be annulled on the basis of incapacity and immaturity. It is not all that difficult to prove that someone was immature at the time of the marriage or did not fully understand all the obligations and developments involved in a lifelong marriage."
I think it was probably not the theologians so much as the Canon lawyers who had a hand in these changes.

At the very bottom of the disucssion is the issue of intent. although it is not the same issue, it certainly appears related to the issue of intent as in moral theology, as to mortal sins.

Some people in moral theology are such rigorists that the two issues (out of three) - intent and knowledge - are all but done away with. Some people are at the other end of the spectrum, so loose that for all practical purposes, no one ever commits a mortal sin. The truth is somewhere in between. As to the intent required in marriage, it is possible, as a rigorist, to insist that intent to commit to a permanent relationship can only be overcome by a showing that one (or both) of the parties publicly indicated clearly at the time of the marriage that they had no intent on a permanent marriage. That would be taking the issue of intent to an extreme, a position that I don;t beleieve either our last or current Pope would take.

It is also possible to go to the other extreme of finding no intent on what would best be described as a few mere foibles, as opposed to a real inability to form the necessary intent.

My impression is that it is being presumed, by the use of psychological evidence, that this will result in a majority of findings of no intent. Or, to put it another way, that the use of psychological evidence will end up in a majority of cases as a “weasel out” result.

To begin with, many cases are not issues of intent; they are of form, and so out of the 50,000+ cases, we need to weed all of those out.

After that, we have cases in which there is evidence, other than evidence of psychological inability to form the necessary intent, that the intent was not there; statements and activities (e.g. spousal violence, adultery, or both combined) would certainly go to show lack of intent.

That leaves cases where specific evidence is not available; and we rely on psychological evidence. And even there, there will be cases where the evidence can be overwhelming.

As I said, I have talked with both members of tribunals and those involved in the presentation of the case. In no circumstances have I found them to be “flim flam” in their attitudes toward marriage, or towards the cases they work on.

Can there be bad ones? Do we have any bozos for bishops? Of course there can be bad ones. But the issue really being discussed, at its heart, is whether or not psychoogical evidence is resulting in a large number of cases “sliding through”. I don’t find that the case. It is not my position that there are cases that “slide through”; because we are all human, there are bound to be some. Some because of a tribunal trying to be pastoral; some because the case was manipulated by the party bringing it, and the tribunal did not see that. but I really believe the number is way lower than is being presumed. It only takes a bad case to convince people far and wide that the whole system is rottne. And that, in large part, is because those reaching that conclusion have no other evidence than the bad case, and that only anecdotally.

Again, I go back to the changes that have occured in the last 30 to 35 years, both in society in general, and in the Catholic Church vis a vis the people in the pews, and I find way more evidence for lack of intnent there than in presuming a flim flam approach by the tribunals.
 
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I do not want to make the effort to reply to your points seriatim. I just want to make clear that your evidence is anecdotal and not scientific. The last Pope , and others with special knowledge, have stated publicly there is a problem. That problem consists of too many decrees of nullity. I have posted articles that addressed this issue. I agree with you that many who enter into marriage may enter with some false understandings, but that does not mean the tribunals should find any way possible to give them an “out”. That I believe is what JPII and others are saying. You make the argument that the tribunals are all operating within the letter and spirit of the law. That is our dispute.
I have no bone to pick with you that tribunals should not find any way possible to give people an “out”. But I do disagree with you that rome, or the Pope, has special knowledge. They both tend to look at broad pictures rather than minute details. Part of Rome’s issues started with the raw numbers. It looked like anyone applying was getting a “free pass”, and the assumption was made that the process was slipshod, out of whack, flim flam, or call it what you may.

When one takes out the number of cases that go to form, the numbers are significantly reduced. When one then takes out the cases which did not need to go to psychological evidence, the number is further reduced. then one gets to examining the facts of the remaining cases. The undercurrent of the discussion seems to be that any case decided on psychological grounds is a flim flamd deal - that somehow there can be no “real” evidence of lack of intent, that it is just a sop to let this individual remarry. This issue has not been a one-sided discussion. I am saying that there is ample evidence from the almost total lack of adequate catechesis that the situation, rather than being an issue of sloppiness and slipshod decisions on the part of tribunals repeatedly, is really an issue of the mental and moral state of the great majority of individuals in the United States, and that Catholics are statistically pretty much an image of society at large. In other words, there are a whole lot more of marriages that have gone through the divorce courts, and neither party is involved in the Chruch actively; and this is the reason the statistics are not even higher.
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First hand accounts would still be anecdotal. Would you take a new drug based on one or two persons experience as they relate it to you without an additional information?
I am using the term “anecdotal” to mean the second hand, third hand, or 26th hand information that people rely on. I am not relying on one or two people I have psoken with.

And to answer your question, would I take a drug based on 1 or 2 (I have talked with a number of people about annulments, a whole lot more than one or two) people’s personal experience that they told me directly;they told me they were cured by the use of the drug? Let me answer it this way: Have you had cancer? I have. Every day we make decisions, often serious ones, based on nothing more than what one person tells us, and often what they tell us is not about their own experience.
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I think that Rome allows bishops to go uncorrected at times and Rome lets these tribunals to go uncorrected at times. I see no inconsistency in the reasoning.
I wasn’t talking about that. I was talking about the way Rome has picked the bishops you disagree with. I will reiterate my answer; I think that Rome is about as dialed in on this entire subject as they were dialed in about the background of any number of individuals they appointed as bishops. I am not talking about Rome not correcting a bishop once appointed; I am talking about what Rome found out, or didn’t find out, about the background of individuals they appointed as bishops. I think the vetting of appointees over the last 30, 40 or more years has been less than stellar. And if that process was less than stellar, then I fail to see why one would presume that Rome would know more about individual cases of annulments - that is, why they would investigate this issue more deeply - than they would the choice of a shephard of the Church. Or perhaps you disagree with me, and feel the vetting was par excellence? Or would you rather posit that the vetting was a much less important issue than the individual cases?
 
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Talk about myopia? Disregarding the tribunal process as an important aspect in all this is classic myopia.
I am not disregarding it at all. I am disagreeing that soft psychology is the source of the increase in the number of cases. I say it is not soft psychology, it is the loss of solid catechesis coupled with the impact of society in its spiral downwards of morality, and loss of belief in society as a whole in the value of marriage.

Perhaps I should have said tunnel vision.
 
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And to answer your question, would I take a drug based on 1 or 2 (I have talked with a number of people about annulments, a whole lot more than one or two) people’s personal experience that they told me directly;they told me they were cured by the use of the drug? Let me answer it this way: Have you had cancer? I have. Every day we make decisions, often serious ones, based on nothing more than what one person tells us, and often what they tell us is not about their own experience.
I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis and hope all is well.

Would the FDA allow a drug on the market based on the private experience of 2 or 3 people?

You seem to disregard the Pope’s position and others who are in a position to judge as this man is:

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Tribunals in some countries (notably the United States) are quick to provide annulments on uncertain grounds, while in other countries the faithful find it difficult to pursue even clear-cut cases of nullity. That was the testimony of Joaquin Llobel, a canon-law instructor at the Pontifical University of the Holy Cross and a member of the tribunal for the Apostolic Signatura.
defendingholymatrimony.org/html/annulment_reform.html
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