so about skirts
how short is too short? (if worn with sayā¦black tights)
most skirts that are being sold around here are a bit below the knee (still covering the knee when you sit down). I got to find one for like 20 dollars, letās see if this works
Well I believe itās simply to be as long as itās below the knee enough so you can sit and move around without danger of it easily hiking up instead of hanging down. I think that Padre Pio page had some advice on inches.
Generally, Iād say just go full length and so not be concerned about borderlines. Simpler, safer.
You know when you think about wearing whatever you want in the privacy of your own place, I donāt consider myself scrupulous, but I do at times feel moved to conduct myself moreā¦ hmmā¦ modestly, while alone too. This would never have occurred to me in the past, but, as I get older I think ā Heaven is always there, the angels are always watching usā¦
And you never know when an emergency will happen, and also, you want to have good habits for when you have surprise company, in all times generally, or even perhaps in view of eventually sharing a room or house.
Modesty is something that should always be a part of you, in private and in public. If itās natural, a part of you, then it is not affected or difficult as it might be at first.
So, I am trying to be more gracious and somewhat more modest even while alone. This takes some work, but it works.
Regarding sin and clothing issuesā¦ Just thinking about it casually without going into detail I think hmmā¦ generally wearing any type of clothing, is not directly a sin, but rather indirectly. Itās the effect the clothing has on your appearance, the effect this has on others, and your motivations for wearing it.
If you appear in a way you should not, this is not your proper mode of being clothed, and so can be a sin against modesty. I.e., it is deceitful, makes you out to be something you arenāt, raises you up or lowers you from what you are, etc.
If you wear clothing that has a bad effect on others, i.e. is a near occasion of sin, even for a responsible person, this is of course a sin.
If you wear it because you want to provoke someone, if you wear it because you want to feel more manly rather than womanly, or vice versa, or others to see you as suchā¦
If you wear something that has a bad example for others, because the clothing generally has a bad effect, the sin of scandalā¦
A man for example, who was escaping from kidnappers in disguise, could temporarily crossdress without it being a sin, I speculate ā speculate, donāt know. This is an extraordinary exception that does not break the standard, but also shows that clothing isnāt a -directly- sinful thing.
Itās the matters surrounding it closely, but not normally not it directly, that are sins.
We live in a society where a great deal of what is objectively sinful, is seen as not. The television, the entertainment, the books, all these incitements, casual ways of livingā¦ so much of it is sinful but we do not by default feel it to be so, even though we might after looking over it all reason out, āWhy yes, this has a bad effect after all on people.ā
So one would see the problem caused by wearing pants instead of skirts like that.
That they, by bad example, and effect on a person, make women in general more manly than they should be, would be crossing over the borderline into the sin of crossdressing, even if the direct will of the particular woman doing it, had nothing to do with the masculinity or femininity of the clothing. Just like young girls can be dressed up by their mothers in horrifically scanty outfits, and be bad examples though they themselves have no thought as to what the outfits represent.
Nowadays we are seeing more and more men dress more and more affectedly, with jewelry or ways so deliberately casual and rough that it shows a disrespect for manners in society. So in the former case we have going over the borderline into the crossdressing sin for men with too much bling, or being immodest by degrading public manners through deliberately sloppy dressing, such as that whole worn clothing, gangsta, baggy pants style.
So modestyā¦ we have a lot to doā¦ and it is a joy to do it.
But I donāt want to become vain about thisā¦I mean, what is the point of wearing skirts if Iāll spend all my time thinking about my clothing? Iāll be more modest perhaps, but more vain as wellā¦ I guess it takes some time getting used to? Maybe I can start with one new skirt, and see how that goes 
