Working Wives, What if Your Husband Said 'Quit Work'?

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My husband would never demand or insist that I quit working. We met in college and went through college and professional school and all the big examinations together. I worked and supported us during his residency. He knows what I’ve put into my career and how much a part of me it is.

That said, I opted to go half time when our first child was 6 months old. She’ll be 13 next month. His opinion on that was I should do it if I wanted, otherwise we would make it work with me fulltime. I took this summer off to experiment with staying home full time. His take on this was that it was fine. I’ve decided staying home full time is not for me, I’m going back part time in September. He’s actually happy about that.

I think it should be a joint decision between loving partners.
 
I worked until my oldest child was 9 years old at a job that paid very well and had good benefits. Economically, my husband’s job was on the same level.

If I had it to do over again, I would quit work the day my daughter was born and trust God to provide.

The only other thing I would do differently (and this is a separate thread in itself) is follow the Church’s instruction on contraception.
I wish someone had sat me down and said this is what the Church teaches and why. Perhaps I wouldn’t have listened, but I like to think I would have come to my senses and obeyed.
 
I can share a different insight being as my wife, an engineer, is the primary breadwinner and I plan to be the primary “domestic engineer”. Now she is very career oriented and I am not… I get nothing out of work for works sake unless I really feel I am doing something useful for the good of society, most of which are not paid and I would not want to be paid for them. That being said if I was working and it was getting in the way of my ability to be take care of the household then I would expect her to call me on it (just as if she was offered a promotion that would be detrimental to our family due to increased hours/stress or long periods of time away I would call her on it as well)

Interestingly I was listening to a radio show where a woman said she quit her job to stay at home and their household income dropped from 110,000 to 30,000. My first thought was… what a moron. The host said nothing.

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I would cry out of pure joy. It is all I’ve ever wanted but financially we can’t make it. My children are 9 and under and I would love nothing more than to be a housewife and mother. There are things we could give up but my husband likes his “extras”. It is very frustrating. I am able to “job-share” with another working mother at our company. It is a very nice option and if I can’t stay home all the time at least I am home more than if I had to work full-time. ( By the way, it took until my daughter was 7 for the opportunity to come around.) I think stay-at-home moms are so lucky and still wonder how it can be done on 30,000 to 40,000 per year. Any insight would be welcome.
 
As much as I would love to stay at home, I feel that I am obligated to work, not because of money. I feel obligated because God has given me a special gift and I feel required to share that gift and use it to the best of my ability. I am a special education teacher and I am excellent at what I do. This is not just my opinion. It is the opinion of every supervisor I have ever had and teachers I’ve worked with and almost all the parents of my students. I work with students with Autism and its spectrum disorders, Dyslexia, Selective Mutism, Downs Syndrome and many others. I am often able to reach children that others cannot. Teaching comes easily to me. I take no credit for this. I believe that everything I do well in education is through God. I think if I were to stay home, that I wouldn’t be using the talent God has given me sufficiently.
 
I’d run right into my cubicle at work, take my personal belongings and bolt for home! Not that I hate my job but I miss being home. My kids time at home is quickly disappearing and I feel like it’s a constant chaos at home trying to get everything done in the evening!

I would also join a women’s golf league!
 
I love my job and love my kids… I only work every other weekend, when my husband is home, so the children are never without a parent.

This works great for us, I make some spending $ and get to catch up with my friends at the hospital, and I feel like I am a little less insane.
 
I’m trying to get my husband to agree to let me quit my FT job and
get a part-time job and go back to school, so far he’s not going for
it. 😦
 
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