You have changed the context from “I” to “thou”. Of course you would do things for the people you love; but in reality the experience is wasted and is meaningless to the person who is robbed of those experiences; because it is lost and comes to nothing. Our memories are an important part of our happiness and our development as human beings. A life without memories is not really a life at all. That’s precisely why dementia is so bad and scary. I would think you were a liar if you claimed to be okay with the idea of losing all your memories everyday; not knowing who your family or friends were.
Does it really need spelling out?!!!
Here’s an alternative take on memory,from the Book of Lieh-Tzu. It’s worth thinking about:
*Yang-li Hua-tzü, of the Sung State, was afflicted in middle age by loss of memory. Anything he received in the morning he had forgotten by the evening, anything he gave away in the evening he had forgotten the next morning. Out-of-doors, he forgot to walk; indoors, he forgot to sit down. At any given moment, he had no recollection of what had just taken place; and a little later on, he could not even recollect what had happened then. All his family were perfectly disgusted with him. Fortune-tellers were summoned, but their divinations proved unsuccessful; Wizards were sought out, but their exorcisms were ineffectual; physicians were called in, but their remedies were of no avail. At last, a learned professor from the Lu State volunteered his services, declaring that he could effect a cure. Hua-tzu’s wife and family immediately offered him half their estate if only he would tell them how to set to work. The professor replied: ‘This is a case which cannot be dealt with by means of auspices and diagrams; the evil cannot be removed by prayers and incantations, nor successfully combated by drugs and potions. What I shall try to do is to influence his mind and turn the current of his thoughts; in that way a cure is likely to be brought about.’
Accordingly, the experiment was begun. The professor exposed his patient to cold, so that he was forced to beg for clothes; subjected him to hunger, so that he was fain to ask for food; left him in darkness, so that he was obliged to search for light. Soon, he was able to report progress to the sons of the house, saying gleefully: ‘The disease can be checked. But the methods I shall employ have been handed down as a secret in my family, and cannot be made known to the public. All attendants must, therefore, be kept out of the way, and I must be shut up alone with my patient.’ The professor was allowed to have his way, and for the space of seven days no one knew what was going on in the sick man’s chamber. Then, one fine morning, the treatment came to an end, and, wonderful to relate, the disease of so many years’ standing had entirely disappeared!
No sooner had Hua-tzu regained his senses, however, than he flew into a great rage, drove his wife out of doors, beat his sons, and, snatching up a spear, hotly pursued the professor through the town. On being arrested and asked to explain his conduct, this is what he said: ‘Lately when I was steeped in forgetfulness, my senses were so benumbed that I was quite unconscious of the existence of the outer world. But now I have been brought suddenly to a perception of the events of half a lifetime. Preservation and destruction, gain and loss, sorrow and joy, love and hate have begun to throw out their myriad tentacles to invade my peace; and these emotions will, I fear, continue to keep my mind in the state of turmoil that I now experience. Oh! if I could but recapture a short moment of that blesséd oblivion!’
‘If such is the man’s reaction to an infirmity which resembles the Highest Principle, how much greater will be the effect of incorporation in the Absolute!’
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