We do respect their beliefs in that we don’t try to stop them from marrying in their church. But if I were to attend an invalid wedding, that would be my action, not the couple’s. It’s my responsibility not to sin.
My Jewish friends understand that I am permitted by my faith to eat pork. They do not take my pork away or prevent me from eating pork, they simply do not come over when we are roasting a suckling pig.
This is the way I see it as well. The couple has no clue that what they are doing is sinful. I believe that it is (as someone has said: it is God’s law, not ours) and feel I can’t celebrate their marriage.
What on earth does this last sentence mean?
Because I think people have different definitions of “mutual respect” and I think mine is quite different from yours.
So, you would get offended if your Jewish friend did not eat the pork roast you cooked? He would someone “disrespect” you by honoring his faith?
Since they are not Catholic and are not being married in the Church, the tribunal wouldn’t accept it for any type of review.
The Tribunal does not hand out nullity declarations like candy. There is a long and expensive investigation process, takes at bare minimum 9 months and many times it takes several years. Of the cases that the Tribunal takes, some of them are found to be valid marriages.
The reason is that a marriage is a joyous occasion in people’s lives, and usually eating pig is not. If I was having a pig roast, I would still want my jewish and muslim friends to come anyway and I would make sure that they had kosher and halal foods. If I was getting remarried I wouldn’t want anyone not coming because of their religious beliefs…I would deem it to be offensive to be honest and it would effect my relationship with that person. Thankfully not one Catholic turned down the invitation to my invalid wedding, because that certainly would have effect my relationship with that person.
I would feel disrespected if my jewish or muslim friend decided to not come to my house because I was making pork.
Wow. For an orthodox Jew, they cannot eat from a non-kosher kitchen. You would want your friend to sin in order to make you happy? How selfish, how arrogant.
Marriage is something that is raised to a Sacrament, it is not just a romantic party.
Very few catholics much less non-catholics have a good understanding of what it takes to have a valid marriage, particularly concerning openness to children. If I were a gambling man I would bet on a decree of nullity
It usually takes more than 9 months to move past a divorce and find someone else. If the first marriage happened to be found valid I just wouldn’t go to the wedding.