Would you let a homeless gay drug addict in-law brother stay at your house?

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Would you let a homeless gay drug addict brother-in-law stay at your house? Their know to watch porn on home computers.

Jesus tells us to help the poor and homeless. But at what point do you draw the line if a person has been living like this for 10 years and refuses to accept Jesus?
 
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I would not make it conditional on his “accepting Jesus.” He is clearly really far from the point of being able to without massive help from God.

If he were trying seriously to get off drugs and turn his life around, then I would consider letting him stay or helping him in some other way. What I did to help would depend on my family situation. Set boundaries before giving any help, like I’ll pay your rent for you for three months, so you can get clean and find a job. If you use during that time, I will stop paying your rent.

If he is not seriously considering major changes in his life then letting him stay with you would only be helping him carry on his lifestyle (enabling). Don’t do that.
 
Not a chance.

I’ve got a homeless drug addict cousin I won’t even let call me.
 
We’ve let him stay many times, but after 10 years its getting old. I tell my wife we are empowering his lifestyle letting stay here every month or so a couple nights.
 
Depends on the size of your home and how much supervision you can provide.

If you live in an 800 square foot house and he’s being left alone all day while you are at work, probably not.

If you are retired and live in a 4500 square foot home, and he hasn’t stolen from you before, probably.
 
I would advise establishing ground rules with them, and explain that consequences for breaking these rules will result in eviction. You’re welcome to establish any ground rules that you want. I would advise that homosexual activity on your property, drug use and/or possession on your property, and watching porn in your house would be good ground rules. Especially if you have kids.

Make them sign a contract agreeing to your terms.

Make sure that you also research the laws governing eviction in your jurisdiction. In my state, 30 days notice of eviction is required. At some point, one may involve the police.

This allows you to serve the poor as Christ commands, but also protect yourself.

Hope this helps!

Kris
 
That would seriously depend on many things you haven’t told us yet: How old is your brother-in-law? Is he a thief? Does he keep bad company? Which drugs is he addicted to? How long of a stay? Do you have children? If so how old are they? Have you given him conditions for his prior stays and has he violated them all? Is there other family he can more appropriately turn to?

Dealing with addict family members is really really tough, and you have my sympathy.
 
I’m sorry but no. I let a friend live with me exactly like that who stole me blind, put me in more financial ruin which I’m still paying off today and physically assaulted me which hurts to this day. He was gay, brought guys to my house to you know and I found needles in my living room. Plus, my small spoons went missing, among a ton of other things. Then I found out he tried to kill his sister while high on drugs and his Dad too.

I’m already poor, disabled and could not afford many things to leave my house. I’m sorry but I will never, ever do that again unless they had ten years of therapy and the same amount of sobriety, had a job, a vehicle and his reputation …he was trustworthy and he lived a Christian life.

It was extremely horrendous for me.
 
we even think twice before accepting family into our house
 
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Perhaps I would allow it for one night in an emergency; however, he would need to go to a homeless shelter and get his life turned around afterwards.
 
“I’m Tom Bodett for Motel 6, and we’ll leave the light on for you."
 
Would it make a difference if he was a straight drug addict brother-in-law who was likely to have sex with women around the house when nobody was home? I’m just wondering what difference the brother-in-law’s sexual orientation makes in this situation? Would it make him less deserving of getting help from his family because he’s gay?
 
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No way !
Ten years is way long enough -
and it sounds like you haven’t helped him repent - at all.
It’s like inviting a demon into your home.
No thanks.
Time to show tough love.

And he doesn’t give a rat’s asp about Jesus - lol
 
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Although Jesus tells us to help the poor sinners we have to be as smart as a serpent but as harmless as a dove.
 
10 years is a long time…I would help him find a doctor or rehab, but not allow him to stay at my home. I would only be willing to help him if he were willing to do something positive for himself. Is he employed?

If this is just a cycle that repeats itself with no positive change, I could not be a part of that.
 
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