Would you let a homeless gay drug addict in-law brother stay at your house?

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And he doesn’t give a rat’s asp about Jesus - lol
I realize that after 10 years you’re just enabling a destructive cycle, but just to be clear, we shouldn’t condition our love for people on them caring about Jesus. It’d be nice if they did, but I’m not going to refuse to help my sister-in-law, who I love to death, because she’s Jewish.
 
Is this fair to the guests and staff of the motel? And doesn’t this give the addict the opportunity to get even more drugs?
 
I agree with this. Take away all his options, and leave him with no choice but rehab.

In our city, I would take him to the hospital emergency room, and they would get a social worker on his case and work on getting him into the rescue mission or one of the rehab facilities in the area, or even into outpatient rehab (I doubt that last option would work at first with this patient).

The hospital would also check his STD (especially his HIV) status. Having sex with men puts him at very high risk for HIV, and this means every person he has sex with is also at high risk. That alone is a reason to take away all his “easy options” and force him to get to such a low place that he has to seek help to get clean and sober and give up the dangerous behaviors.

Is he really gay, or does he just have sex with people of either sex in order to get money to buy drugs? There are a lot of prostitutes who are not nymphomaniacs–they have sex with many partners to pay for their drug habit. Is there a chance that this man is doing the same thing (prostituting himself to fund his drug habit? BTW, I don’t need to know the answer to that question, but I just bring it up because that could be a good reason not to bring him into a house–if he’s soliciting sex from men (or women) to get money to buy drugs.
 
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In our city, I would take him to the hospital emergency room,
Would you really? I hear hypothetical actions all the time. Taking him to the hospital emergency room might be a means, but would YOU really take him there, or just walk away shaking your head, worrying about him, and praying for him…there is nothing wrong with that, but to say I WOULD might be disingenuous.

I’m not doubting you, just wondering.
 
And how does that relate to the OP’s question?
Same for your revelations about your children and marriage. Please, enough.
 
It’s not so much the behavior as the type of people that get brought around. Most of the gay people I’ve ever met have been full of drama and other kinds of nonsense that I wouldn’t want to bring into my house.

I’ve also made mistakes in the bedroom, I don’t really care what consenting adults do personally, but I’m not inviting someone elses personal relationship issues into my home. I don’t even like dealing with my own love life without someone’s ex bf showing up at my house crying on the porch.
 
stay at your house
It doesn’t sound as if this is the appropriate solution to the problems. There are other living situations better equipped to handle the kinds of needs articulated. It’s even possible that you’d become an enabler and make their problems worse.

I assume programs for homeless people also can treat addiction since it’s so endemic to the population, but I know the old saw about what happens when we assume! Obviously, Christian, hopefully Catholic, treatment centers would be more apt to work on the porn problem, but I wouldn’t rule out secular ones since porn can be quite a powerful addiction itself.

I hope this is a hypothetical, but I’m praying just in case. Besides, for every hypothetical, there are untold numbers of real ones. 🙏
 
Most of the gay people I’ve ever met have been full of drama and other kinds of nonsense that I wouldn’t want to bring into my house.
Just the gay people are full of drama? LOL…maybe you don’t know any hetrosexuals? So, no gays in your house, but you open the doors for hetro homeless…is there a screening application you use to determine their sexual preference, or do you base it on clothing, speech patterns, or some other questionably subjective test?
 
Nah I won’t let my straight homeless cousin in my house either, also because of the kind of people she associates with.
 
If he’s non violent, doesn’t steal or do drugs in your home and won’t set a bad example for the kiddos?

Yes.
 
I’m a recovering drug addict and nope, no way would I let an addict in active addiction stay wit me. I’m even hesitant to let most addicts in recovery stay with me, unless they have lots of clean time and I know them very well.

Addicts are slaves to their addiction and many will do anything to anyone if they perceive it as necessary to get their drug of choice. I’ve had it happen to me, and see it happen all around me all the time when addicts relapse. Even clean addicts often resort to stealing to get what they want for quite awhile after the drugs are out of them.

Also, never give an addict cash or anything they can pawn. A meal sure, a ride to rehab, awesome, but pretty much anything else just feeds the addiction.
 
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