Would you let a homeless gay drug addict in-law brother stay at your house?

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I believe the OP was referring to the specific person in question.
 
I don’t personally buy into being under assault by demons and that they swarm us or anything like that. Sin is caused when we are tempted and give in. The idea that the devil is waiting around a corner with his leg out to trip me seems ludicrous
 
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I don’t personally buy into being under assault by demons and that they swarm us or anything like that. Sin is caused when we are tempted and give in. The idea that the devil is waiting around a corner with his leg out to trip me seems ludicrous
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Your right this is not common. I’ve never experienced a swarm like this ever either. It was not just me that saw it. My wife did also. So either we were both hallucinating, or we’re both just crazy and need to be hospitalized in a mental institution. lol
 
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I think with him being there somehow opened a door to the occult possibility. There’s more he probably hasn’t told us he’s involved in.
 
Wow ! That’s a good share - about visiting demons.
Imagine the shadows - and other such things - in a crack house !

Remember - Jesus cast out demons from that one guy - legion -
2000 demons -
 
So let me give you some long term perspective. I have a close relative who did many of the things you describe for forty years. He is still doing these things and getting around in a motorized wheelchair. No amount of letting him stay at anyone’s house (and many other family efforts) has helped or will help him. I advise your entire family to back away. Someone on the thread recommended to wait until he was making an effort and showed personal changes, and I agree with that. Even after he changes, though, he shouldn’t stay at your house. Too much history.
 
St Pio was a priest. Priests and Bishops were given the authority to conduct exorcisms, etc. Again, the Apostles >> Bishops who then give authority to some priests to do this sort of deliverance for those who have succumbed to satan.

Should I choose satan over Christ, I would hope someone would call on an appropriately disposed Priest to do battle on my behalf!
 
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If you’re in the states, be aware of the concept of constructive possession. People can and have found themselves in a whole lot of legal trouble. The laws are set up so it is very easy to charge anyone in the home, if drugs are found.
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To expand: Many places have laws that allow the state to charge the owners and/or residents of a home where drugs are found, with possession of those drugs. So if he brings drugs onto your property, you could be charged for having those drugs even if you’ve never done drugs.

There’s also civil asset forfeiture to worry about - there have been cases where criminal activity occurring on or using property is grounds for forfeiture, even if the owner isn’t involved in the crime. Civil forfeiture is very difficult to deal with because you essentially have to sue the state to return your property.

I can’t tell you which of these apply where you are, or whether they would stick. I can say that defending yourself can be a major drain even if you ultimately prevail.
 
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If they were post-treatment, trying to stay sober and get a job – yes. But if it’s years and years with no change – at some point I would say no. Especially if you start a family and if there’s children on the premises, I would only allow it under very strict circumstances.

I think there can come a point where truly helping someone can mean giving some tough love and kicking them out. Depending on the situation, if someone wasn’t making any effort to get clean and sober and stay that way, then just constantly letting them live with you doesn’t give them any incentive to really get help and reform their life. If they aren’t trying to get better, then they are just using you.

I will keep your brother in law in my prayers today.
 
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Your relative has two things going on.

First, there is the drug addiction.

The drug addiction is an illness. This cannot be treated by kindness, hospitality, and Christian witness. He needs medical intervention.

Think about it–if your relative had cancer, simply allowing him to stay at your home and providing him with creature comforts (food, a bed, shelter from the elements, etc.) would not treat the cancer. Yes, there is such a thing as a supernatural healing from the Lord, and you and I have seen it happen (my husband was raised in a Pentecostal church and I was raised Baptist, and I’ve also seen this happen in the Catholic Church–I had an eye healed during a Catholic healing service), but these healings are rather rare.

Your relative needs medical treatment and rehabilitation for his addiction. If he doesn’t have health insurance, there are other options for him; e.g., the Salvation Army offers a program for drug addiction rehabilitation, and it is free. There are probably Catholic charities that help drug addicts to be healed from their addiction. Ask around.

Second, there is the homosexuality.

I mentioned in an earlier post that some drug addicts sell their bodies to anyone of either sex to get the money to buy drugs. If this is what is happening, then your relative isn’t a homosexual.

But if your relative has same-sex attraction, he is homosexual. This isn’t a sin, it’s a cross that God allows some people to bear because it is the best way for them to rely totally on God and become a saint (sinless).

I know this is different teaching than you have received in the Protestant churches. But it’s the truth.

Yes, acting on the homosexuality (having sex) is the sin, but the same-sex attraction itself is not the sin, and unless God intervenes in a supernatural way, your relative cannot be “freed” from same-sex attraction. I know that a lot of Protestant churches and organizations teach that a person with same-sex attraction should renounce it, marry a person of the opposite sex, and have children. This is not the answer for most people.

The answer is to pick up the cross and follow Christ.

One way that Christians with same-sex attraction can stay strong as they carry that cross is to join Catholic support groups like Courage. These people know how to help homosexuals because they deal with it in their own lives.

But FIRST, your relative needs to get treatment for his drug addiction so that he survives to bear his cross! Please ask around and keep searching for his sake, and find the appropriate (cost-wise) place for him to begin the treatment. That would be the kindest and most hospitable way to help your relative.
 
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I don’t want to dismiss the idea of demons as I definitely do believe that genuine possession can occur,but have you also consider the possibility of having sleep paralysis?
This can be flared up in times of stress which would make sense considering the situation with your brother-in-law.
This would be further supported by if you only saw these demons at night and not during the day time.

 
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