Flaunting it would be someone who goes around making comments, or displaying PDA with their “partner”, etc while one who does not flaunt it just keeps it private and you wouldn’t know from talking with him/her.
there is time and place for everything, perhaps we should take every opportunity to do God’s work, but when it is appropriate. I don’t think the MIL or anyone is suggesting to know everyone’s sins, if sins are made known, then there are consequences.
What do you have to say about people who do not frequently talk about their orientation but about whom it’s clear when you meet them? To use a phrase, they “set off people’s gaydar.” For example, almost everyone I meet knows I am gay long before I ever tell them, and a lot of it has to do with my interests and appearance and not what I say or do.
Interest? I am unaware of any public “interests” that gay people seem to have a monopoly on. I know strait men who like fashion, Strait women that like bull riding. Women with short hair… I have known military women with short hair, cancer survivours with short hair, heck my 89 year old grandma has almost NO hair. I know men who have a lisp, walk feminine and have three kids and a wife. Any gay specific interest that one might have probably should not be discussed in public, same goes for strait people who might have private interests. Why do gay people seem to need this “identity” of sexuality to seperate themselves further to society? There doesn’t have to be needless mayters. Sounds too stereotypical to me.
Actually, I’ve been playing rugby for about five years and would say that around half of the women I’ve played with are queer. It is just known as a very queer sport. The same thing goes for martial arts, which I participate in. So assumptions are made. It’s not a matter of “claiming” the sports as my own, but rather trends in participation.
I understand you have some issues that are probably hard to deal with. But no one here on this thread made ANY assusmptions about rugby players or anything like that, only you. My point is that if People want to make assuptions, (which you did in a previous post) then that is thier mistake. It is also thier ignorance. I too have been harassed. Everyone has been harassed. Perhaps Catholics more than most.
But I don’t see anything wrong with being who you are. I doubt at this wedding there would be a shock or horor about a rugby conversation. And if ther was, the the offending rugby player would be in the clear. Most of the Gay women that I know and ESPECIALLY the gay men are the ones most likely to use the derrogetory term you mention. Most people just want to be civil.
I think you’re confusing my original point. I was merely asking a poster whether she considered someone’s appearance to fall under the umbrella of “flaunting” their sexual orientation. I don’t feel persecuted or think I have “issues;” I was just using my experience to tease out a question I had asked previously.I understand you have some issues that are probably hard to deal with. But no one here on this thread made ANY assusmptions about rugby players or anything like that, only you. My point is that if People want to make assuptions, (which you did in a previous post) then that is thier mistake. It is also thier ignorance. I too have been harassed. Everyone has been harassed. Perhaps Catholics more than most.
There are no absolutes when talking about gay nterests. It is a flaw to think that there are, that is on both sides of the issue. As a stay at home dad… I get the suzie homemaker predjudice.
Not speaking for the poster but I would highly doubt they do. But back to the original topic and taking of of us and our thoughts. As a Gay person, what do you think of the situation of the OP?
ok sorry to misunderstand the previous post where you said:
In my opinion and I think most peoples opinion That is persecution… in fact, it is pretty close to the definition. So if this does happen to you you should feel persecuted. To not would probably be some sort of defense mechanism. Or if you were “:teasing” to try to provoke then that is disingenous.
I’m not sure; I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t invite me to their wedding because I’m gay so it’s a little bit outside my realm of experience. It does strike me as strange that a particular person would be singled out as a sinner unworthy of attending when I assume everyone at the wedding will be a sinner. I can understand not wanting a gay person not to bring her partner to the wedding, but again, that has never been my personal experience. I’m too young to know people getting married, at least in my neck of the woords, anyway.
I have never teased anyone into calling me names, but it doesn’t particularly bother me. It’s just other people making assumptions and being jerks.
fair enough. LOL I live in mormon land in my neck of the woods if you are 21 and aren’t married… you are an old maid. My wife was 19, my cousin and his boyfreind were part of the wedding party. I would never have changed my cousin being there but if I could I would have changed his partner from being there. Oh well, rarely do people that get married think they wouldnt do it differently somehow later.It should bother you. It bothers me and I am not gay, so it should bother you. I shouldn’t feel more offended by something that is wrong than the actual person to whom it is directed to. It takes pride, integrety and honesty to say, Heck yeah it bothers me. Because it should.