Young and looking on how to properly pray for matrimony

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He is actually a knight, inactive though. He has a big family and he works very hard so I dont see him at meetings.

Only thing I got to work on is finances, I guess being this young I still got my career to find. What is courtship? Or this term being thrown around in this thread? Im not familiar with the word
 
Listen to the link I gave above. The priest explains it in detail. If you’ve never been exposed to it before, it may be shocking, so hang on to your seat.

On another note, if you finished your semester and did reasonably well, I wouldn’t necessarily call you a college drop-out, you just decided on a different path. My daughter has decided to do that after this semester ends. She’ll be leaving with a 4.0. I think of the dropout as the one who either fails or drops out mid-semester.
 
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Thanks soooo much for sending me these podcasts to listen to! Its such a great eye opener and I learned alot on just the first one about courtship! Thanks so much!

And don’t give me so much credit, I am a pretty smart guy, but I was doing terrible in college. I finished the entire semester but very badly and put myself on administrative leave but decided to not go back to the university next sem. I was far away from home and I was spritually weak without lots of guidance. I think my path is better here close to my parish and family, plus Im more of a worker kinda of type. Please keep me in your prayers!!
 
Don’t worry about marriage yet. Just ask her out for coffee and make a friend! See where God leads you from there.
 
The most difficult part of the most often said prayer:
“Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven”
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This is self-denial and our hearts must be open to the leading of the Holy Spirit to accomplish God’s will for us - despite our desires, feelings or plans. How to open our hearts? Time spent in silence before our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament is always and everywhere beneficial. With patience, you will receive your answer.
 
Thanks for the advice! Now that you mention it, Ive been visiting the blessed sacrament alot more. Any recommendations on what I can pray or mention while in the midst of our Lord? I do my best to keep silence, but sometimes its hard with my thoughts and all that balony. Sometimes I pray for others or just explain whats going on in my life.
 
A novena is nine days of prayer. Usually it is done for a special intention.
 
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Don’t worry about marriage yet. Just ask her out for coffee and make a friend! See where God leads you from there.
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This. Obviously if her father is protective (the whole daddy-daughter thing) get his consent but make it clear that you’re just interested in getting to know her more - nothing more at this stage. Marriage and family may well be in the future but one step and one day at a time. Just take it slowly and allow things to unfold in God’s time and in His way.
 
Sorry for the late response. I forgot I was in this thread 😅

Anyway. Courtship is the formal process of trying to marry someone. Think of courtship as a sort of team effort to get you the gal. In modern dating you ask a gal out alone and hope she and her father approves of you. In courtship you ask the father for permission to date his daughter and than the father helps you out trying to win his daughter’s heart. He will let you in on what she likes and dislikes, things like that. Most likely if you can get her father’s approval you will get her mother’s approval as well. They will both help you and encourage you to date their daughter.

My advice, try to encourage the father to attend more KoC functions (pancake breakfast, ID drives, rosary rallies, etc) and than befriend him. Get to know him. Give off the aura of “husband material”.

Finance wise work on your career. Never lose sight of your endgame. They will see you are passionate about the career and they will help you on your path.

Worse case scenario and things don’t work out, don’t dwell on it. You still got your career path, your brothers, and God on your side. You are single now and if she rejects you, than you are still single. You lose nothing if you get rejected but gain so much experience for the next gal. If she doesn’t reject you than you gain alot. It’s a no lose situation.

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Im not an expert when it comes to women or relationships. So I may be talking out of my kiester for a fraction of what I just wrote. Each person and family is different.

But if you get anything out of this post, it is to never give up hope and always keep God first. Pray the rosary everyday and ask the blessed mother and st. Joseph to pray for you.
 
Thanks so much! I’ll definitely be praying about this. Pray for me as well please! Thanks!
 
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I know women who have had success praying “St. Anne, St. Anne, find me a man.” Unfortunately men are out if luck because “woman” doesn’t rhyme with “St. Joachim.” 😉
 
The St Anne novena might be just the thing! I remember one of my sisters praying the St Therese novena to find a guy. Her husband is an awesome Catholic man - high school religion teacher.
 
I dont know if it was in context or not, but I aint a woman lol xP do these prayers only apply to woman?
 
I think this approach isn’t realistic for a majority. Many people don’t have fathers in their lives
 
She definitely has a father and from what I heard he is a tough father. He’s pretty protective and loves his family so its gonna take some time to get to know him im sure. May the Lord prepare me for whatever is to come 🙂
 
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