Your opinion: How does God view women?

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I posted a thread about my dd a while back.

Well, she started to read the bible more often, and her conclusion was that God definitely favored men over women.

I pointed out some parts of the gospel like the woman at the well. She pointed out more stuff against women. She said that Jesus may be nice, God the father still favor men.

As a father, I always thought maybe God is more gentle. I am more gentle when it comes to her compared to my boys.

However, my wife and even my sister did say that that’s how they felt sometimes. They got over it though.

Want to hear your thoughts on this. Apparently, her thought process is a lot more common that I thought.

Thank you in advance.
 
Get her to read the Catechism of the Catholic Church. The Church clearly states that men and women are equal in dignity, though they may have different roles in the Church and the world.
355 "God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them."218 Man occupies a unique place in creation: (I) he is “in the image of God”; (II) in his own nature he unites the spiritual and material worlds; (III) he is created “male and female”; (IV) God established him in his friendship.
Both men and women are created “in the image of God”.
369 Man and woman have been created, which is to say, willed by God: on the one hand, in perfect equality as human persons; on the other, in their respective beings as man and woman. “Being man” or “being woman” is a reality which is good and willed by God: man and woman possess an inalienable dignity which comes to them immediately from God their Creator.240 Man and woman are both with one and the same dignity “in the image of God”. In their “being-man” and “being-woman”, they reflect the Creator’s wisdom and goodness.
 
. Apparently, her thought process is a lot more common that I thought.
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Your daughter has a lot of secular influences so you are competing with a fallen world. However, as a woman, I quote the sentence that I suspect really irks her. It shows your attitude which to a man may seem harmless but to a woman it REALLY makes us want to bang out head against the wall. It shows how clueless men can be to understanding our feelings and that is what I suspect is frustrating your daughter.

As her father, you have a big influence on how she perceives God. Without much knowledge about your day to day life, I can not comment furhter. But I would recommend validating her feelings that it is easy to jump to that conclusion

And pointing out stories such as the woman at the well probably will just infuriate her more. Do you give your son’s priviledges she doesn’t get? I remember my brother was allowed to use the car and I wasn’t so pointing out a woman at the well just won’t cut it
 
Your daughter has a lot of secular influences so you are competing with a fallen world. However, as a woman, I quote the sentence that I suspect really irks her. It shows your attitude which to a man may seem harmless but to a woman it REALLY makes us want to bang out head against the wall. It shows how clueless men can be to understanding our feelings and that is what I suspect is frustrating your daughter.

As her father, you have a big influence on how she perceives God. Without much knowledge about your day to day life, I can not comment furhter. But I would recommend validating her feelings that it is easy to jump to that conclusion

And pointing out stories such as the woman at the well probably will just infuriate her more. Do you give your son’s priviledges she doesn’t get? I remember my brother was allowed to use the car and I wasn’t so pointing out a woman at the well just won’t cut it
I think that “validating feelings” in this situation is useless. It’s not about feelings. It’s about theological truth. You could try telling her that the Church does not interpret the scriptures to say that women are inferior. In fact, you could go right back to Genesis and show her that the original plan for man and woman was to be equal partners. It was the fall that introduced the tension and unease between the sexes and because of the fall that we think in a way that sometimes doesn’t allow us to view the opposite sex as God intended.
 
I think I would recommend that she read the Gospels and point out to her that for Catholics (unlike for a number of other Protestant groups), the Gospels are the key to the Bible, not some sort of afterthought.
 
I think that “validating feelings” in this situation is useless. It’s not about feelings. It’s about theological truth. You could try telling her that the Church does not interpret the scriptures to say that women are inferior. In fact, you could go right back to Genesis and show her that the original plan for man and woman was to be equal partners. It was the fall that introduced the tension and unease between the sexes and because of the fall that we think in a way that sometimes doesn’t allow us to view the opposite sex as God intended.
I thought I would give my 2 cents since I have the same feelings (I really hate being female + I cannot help but think that God does favour male over female and it gives me so much pain).

Personally I don’t think telling her about the Church helps at all. Fact is, while there are nice things written, there are also not-so-nice things written. And that’s probably the reason for her distress. That or it could be something within her. IMO I feel that the daughter (assuming she is a teen) have probably read up on explanations like what you mentioned and is still not happy. Or at least that’s just me.

I honestly don’t know what would help, either. I have read and read and if anything, I feel more pain. I don’t know if OP, as a father, could help since I know that my father would not help me even if he tried. But then again, OP seems to know her problem. Most teens won’t open up like that. Even if it’s just a casual remark. So i guess he can look into it. Maybe get her mother to talk to her.

I could be pessimistic but I just don’t think it’s possible to get rid of her frustration :confused:
 
I thought I would give my 2 cents since I have the same feelings (I really hate being female + I cannot help but think that God does favour male over female and it gives me so much pain).

Personally I don’t think telling her about the Church helps at all. Fact is, while there are nice things written, there are also not-so-nice things written. And that’s probably the reason for her distress. That or it could be something within her. IMO I feel that the daughter (assuming she is a teen) have probably read up on explanations like what you mentioned and is still not happy. Or at least that’s just me.

I honestly don’t know what would help, either. I have read and read and if anything, I feel more pain. I don’t know if OP, as a father, could help since I know that my father would not help me even if he tried. But then again, OP seems to know her problem. Most teens won’t open up like that. Even if it’s just a casual remark. So i guess he can look into it. Maybe get her mother to talk to her.

I could be pessimistic but I just don’t think it’s possible to get rid of her frustration :confused:
Possibly…but the impression I get is that she’s using the bible only, if that’s the case then she may not be aware of the church teachings. Perhaps this is something her mother should discuss with her. There are many women saints and blesseds, perhaps she should read the biographies of some of them. God loves each one of us infinitely and it’s a pity that something like this, that actually does have a clear answer in Catholic teaching, would cause someone so much distress.
 
God definitely instituted Patriarchy; but hierarchy in leadership does not, in itself, amount to grades of worth or significance – although because of our fallen nature, it often devolves into that. Our perverted, hyper-egalitarian culture is fixated on worldly power and privilege, but that’s not what true headship is about.
 
God definitely instituted Patriarchy; but hierarchy in leadership does not, in itself, amount to grades of worth or significance – although because of our fallen nature, it often devolves into that. Our perverted, hyper-egalitarian culture is fixated on worldly power and privilege, but that’s not what true headship is about.
Exactly. Jesus specifically said that the leader should be the servant of all. That is the example of Christian leadership.
 
Even though for most of “man-made” society, men are heavily favored in our own eyes. But it is important to remember that man brought sin into the world through Adam. God brought salvation into the world through Mary. In the eyes of God, Mary is the highest human being who is not God and man.
 
I posted a thread about my dd a while back.

Well, she started to read the bible more often, and her conclusion was that God definitely favored men over women.

I pointed out some parts of the gospel like the woman at the well. She pointed out more stuff against women. She said that Jesus may be nice, God the father still favor men.

As a father, I always thought maybe God is more gentle. I am more gentle when it comes to her compared to my boys.

However, my wife and even my sister did say that that’s how they felt sometimes. They got over it though.

Want to hear your thoughts on this. Apparently, her thought process is a lot more common that I thought.

Thank you in advance.
As a woman, I can say I once felt the same as your daughter, back in my early 20s.

Now that I’m a middle-aged mom, I don’t feel that way AT ALL.

One of the things that helped me was the example of some of my parish priests who demonstrated in word (homilies) and action (statues, holy cards, devotions) their personal love of, admiration for, and devotion to the Blessed Mother, as well as some of our female Saints – St Teresa of Avila, St Mary Magdalene, St Teresa of Calcutta, just to name a few.

Their love for our Blessed Mother and some of our great female Saints demonstrated God’s infinite love for me, for my gender… for me, exactly as I am. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
 
I think that “validating feelings” in this situation is useless.
From a secular point of view that was spoken like a true man;)
It’s not about feelings. It’s about theological truth.
Spoken from a Catholic perspective, I agree. However, it all depends on what the OP’s end goal is. If he is trying to change her mind, he is fighting a loosing battle. If he is trying to be a good Catholic and respect her free will like God does, all he can do is pray and set a good example
 
God doesn’t favor men over women. It just looks that way to us sometimes because our culture has been patriarcal. Women give birth to new life. I recall a remark from Elaine on Seinfeld, “Womens’ bodies are beautiful. Men’s are utilitarian.” Hah!
 
I posted a thread about my dd a while back.

Well, she started to read the bible more often, and her conclusion was that God definitely favored men over women.

I pointed out some parts of the gospel like the woman at the well. She pointed out more stuff against women. She said that Jesus may be nice, God the father still favor men.

As a father, I always thought maybe God is more gentle. I am more gentle when it comes to her compared to my boys.

However, my wife and even my sister did say that that’s how they felt sometimes. They got over it though.

Want to hear your thoughts on this. Apparently, her thought process is a lot more common that I thought.

Thank you in advance.
Ok before I put my 2 cents in the cup…
Get her to read the Catechism of the Catholic Church. The Church clearly states that men and women are equal in dignity, though they may have different roles in the Church and the world.

Both men and women are created “in the image of God”.
Agree 👍
God definitely instituted Patriarchy; but hierarchy in leadership does not, in itself, amount to grades of worth or significance – although because of our fallen nature, it often devolves into that. Our perverted, hyper-egalitarian culture is fixated on worldly power and privilege, but that’s not what true headship is about.
Agree 👍

With that being said one thought I had would be to get her some of Tim Staples talks on our Blessed Mother. If she could learn and see how important Christs mother was to him and to his Church she would see better how God doesn’t favor men over women. This goes along with the second quote. It is our society (and I am said to say brothers in Christ) who denounce Mary’s importance to the point that they believe Christ put her down and distanced himself from her in his ministry. That mindset is what leads us to view the gospels as being against women.

Now along with quote one about men and women having different roles I love reading

Ephesians 5:21-24

The Christian Household
21 Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.

Did St. Paul just write even more stuff against women. :bigyikes:

Of course he didn’t. He is just showing God’s plan for salvation. On the surface this verse seems to say the husband is the head of the household and the wife must submit to his every wish. However, we need to dig deeper. First it says we need to be subject to one another, which denotes equality. Not the man being greater than the woman. Also we need to finish the text.

Ephesians 5:25-33

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 Even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no man ever hates his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the church; 33 however, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love your wives as Christ loved the church. Wow that’s a heavy cross for the husband to carry. So much for favoritism. You see most stop at the first verse and say see the Word of God is putting men over women. But if you read further you see that it is quite the opposite. Sure God made man the head of the household, but along with that favor from God, he tells us that we must put our wives above ourselves. Here is the problem, society forgot that the job of the man is to give everything he has, every ounce of his being (subjecting himself) to his wife, which would make her being subject back to him (for lack of a better term) a no-brainer.

Sure God created man first, showing favoritism, but then from the man he created woman. He made it man’s job to favor the woman over himself. Man’s the one that screwed it up not God.
 
Then why are there COUNTLESS book about “The Women of the Bible”.
:confused:

You both should read up on the women of the Old Testament and their role in salvation history, AND the holy women in the New Testament.

Is she in Faith Formation classes? If not, enroll her.
You are the primary educator int he faith. This could lead to many good conversations about faith and morals, and could bring you two closer together.
 
I can tell you that most atheist/liberals that I run into have a most unfavorable view of the way women were treated in the Bible. I’ve heard a shocking amount say openly that they
“will not serve”.
 
…She said that Jesus may be nice, God the father still favor men. …
Impossible, and Our Lord said so Himself:

Jesus answered and said to them, "*Amen, amen, I say to you, a son cannot do anything on his own, but only what he sees his father doing; for what he does, his son will do also. For the Father loves his Son and shows him everything that he himself does, and he will show him greater works than these, so that you may be amazed.

For just as the Father raises the dead and gives life, so also does the Son give life to whomever he wishes. Nor does the Father judge anyone, but he has given all judgment to his Son, so that all may honor the Son just as they honor the Father. Whoever does not honor the Son does not honor the Father who sent him*." Matt. 5:19-22

Our Lord came in order to reveal the Father to the world, to do the Father’s work, to bring the Kingdom of God. Likewise, Our Lord is not just our Mediator between God and humankind, but has been given the seat of judgment.

In other words, people who think of Our Lord as the Good Cop and the Father as the Bad Cop and the Holy Spirit as the defense attorney have it all wrong. That is not what Our Lord taught.
 
I posted a thread about my dd a while back.

Well, she started to read the bible more often, and her conclusion was that God definitely favored men over women.

I pointed out some parts of the gospel like the woman at the well. She pointed out more stuff against women. She said that Jesus may be nice, God the father still favor men.

As a father, I always thought maybe God is more gentle. I am more gentle when it comes to her compared to my boys.

However, my wife and even my sister did say that that’s how they felt sometimes. They got over it though.

Want to hear your thoughts on this. Apparently, her thought process is a lot more common that I thought.

Thank you in advance.
There are never favorites when it comes to Gods children, the lost of any child being male or female would hurt God very much, just like it would hurt any parent today. That said men and women might be treated differently but they should feel they are loved and cherished all the same. I would say you might make it clear that you love all your children equally even though you may not relate to each one the same way. Each one has their own needs but all are important. We tried in our family to spend some quality time with each child so they all felt valued. Dear, God is love and so you should show your love to others whether male or female. Yes God wanted women to be protected as women can bear children and so are more vulnerable but that doesn’t mean men should be less loved and valued… Just look to nature at how the male protects the women and her young, but that doesn’t mean the male doesn’t need to be valued and loved. It’s a two way street. God loves all equally but we all have our own gifts from God which make up a family.

God didn’t make the sacrifice because he loved men only or loved women only. He made the sacrifice because He loved the ‘world’ (men and women included). And that love is a sacrificial love that women and men both should make because they love like God loves. Read this statement from scripture.

John 3:16 For God so loved ‘the world’ that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
 
Well, she started to read the bible more often, and her conclusion was that God definitely favored men over women.
Hello Matthewww

DD has put you in the role of defending the Faith with what appear to be some fairly generalized statements. What I have seen and heard from Apologists is to turn the tables, instead of having to argue against a twisting snake, instead, ask her to give you specific objections instead of the generalities.

Get DD to support her position that God the Father Favored Males over Females. I am guessing here, that in most cases, she’s going to cite examples of Male leadership - especially in passages from the Old Testament which I’ve found to be a very common approach used by some feminists. There is one important concept to make a point of when this happens: the culture of that time was very Male oriented; thus, God the Father worked thru mankind using that which we could understand at that time. How many times have we heard Mr. Akins on the radio say something like… “… the Jews at the time would have understood this to mean …” All too often we get trapped by using today’s understanding of the words and culture against the original intent of the words and we forget the culture of the time when the Bible was written was very different than today’s - hmm… I see the Evil One working there - trap us by misinterpretation (Genesis 3:4 )!

So, from the other posts, you have three points with which to respond: God worked with Mankind from the point where Mankind was in understanding ( for example under the Mosaic Law divorce was allowed; however, Christ voided that as read starting on Mathew10:5), CCC 355 and 369, and the original intent of Woman’s role in The Book of Genesis - to be Adams (therefore all men’s) equal and support.

By the way, I found what I thought was a very interesting answer to the question: “Why did God use Adam’s rib to create Eve?” (link) (amazing what the search engines will pull up when you’re looking for something totally different). This article goes back to some of the original language used in the Bible, personally I like it when people go back to the original languages, or even the Latin, to get proper perspective on the intent. Our English translations don’t always seem to match up very well! Following is the last part of the Q&A answer, just in case the link breaks…

** (…) **Other passages, including Deuteronomy 33:7, 29, and Exodus 18:4, use the same phrase to discuss the potent interventions and deliverances of God Himself. Woman, therefore, was created as a complement to man, as an integral part of man, and as a powerful and influential companion for man.

Furthermore, the Hebrew word translated “suitable,”* k’negdo*, carries much more meaning than simply “fit” or “appropriate.” This word also means “opposite or contrasting.” This implies that the two beings were designed to work and fit together perfectly, not just physically but in all ways. The strengths of each compensated for the weaknesses of the other. It was “not good” for the man to be alone (Genesis 2:18), but, together, Adam and Eve were something far stronger and more magnificent than either of them could have been alone. Adam had to lose a rib, but he gained so much more.

Why did God use Adam’s rib? A closer examination of the Hebrew also reveals another surprising element of the story. The Hebrew word translated “rib” in Genesis 2 is tsela. The only other instance of the English word rib in the Bible occurs in Daniel 7:5, but the Hebrew word used there is different. In other passages where* tsela or its variants are used, the word is translated “side.” For example, in Exodus 25, 27, and 35, the words tselo (variant) and tselot *(plural) are used to refer to the “sides” of the Ark of the Covenant or the “sides” of the altar. In 2 Samuel 16:13, David encounters a cursing Shimei moving along the side (tsela) of a hill. In these contexts, translating the word *tsela *as “rib” would not fit.

This raises the possibility that Eve could have been fashioned of more than just Adam’s rib. In the Genesis 2 passage, *tsela *could actually be translated as Adam’s “side,” rather than Adam’s “rib.” If the appropriate translation is that God removed Adam’s side, how much of his side did God remove? It is possible that Eve was constructed literally from half of Adam. This would bring added meaning to Adam’s declaration that Eve was “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Genesis 2:23).

Whether God created Eve from Adam’s rib or from his whole side, He accomplished the act in such a way that showed the woman was to complement and complete man in the integral union of marriage. Woman was created to be “beside” man, not beneath or above him. In salvation, man is no more “worthy” and woman is no less a citizen of God’s kingdom. “There is neither . . . male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” ([Galatians 3:28](Douay-Rheims Bible, Galatians Chapter 3)). They stand side-by-side as fellow “heirs . . . of the gracious gift of life” (1 Peter 3:7).
 
This is a good poem for this.

Children Learn What They Live
by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

So if you raise your children to be loving and kind they will raise their own children to be loving and kind, which is what Jesus wants us to be.
 
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