12 years of marriage as Catholics, my husband now wants to convert to being Muslim! Help!

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After 12 years of knowing my husband as Catholic, my husband insists that he is now Muslim and that the kids will be too. He refuses to allow me to take the children to church, have a cross in the home or to do the sign of the cross. I just had a baby boy 3.5 months ago and this is when it all began. He refuses to let me baptize him and I am devistated. Nor will he let our 6 year old go through with her First Holy Communion next year.

I’m so lost right now and devistated by his irrational behvior.

My husband lied to me about being Catholic all these years. I have just found out by his family that he was born and raised Muslim. All his family live in Saudi Arabia and over the past year they have slowlly started to enter into our lives. I’m devistated that the foundation of our marriage was based on a lie. I’m doing everything I can to maintain happiness for my childrens sake, but my husband wants me to completely end the catholiciscm for the kids and begin the pathway to Islam. He wants me to do the same and I am adimant that I will not be open minded about this. Please help in anyway you can
 
Wow. Sorry about your situation. Islam is a strange religion. Don’t let him convert you or your children.
 
AmesLouise said:
After 12 years of knowing my husband as Catholic, my husband insists that he is now Muslim and that the kids will be too. He refuses to allow me to take the children to church, have a cross in the home or to do the sign of the cross. I just had a baby boy 3.5 months ago and this is when it all began. He refuses to let me baptize him and I am devistated. Nor will he let our 6 year old go through with her First Holy Communion next year.

I’m so lost right now and devistated by his irrational behvior.

My husband lied to me about being Catholic all these years. I have just found out by his family that he was born and raised Muslim. All his family live in Saudi Arabia and over the past year they have slowlly started to enter into our lives. I’m devistated that the foundation of our marriage was based on a lie. I’m doing everything I can to maintain happiness for my childrens sake, but my husband wants me to completely end the catholiciscm for the kids and begin the pathway to Islam. He wants me to do the same and I am adimant that I will not be open minded about this. Please help in anyway you can
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Im so disheartened to hear this. God will be the judge of your husbands deceit but God also understands your plight.

Please be honest and take the initiative without fear that God will be merciful. You have to face the situation as a wife and partner.

Talk to your parish priest immediately and clear the issues.

Im praying for you rest assured.

God bless

MJ
 
Kaninchen said:
Get a lawyer, today.
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I had the same immediate reaction. Try and find a good lawyer with a good reputation. Some just hang their shingles out and don’t know what they are talking about. It is totally worth the money. I have twice gotten bad advice from lawyers.

And, of course, you need to speak with a priest well-versed in these issues. If you cannot find one, try calling the diocese in Detroit and just explaining your situation briefly and asking for the name of someone. Detroit has a high percentage of Moslems which is why I am recommending them. Maybe someone on their tribunal. But first call your pastor and around in your diocese.
 
Get a lawyer without delay and watch your children. If your children have passports, hide them.
 
WHY does he wish to become Muslim? I suspect that he is not in his right senses!

Terry
 
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Get a lawyer without delay and watch your children.** If your children have passports, hide them.**
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The 1st thing you MUST make. In Italy we’ve had several cases in which the muslim husband took away the child from Italy and the mothers have had so many difficulties to see and get back their children. In a muslim state (Saudi Arabia is one of the worst, ruled by a wahabi ‘sect’), you have no rigths plus you’re an ‘infidel’ so the things will be more complicated. Beware!

Just a question: in this situation she can ask the nullity of the marriage (based on a lie)?
 
I am very sorry to hear about this awful situation. Has he been Muslim all along?
 
Mariem2 said:
Get a lawyer without delay and watch your children. If your children have passports, hide them.
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Hide your husbands passport too. 🤷

Priest…lawyer…In that order

How old are your children?

Do and have you, your husband and children attend Mass regularly before this happened?

Praying for you.
 
If he has been Muslim all along I believe this is a ground for annulment because he knowingly lied about something vital to a Catholic marriage. Talk to a priest, but ditto the advice to watch your children.
 
My first reaction was to say, “kick the bum out of the house.” Then, call a lawyer. And your parish priest. If he has lied to you all these years about this, what other lies might he have told? I understand why you are so hurt. This man definitely has issues.
 
AmesLouise said:
After 12 years of knowing my husband as Catholic, my husband insists that he is now Muslim and that the kids will be too. He refuses to allow me to take the children to church, have a cross in the home or to do the sign of the cross. I just had a baby boy 3.5 months ago and this is when it all began. He refuses to let me baptize him and I am devistated. Nor will he let our 6 year old go through with her First Holy Communion next year.

I’m so lost right now and devistated by his irrational behvior.

My husband lied to me about being Catholic all these years. I have just found out by his family that he was born and raised Muslim. All his family live in Saudi Arabia and over the past year they have slowlly started to enter into our lives. I’m devistated that the foundation of our marriage was based on a lie. I’m doing everything I can to maintain happiness for my childrens sake, but my husband wants me to completely end the catholiciscm for the kids and begin the pathway to Islam. He wants me to do the same and I am adimant that I will not be open minded about this. Please help in anyway you can
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My heart aches for you and I will pray for you. I have grown up in a muslim country and I have seen this countless times, it breaks my heart every time. What I recommend you do is take your children and yourself away from him IMMEDIATELY (go to one of your relatives or a friends far away from where u are) and annul your marriage. I am so sorry that I have to see this happen to you. Muslims do this very often in my country, they (yes they, he has backup) will forcibly convert you and your children. Do not stay in the same house, I am warning you. If you refuse to convert he will most likely become abusive, please go to somewhere safe where he cannot reach you and annul your marriage immediately. Please take my advice into consideration, for your children’s sake.
 
Their religion also permit the man to beat their wife if she doesn’t summit, please be careful. I would pretend to play the game and leave this house as soon as possible with the children. Don’t forget to contact your priest.

You have been given good advice but now, one you must do is PRAYER. Pray the rosary now and the mystery, Mother Mary will protect you. Pray for your husband of course.

You are in my prayer
 
Praying for you and your children. Contact your parish priest immediately! They can probably help you find refuge. You need to keep your children safe and close to you always! Like mentioned previously – hide the children’s passports, your passport, and contact an attorney to ensure your rights!

Have faith in God. He will keep you from harm. Run into Mother Mary’s mantle of protection! Pray the rosary, wear your scapular. Pray to St. Michael the Archangel to defend you in this dangerous battle!

May God bless you and Our Lady keep you! You and your children are in my prayers!!

+JMJ+
 
Mariem2 said:
Get a lawyer without delay and watch your children. If your children have passports, hide them.
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I agree! You must do everything you can to keep your children safe. Please contact a lawyer for advice. I’m so sorry you are going through this.
 
What country do you live in???

Alot of women stay because the man can stalk and get his clan to stalk.

Place your children in the Immaculate Heart of Mary for protection. The man sounds like he is going through some mid life crisis of some sort, and Catholicism, as it is living in the life of Christ HImself, he is out of sorts and seeking something to hold on to. It is deflating his ego.

Your prayers will save your children, irregardless of their choices in life. God knows and He sees everything in your situation. They grow up and in time they make choices…even if they end up in a situation where this is forced on them.

We cannot judge the human soul, only God can. I pray so much for my own country, seeing the garbage the death culture spews out into the world, making me think we as a nation, including all the devout will be held in judgement. God knows how many devout Roman Catholics, who are American, are suffering and are marginalized. We speak out and are ignored and ridiculed. But some day, more and more will come into the Church here.

God’s will is fulfilled irregardless of bad behavior. In fact, the bad behavior only strengthens the just.

Turn your being that much more to Christ. Pray pray pray. I have read about this from this Muslim culture. I have a friend from Nigeria who speaks of the plight of Christian women who marry a Muslim.

We hope that Pope Francis will follow St. Francis’ footsteps and help alleviate the suffering of Christian women, especially those who were misled.

Once you have children, irregardless, the court will split the child down the middle. The child is native to the country it was born in. But they can get the child out and transported into the country of their origins. I don’t mean to scare.

But you have to really get a lawyer to protect their citizenship and your rights with your husband.

So much prayer for so many people in this world.
 
This is not the time to play nice or try to get along for the sake of the kids. This is the time to protect you and your kids from a life that you don’t want for yourself or for them.

You need to understand that once the kids get out of the country w/their dad, all bets are off. You may never see your kids again - and it’s perfectly legal under the Saudi system. (This also happens in other countries too).

In the case of Saudi, men hold all the rights, especially when it comes to their kids. Dad and the family can easily shut you out of your kid’s lives because you are an infidel and a woman. They are doing their duty to raise their kid as a Muslim.

There’s nothing that the US (or other Western) government can do to get the kids back once they leave the country. There is no such thing as joint custody or visitation rights once they leave US soil (assuming you are in the States), especially if they are in the care of a parent. Their civil law applies, not ours

This needs to be crystal clear in your mind as you move forward.

It doesn’t matter if he was a nice guy when you met and married him. You need to deal with the circumstances that are presenting themselves in the here and now.

Men will come and go, but your kids are your kids and Jesus is forever.
  1. Move out of the house, ASAP
  2. Get a lawyer, ASAP
  3. Get your priest and start the annulment process, ASAP
  4. If the kids are school-age, let the school know that husband is not to pick up the children unannounced for any reason. (Again, a lawyer will help you w/the laws in your area.) Again, kidnapping is a real threat.
  5. Hide the passports
  6. Get a restraining order
  7. Pray
Obviously, it’s sad that your marriage is ending and the guy is turning out to be a creep.

Still, first things first. Secure your family, then mourn the loss of your family.

Peace be w/you as you go through this tough situation.
 
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