Totally agree here. Once the child is in the other spouse’s care, anything could happen.
And Muslims witness the goodness and kindness of Christians all the time, so do hard core non-deistic peoples, and most of the time see kindness as stupidity and weakness. They are hard core materialists and out to make a buck. Eat and have money and that is it.
American men are duped as well in marrying foreign brides. They want the money. I find so many times, people immigrating here who are not from first world, industrial countries know more in depth about our society’s benefits than the average American, usually white. And working Americans do not want to take welfare to be a burden to society. And, it is these classes of immigrants who have been here for only one or two generations that have voted in the presidential elections for those who oppose Catholic and American traditional values of self reliance.
It is an entitlement culture. I see that. People immigrating here, even legally, are reflecting the course of American society. We are a materialistic society, people come here for money, and not to give back to society. We are paying the piper for removing God and spiritual values from the public arena.
But it can come back. Perhaps through alot of suffering. And those coming here to get money…we are facing a world wide financial collapse of the credit economy…growth based on debts. It is going to crash and China is ready to implode on itself, and the debt burden their country carries is actually worse than ours…March 17, 2013, Fareed Zakaria’s Sunday program.
Going full circle, reflecting on all these things and on this OP’s plight, I am coming back to the original help – the Catholic pastor. The other point is Francis. I just ordered a book yesterday evening on Francis and the Muslims. There are several out there.
But I am wondering if the OP can get hold of the best book on Francis and his dealings with Islam and the Muslim. May be even refer it to the pastor first before encountering the husband. The husband must see the destructiveness he is beginning to start in this marriage and family.
Maybe St. Francis can intercede with the husband and help him to see the transcendence of Christianity and the prosperity it brings to the family. In Lebanon, the Christian husbands are objects of jealousy by Muslim men. So they tell them, they are better off financially because they are not having to provide for multiple wives and children.
It is a time for the wife to turn deeper into her faith as I had to do. The Catholic Church was my great consolation. I threw myself into its depths. There I read and study and drew on the saints and good spirituality, and later began to share my learnings with other women and lay people in general.
But I will pray for the intercession of St. Francis to help the husband find peace and to not listen to his family.
When the father has a son, then he forms an alliance with the son to do his will. My son worked in Alaska and met a Muslim Turk who found out from his family that his sister was bringing dishonor to the family, and so he was going back to kill her. The son stands by the father in dominating and subordinating his own mother and sisters.
This is horrible. But it is a fact of life that has been going on for thousands of years, and also in some parts of SE Asia. When they come here, they commit crimes against their wives, they go in to a 2 year counselling program to atleast let them know that what they are doing here is illegal to their wives. They might not convert to kindness and justice for their wives, but atleast they come to realize that what they are doing is illegal.
St. Francis intercede for this mother and her children. Pray for her husband to be free of his family’s will. May he come to understand Christianity is better for himself and his family!
