14 Year Old Boy Wears Make-up To School -Parents Want Tolerance

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No they are wanting the students to conform to school norms. The norms are not ideological. The norms are based in reason and common sense. The so called parents have the ideology.
The norms are actually arbitrary. There is nothing inherently evil about wearing make up. Just as there was nothing inherently wrong with guys having long hair in the 70s. One could have forced guys to cut their hair in the 70s based on the same argument and of course it would have come at the cost of freedom. Like I said, the government has no business dictating what people can or cannot wear.
 
The norms are actually arbitrary. There is nothing inherently evil about wearing make up. Just as there was nothing inherently wrong with guys having long hair in the 70s. One could have forced guys to cut their hair in the 70s based on the same argument and of course it would have come at the cost of freedom. Like I said, the government has no business dictating what people can or cannot wear.
How is it an ideology to have reasonable standards? That is not arbitrary. It would be arbitrary to demand wearing pink ball caps every Tuesday.

The school has an obligation to maintain order and standards. Students conform to those standards.
 
Like I said, the government has no business dictating what people can or cannot wear.
Sure they do, if what people wear interfers with public order, such as nudity or profanity. In a limited case, such as a school, if what is worn interferers with the teaching mission, then such intervention is the role of local government.
 
Sure they do, if what people wear interfers with public order, such as nudity or profanity. In a limited case, such as a school, if what is worn interferers with the teaching mission, then such intervention is the role of local government.
What evidence is there that wearing make up interferes with the public order? I mean who else is harmed by someone’s decision to wear make up?
 
What evidence is there that wearing make up interferes with the public order? I mean who else is harmed by someone’s decision to wear make up?
It’s a distraction and as such it is disruptive, so there is the harm. Can you not see that? “Look at me” is what the kids are screaming with this kind of behavior. Seems to me that there are enough distractions to learning and a line has to be drawn so that some actual learning can go on in school.
 
It’s a distraction and as such it is disruptive, so there is the harm. Can you not see that? “Look at me” is what the kids are screaming with this kind of behavior. Seems to me that there are enough distractions to learning and a line has to be drawn so that some actual learning can go on in school.
Again, is there a picture of the boy with the makeup? It may or may not have been an actual distraction.

But what is going on in this situation is the parents are using the makeup to push an agenda to have the school teach LGBT history and allow gay-straight alliance clubs. They used the makeup and the t-shirt as a platform, they knew it was going to get the exact reaction it got from the school.

Makeup on a boy is NOT the problem with this situation. The motives behind the makeup is what is the problem.
 
It’s a distraction and as such it is disruptive, so there is the harm. Can you not see that? “Look at me” is what the kids are screaming with this kind of behavior. Seems to me that there are enough distractions to learning and a line has to be drawn so that some actual learning can go on in school.
Wearing plaid pants and a striped shirt can cause a distraction as well, should schools ban that type of dress as well. To my mind it is not clear that there is really much distraction. No more distraction than long hair or ear rings.
 
Again, is there a picture of the boy with the makeup? It may or may not have been an actual distraction. …
I would think a boy, any boy, wearing make-up would at least be a little bit of a distraction. But, yes, I guess a bit of eye-liner, just the right shade of blush, a touch of color and shine on the lips, a tasteful mole artfully placed on the cheek, nothing too outlandish, that wouldn’t be too distracting.

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…But what is going on in this situation is the parents are using the makeup to push an agenda to have the school teach LGBT history and allow gay-straight alliance clubs. They used the makeup and the t-shirt as a platform, they knew it was going to get the exact reaction it got from the school.

Makeup on a boy is NOT the problem with this situation. The motives behind the makeup is what is the problem.
This is probably true.
 
Wearing plaid pants and a striped shirt can cause a distraction as well, should schools ban that type of dress as well. To my mind it is not clear that there is really much distraction. No more distraction than long hair or ear rings.
Yeah, I’m not sure arguing from the vantage point of distraction is the way to go. That leaves it wide open for people to think up other distracting things that are allowed.

Also, someone is bound to say “It’s only a distraction because it doesn’t follow social norms. So if we allow it and make it normal, then it will cease to be a distraction.”
 
Wearing plaid pants and a striped shirt can cause a distraction as well, should schools ban that type of dress as well. To my mind it is not clear that there is really much distraction. No more distraction than long hair or ear rings.
I think the best answer is a dress code that is followed. Boys don’t normally wear make-up and I would guess most don’t wear earrings. So, that should be stated in the dress code. Hair length is normally addressed in a dress code. If a new problem pops up from year to year, it can be addressed in the dress code.

An instance in my own life comes to mind. My kids’ school had a dress code that forbade no-show socks. Socks had to cover the ankle bone. (I didn’t understand it then and still don’t.) That to me is not and was not an issue at all. But, it was an issue and a distraction to someone, so it was addressed in the dress code. And, the weekly newsletters. Again and again. And again. Skirt length was not addressed, though I saw hems creep up and up on many girls. But, sock length was repeatedly enforced. Weird. But, bottom line, the school set the dress code. I made sure my kids followed it because that was the rule set by the school. (At their school, no student, boy or girl, was allowed to wear make-up, nail polish or jewelry, with the exception of small stud earrings and/or a small crucifix necklace.)
 
I just noticed that one of the articles says he was raised by two women: presumably a lesbian couple. Also, the article does seem to indicate that the boy likely his “transgendered” or something. What a sad situation. 😦
 
Yeah, I’m not sure arguing from the vantage point of distraction is the way to go. That leaves it wide open for people to think up other distracting things that are allowed.

Also, someone is bound to say “It’s only a distraction because it doesn’t follow social norms. So if we allow it and make it normal, then it will cease to be a distraction.”
True. And, my solution may not work then either. The dress code might end up being a thick manual if the school had to address every little thing that people could come up with. But, maybe general guidlines would curtail a lot of distractions.
 
True. And, my solution may not work then either. The dress code might end up being a thick manual if the school had to address every little thing that people could come up with. But, maybe general guidlines would curtail a lot of distractions.
Or school uniforms plus a few simple guidelines, such as “no makeup on boys.” No distraction when everyone is wearing the same thing.
 
Or school uniforms plus a few simple guidelines, such as “no makeup on boys.” No distraction when everyone is wearing the same thing.
Yes. (I just edited my post above to mention that particular school’s policy for all students on make-up, nail polish and jewelry.)
 
What the school should reply back with is a demand for re education on parenting and then have the boy placed in a real family with real parents.

If these “parents” used this boy to push their own agenda, that goes to show you how selfish they are and how they really dont care for the boy’s well being, just their so called “rights.”

Disgusting.
 
I think the best answer is a dress code that is followed. Boys don’t normally wear make-up and I would guess most don’t wear earrings. So, that should be stated in the dress code. Hair length is normally addressed in a dress code. If a new problem pops up from year to year, it can be addressed in the dress code.

An instance in my own life comes to mind. My kids’ school had a dress code that forbade no-show socks. Socks had to cover the ankle bone. (I didn’t understand it then and still don’t.) That to me is not and was not an issue at all. But, it was an issue and a distraction to someone, so it was addressed in the dress code. And, the weekly newsletters. Again and again. And again. Skirt length was not addressed, though I saw hems creep up and up on many girls. But, sock length was repeatedly enforced. Weird. But, bottom line, the school set the dress code. I made sure my kids followed it because that was the rule set by the school. (At their school, no student, boy or girl, was allowed to wear make-up, nail polish or jewelry, with the exception of small stud earrings and/or a small crucifix necklace.)
My daughter’s school has a pretty strict dress code. Its a public school. Any kid that doesn’t follow the dress code is put into in-school suspension for first offense and it escalates for every violation from then on. There is still leeway though for nail polish and some makeup for the boys. Seen some of the boys wear eyeliner to school, nothing real outrageous. Some of the girls and boys have their hair dyed neon colors. There is a little give and take, BUT these kids aren’t trying to push any kind of agenda. They look pretty much like everyone else going and coming out of the school.

Like I said earlier, the kids did push the dress code a bit on their last day of 8th grade. They were only in school for 2 hours and it was pretty much a formality, put your time in, go home. The teachers knew these kids were just letting off steam. The one article linked in this thread though stated there have been problems with this family over the past year. I think the administration knew there was more to the makeup and the t-shirt, probably why they bothered to punish the boy on the last day of school.
 
What? Goth kids are goth kids. It doesn’t have anything to do with being girly. Since being “Gothic” became a popular teenager-thing, you will observe quite a few guys with black makeup and “scandalous” t-shirts. The whole point is to challenge conventional conformity to appearance stereotypes. So they paint themselves up as “tough” with dark makeup and dark clothes with radical messages. It’s a fad not affiliated with anything LGBT in my experience in high school.
Really? So because it’s Goth it’s a more manly type of lipstick?
 
Really? So because it’s Goth it’s a more manly type of lipstick?
That’s what they think…personally I think they’re attempting to look scary. I’ve never seen a girl wear black lipstick.
 
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The school has the right and authority to impose a specific dress code or behaviour from students. I don’t honestly see why such a big deal is being made. They have a requirement, responsible parents should make sure their children stick to it, respect the correct authorities and discipline. Frankly, to say it is a matter of “free speech” is ludicrous precisely because there probably is a rule about girls wearing make-up to school, and I doubt you’d see many 14-year-old girls at the school with lipstick and mascara.
 
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