16 Yr old daughter is sexually active

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As someone who was like this myself as a teen I believe it is just a phase. I fell away from the church for years and by Gods grace was called back. Sometimes kids just need to live and learn. Young people questioning the establishment or authority or the church is nothing new. It’s been pretty much how it goes for centuries. Forcing someone to change or accept God at 16 years old will most likely just make them rebel even more.
 
Thats true just the combination of xanax and alcohol could cause respiratory distress. If she passes out well…who knows if she will wake up. Very scary situation.
 
As a parent you cannot force your kids to do anything really. But if your kids are under 18 you can legally decide as their Parent:
No mobile phone (if they have seriously corrupt friends),
No pocket money or part time work (if the child is on drugs),
No going out without parents knowing exactly where she is, and parents can forbid the child from going if they are not happy,
If not home within curfew time or lies about whereabouts: grounded for a month,
Parents can legally decide their son or daughter cannot date until 18, (especially if the son or daughter is at risk of living a sexually deviant lifestyle that could lead to them being a pregnant teen mom)

Parents are supposed to protect their kids.
The daughter is not 18, is only a child; and is under her parents guardianship/ authority.

It is for this reason that scripture says:
‘The children shall judge the parents’ (on Judgement Day). If the parent could have said that one word, or that one action , that could have saved the child’ soul from a lifestyle with Hell as its ending.

Scripture even says: correcting children appropriately for their wrong doings is an act of mercy. ‘The Father corrects the son he loves.’
As Mother Angelica of EWTN said: Sometimes it is your duty and is an act of love to tell a very close loved one their lifestyle is morally wrong/ dangerous, If you did not love them you would not be trying to help them.
 
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Punishing a kid for being an atheist and ensuring your kid doesn’t have access to drugs are two entirely different things.
 
To the poster who said they have no issue with their descendants having consensual intercourse with others:
Jesus said: ‘Fornicators will be cast into Hell with the false beast and false prophet, there to suffer night and day for all eternity.’

His daughter is a child. She is 16. She is not 18 with the authority of herself being an adult and is under her parents guardianship.
Her dad does not want her to become a pregnant teen mom.

It is completely and appropriately within the rights of a dad who has a 16 yr old daughter who is on drugs and fornication, that the dad: remove her mobile phone, pocket money, part time job, access to a car, and tell her to focus on school, no dating, no visits to friends houses or parties (just girl friends over that the parents approve of),

And the spiritual consequences of fornication are serious, Hell being the end game if never repented of.
 
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YoungCatholicGuy said:
It is completely and appropriately within the rights of a dad who has a 16 yr old daughter who is on drugs and fornication, that the dad: remove her mobile phone, pocket money, part time job, access to a car, and tell her to focus on school, no dating, no visits to friends houses or parties (just girl friends over that the parents approve of),
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I obviously don’t approve of those actions for a 16 year old dependent. Follow the house rules until you are no longer in the house.
 
Y’all keep saying atheist. I got something different from the thread. The daughter never has a chance to go to confession but is taken to mass on sunday. That was how I was brought up and I was in so much despair assuming I would go to hell because anytime I asked to go to confession my mom either told me i didn’t really need to or tried to make me tell her what sins were so important. That kind of despair leads you to rule breaking not because you’re an atheist but because you feel hopeless and damned. Just one possibility.
 
Of course they are! Absolutely! No argument there. But the methods would likely have much the same effect.

I agree that something needs to be done, but making her feel like a prisoner and completely isolating her from the world at large is not the answer, at least in my humble opinion. Speaking as someone who’s been there, done that, and whatnot; it would just be met with more resistance on her part and be more of a headache for everybody.

When she inevitably fights against such drastic measures, what then would be your solution?
 
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Someone posted above the advice to let her experience all that sin, in the hope that she would find it meaningless and return to God?

She is 16, only a child. And her parents as legal guardians of her as a child can make those adjustments so that she has no access to sinful exposure to drugs and very impure intentioned guys.

Lots of kids growing up with solid parents, don’t have access to mobile phones/ pocket money/ car, and focus on school, family life, family social gatherings, sports, band practice/ musical instrument, drama club, friends visiting, (All HEALTHY varied life experiences), and go on to live successful balanced, moral lives.
 
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I suggested no such thing. I suggested family outings, going to state parks, hiking, kayaking, going to movies, and keeping her so busy with the family that she has little time for anything else, besides school and work
 
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The way Child Protection has gone these days, the Husband can actually tell his wife that he will report her to the Child Protection agency that she is openly supporting and allowing his 16 yr old daughter to in her own private life independently live a lifestyle of teen sex and drugs,

And tell her it is against the law for her to rear their daughter that way, and that he is taking authority as Legal guardian and Father of his 16 year old daughter and tell that wife of his to back off and stop supporting such dysfunctional lifestyles to her kids…

He can tell his wife that her upbringing of CHILDREN is actually immoral and would bring social services upon her and her daughter immediatley if reported, under child protection grounds, Drugs are illegal, consensual intercourse between teens in their own private lives is outlawed in most parts of the world as illegal,
He can threaten to report her to the local Child Protection agency if she does not allow him authority to rear his children correctly,

Maybe she will back off… and allow him to set the household rules for HIS CHILDREN, who are only teenagers,
 
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