The Big issue is a Life issue. the smaller one, deals with something I personally think is just silly and a part of being a guy.
So should I disregard or minimize moral precepts which “I personally think are just silly and a part of being a gal?” Because I’ll tell you what is hard-wired into the psyches of most females: the constant, almost daily compulsion to betray secrets and reveal the faults and sins of others. It comes with the enmeshment into other people’s lives that is a biological part of being female – an outgrowth of the ability and drive for intimacy which are also crucial to the intuitive aspect of sustaining relationships in motherhood and marriage. Some females exercise much more control over these frequent compulsions than others do, however, proving that the so-called biological imperative to betray friendships and commit
the mortal sin of detraction is far more conquerable than some other females might assume. The only difference between one group of females and the other is the degree of discipline, self-control, effort, prayer, spirituality which one group applies, vs. the other. (Proving that it really can be done.
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Number Two: Do you call yourself “not a real son” of your parents when you disrespect them as a grown man, when you disobeyed them as a child? Probably not. Because I doubt that they have considered you “not a real son” in those cases. You’re always a son to your parents, indelibly.
Your baptism gave you an indelible mark as well. You might be a disobedient son to your Mother, the Church, but that does not make you “not a real son.”
If you have siblings, and if as a child you told your siblings, “I don’t agree with Mom about the following two rules,” and a sibling under your influence decided that because he or she also “didn’t agree with Mom” about those two rules or any other two rules which he or she thought were “just silly,” you would be guilty of giving bad example to your sibling, which is called in the Church, scandal. So, if instead of saying to your brothers & sisters, "Don’t do what I do; I often disobey Mom and Dad; if I were a really good son, I would obey our parents in everything I do, or at least try to obey them – despite what I think is ‘just silly.’ " Hopefully, you would not turn to your siblings and say, “Hey, I don’t agree with these two house rules, but I’m still a son; so it must be fine if you have your private disagreements with other house rules, because after all, Mom & Dad will still consider you a son or daughter.” That also would be scandal.
So you have lots of siblings on this forum, benidict. Please try to remember that when you respond to questions about settled Church teaching (“Mom and Dad”). Okay?
Yes, you’re a “real Catholic.” We just can’t invent our own Catholicism and then tell others that they can do the same.
