Terrible as this is, it defies the notion that I have heard a few people claim - “no one WANTS to have an abortion…”
Wow, does her husband know that his wife would kill their child and never tell him?I’ve got an acquaintance, recently married (and who seems happy about it) who said she’d have an abortion if she got pregnant, ever.eek:
She’s one of those who believes that pregnancy is unfair to women, like it controls them and keeps them from achieving their dreams. She talks about how she couldn’t imagine the horror she’d feel if she became pregnant, or if she was forced to raise a child. “Imagine, imprisoned in your own home, trapped forever in a life of servitude to your family…”And the sad thing is that her husband would like children, but she keeps bringing up all the inconveniences of children every time he mentions it. “Oh, but they’re expensive. And the school system here isn’t good - you wouldn’t want them to go through that, would you? And we’d never have time alone again! And I’m not going to quit MY job for any child! …”
I’d love to have a child soon. My boyfriend can hardly restrain himself when he sees a toddler or an infant on the street - he’d love to run over and hug them! The idea of wanting to kill one…
Let’s just say I’m not telling my acquaintance to stop using birth control with her husband! At least if she’s on the pill, she’s probably not ovulating… I hope.
I agree, & I also thought the fact that she is a professor of “women’s studies” told me a lot. She mentioned in her essay that starting in high school she used to set aside a sum of money for safe keeping in case she ever needed an abortion… That’s pretty extreme to think ahead & have that view in high school.I agree that MOST women who have abortions either feel regret and sadness or might even try to rationalize away their pain. But women, like men, are individuals and I am sure that there are some women who are simply selfish. I am not passing judgement on Alison, as I don’t know her personally.
I almost aborted my own child. Yes, I was frightened and young, but my reasons were selfish. It was all about my desire to avoid inconveniences to my life. Luckily, both my grandmother and my boyfriend-now hubby-talked me out of having an abortion. There seems to be this naive need among some of us to feel that ALL women who seek abortions are somehow not culpable for their actions or feel horrible afterwards. While I think that it is true that MOST women are pressured into an abortion or feel deep regret afterwards, this is not always true.
We don’t know if Alison is rationalizing her pain away or not. She does work in gender studies and you can link to her actual blog from the article. I suspect that she has been influenced by the line of thinking that women’s rights are somehow diminished if they are not allowed to abort their unborn children.
I admit, I only clicked on her blog to make certain that it existed. Seeing the face of Alison only made me more sad for her, her unborn child and her hubby.
I agree with you that even women & men who say they have no problems after an abortion will eventually suffer from it. I’m afraid that the author has many layers of barriers & denial to go through, though. I think it might be good that she & her husband decided to write letters to the baby. (didn’t they phrase it to the baby as you’re a potential person or being?!) Frankly, it’s hard to discuss this, but I think a lot of this is pretty telling…
No, it is a quote displaying the ridiculous lack of education in my generation and how deceptive some doctors are in their practice.I agree with you that even women & men who say they have no problems after an abortion will eventually suffer from it. I’m afraid that the author has many layers of barriers & denial to go through, though. I think it might be good that she & her husband decided to write letters to the baby. (didn’t they phrase it to the baby as you’re a potential person or being?!) Frankly, it’s hard to discuss this, but I think a lot of this is pretty telling…
I think that is one point when they both started crying, because they forced themselves to try & think of what they could possibly say to their child. I think that act forced them to glimpse the absolute absurdity & evil of trying to write to the child you’re aborting. “Thanks for coming along for the ride”, that’s what the brilliant writer & professor can come up with?! But you see the ice that must encircle their hearts begin to melt when they cry.
But then they recover & see the beauty in their precious new age ceremony.
BTW, can I ask what your quote is about? Is that a contraceptive that actually targets implantation & not ovulation at all?
I know. It’s shocking to read & so tragic that people can be that deluded. I wrote a letter to my 2nd daughter before she was born, & it couldn’t have been more different.How nice of them to thank the child for coming along for the ride, as if it were the baby’s idea to coast with them a little while and then go somewhere else.
How sweet that they wrote to their offspring. I wonder if they think about what it was like to be aborted. Do they ask, in their ritual letter?
May God have mercy on our people.
Oh, gosh. She must be the one whose ovulating was hurting… Well thanks for the prompt reply. I have to hope & think that a large number of these people just truly don’t know what they’re doing, & believe the lies that it is a clump of cells.No, it is a quote displaying the ridiculous lack of education in my generation and how deceptive some doctors are in their practice.
My coworker honestly believed her COC (combination birth control) allowed her to ovulate normally and only prevented implantation. Under questioning she was unable to even say what was prevented from implanting, and where this “thing” was trying to implant.
i’mnotsorry.com?!Here is a long story that I read after the Women’s Death March and it has similar thoughts though not as calculated.
citypages.com/databank/25/1225/article12158.asp
It is really hard to read both of these women’s essays. The one you linked called “They shoot horses don’t they?” is also beyond shocking. These women are so firmly entrenched in the culture of death. She was very honest: would want you too!). It reminds me of an article I read a couple of years ago in Parents magazine about “surprise” pregnancies. This one couple had 2 boys, the youngest was 8, I think. Life was getting easier as the kids got older, and they knew they were “done”. Then the wife had an “oops”. She was shocked and dismayed at first, but then was happy about it. Her husband, however, was not, and wanted her to abort. She refused, and he said “why not, I thought you were pro-choice?” It seems that unless they’re one of those “personally opposed, buts”, “pro-choice” people maybe feel almost obligated to abort any “unplanned” pregancy, and then of course have to go to great lengths to justify it, and seek out others who feel the same way.I don’t think she’d kill their baby without telling her husband. I think she’d try as hard as she could to convince him, using any method possible. She’d probably threaten to withhold sex if he didn’t agree to an abortion. She’d probably threaten to kill the baby without his permission if he wouldn’t give it. I think all the anti-baby discussion now is supposed to warm him up to the idea of aborting any baby that comes. I don’t think it would work, because her husband is a gentle soul and is, I’m almost certain, pro-life, at least when it comes to his own children. I’m just hoping that if she ever becomes pregnant, the combination of hormones and a pro-life husband will be enough to change her mind. And I’ve been planting pro-life seeds in her ears as much as possible, much to her disgust.Wow, does her husband know that his wife would kill their child and never tell him?