There is such a thing as discretion. In our anonymous society, many people cheat on their spouses with impunity, and (if they are discreet) do so with tremendous “success”. If someone is smart enough to do it discreetly, it’s seems that you’re committed to saying that it is a good. This is why I think that discretion is the fundamental virtue of utilitarianism.
Don’t you think that the couple’s relationship will suffer regardless of whether the cheater is caught cheating? It’s hard to miss the fact that your spouse is missing for a few hours longer than his work schedule demands (mind you, this has never happened to me, of course

). This affects the children as well.
But this is assuming that one spouse will be home to notice that the other is missing for no apparent reason. Sometimes the incongruous work schedules can get in the way.
Given all of this, and the fact that we can never be certain that we can cheat without being caught, I don’t deem cheating acceptable in normal circumstances (abusive relationships can be a separate matter, as can relationships where the two agree to cheat). I don’t think this contradicts utilitarianism at all. The risk factor is too high, and one cannot tend to one’s spouse while spending time with another, so the relationship will suffer anyway.
Similarly, in “transplant”, the utilitarian seems obligated to choose to kill one healthy person in order to save many people’s lives, through organ transplants – but only if the whole episode can be hushed up effectively.
I’m sorry, but you’re going to have to back this one up. How can we prevent people from noticing that someone walked into a hospital but never walked out?
And there is another solution. Organs have to be of a certain quality to be considered usable for transplants, yes? If a patient will surely die without an organ, they can simply lower the standards for usable organs, thus expanding their resource pool. Are we taking a chance that the organ won’t work, or perhaps even kill the patients? Yes. But isn’t it worth the risk to save their lives? I think so. Problem solved, and no healthy person had to be killed.
When one studies utilitarianism, however, it is quite clear that supererogatory actions are entailed by the principle of utility. You are to do “whatever leads to the greatest sumtotal of pleasure (or happiness) and the least sumtotal of pain (or unhappiness).”
I think some clarification is needed here. Yes, that would be, as Bentham said, the best course of action, but an action is considered good so long as it contributes positively to the overall utility. Any overall increase qualifies as good. I don’t think Bentham intended for us to allows act perfectly. Even if he did, there’s nothing saying that we must do what is best, but only what is good.
Many utilitarians (Singer among them) freely admit that this means that they should spend much more of their lives serving the poor and indigent. If you do not agree with this result, you must change the principle of utility.
We were talking about the concept of duty, I believe. Firstly, we have to agree on what a “duty” or an “obligation” is. A duty seems to be related to justice in that it creates a sort of dichotomy: one can only act justly or unjustly, since there is no neutrality. Similarly, duties are actions that we are expected to perform in order to cooperate with justice. Failure to do so is guilty, and shirking from duties is necessarily wrong, given this conception of them.
I’m not sure which iteration you would use, but here is my phrasing of the greatest happiness principle: “The morality of an action is proportional to its contribution to the overall utility; that is, positive contributions are good, the greatest of which is the best, and negative contributions are bad/evil, the greatest of which is the worst.” As you can see: no duty whatsoever. One is free to refrain from contributing to the overall utility, because inaction cannot possibly be assigned moral value using this principle. Again: the morality of a person is a different story, but utilitarianism isn’t so much in the business of judging people as it is actions.
Many later utilitarians, indeed, have done so. What principle of utility do you think yields the best results, Oreo.
I’m glad that you asked, because I’ve been thinking intently about this. If you don’t mind, though, I’ll respond sometime tomorrow. See you then…