A silly simple question on sexual orientation (re gay marriage)

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Why on earth do you think that a serious relationship needs to be grounded in a belief in a god of some kind? And why would you think that such a commitment is unlikely in gay couple?
When did I say that it “needs” to be grounded in God? I simply said that this was the ideal. Would you expect a Christian to say anything else?
I know of plenty of strong gay couples and plenty of weak heterosexual couples, and vice versa. I know plenty of strong atheist couples and plenty of weak theist couples, and vice versa.
I don’t know what you define as a “strong” couple, so I can’t comment. But I would say that being a “theist” hardly helps. Even demons are theists.

And perhaps you can acquaint me with all these strong gay couples, who have given their bodies and souls to one another completely, without reservation, without possibility of divorce. Knowing people like that might very much change my mind about homosexuality, in general.
 
Is that why lesbians have the lowest rates of STI’s and HIV/AIDS? :confused:
Having worked in STD/HIV remediation this is a very simply answered argument. The mechanics of their operations tend to not share as much bodily fluid as others. But just because they are not victims of such diseases does not make their behaviors OK.
 
Grace & Peace!

Again, though, I’m not just talking about sex. A heterosexual man and woman can go out on a romantic date together without feeling any sort of necessity or compulsion to consummate their relationship then and there. And such an event, a night out, whatever, is perfectly acceptable and reasonable from a Roman Catholic moral perspective. But from the same perspective, can two homosexuals go out on a romantic date, refuse to fornicate, and escape moral censure? Unlikely. There are few Roman Catholics on those boards with whom I’ve discussed these issues that would be willing to say it’s perfectly alright, and just as few can convincingly rationalize their censure of the homosexual couple with their indulgence of the heterosexual couple even if chastity in both cases is the name of the game. Why? Because there’s a chance that the choice to go out on a date could, for a homosexual, be seen as constitutive of a homosexual act, even if no sex were involved. A heterosexual who is chaste is not denied romantic companionship (i.e., a simple date). A homosexual who is chaste must never act on the desire for such companionship. And yet many Roman Catholics are quick to offer their belief that a single heterosexual and a single homosexual are in the exact same boat with regard to chastity, as if such a belief makes the basic inequality of their situations more explicable or acceptable. And yes, Rome requires chastity of both. But it’s not that simple. In actuality, the single heterosexual and the single homosexual are not in the same boat at all from the perspective of the catechism. They’re oceans apart.

There’s more on our plate here than considering what fornication means. If that were all, this conversation would be much easier!

Under the Mercy,
Mark

All is Grace and Mercy! Deo Gratias!
Greetings, Deo Volente,

I have never read such a clear presentation of what’s really happening for a homosexual. It continues to be beyond most heterosexuals comprehension of what is asked by the Church for homosexuals … the usual answer is we’re called to be chaste, so are you … end of story.

Well, that’s not the end of the story according to the Catechism, as you aptly point out. The syllogism is easy enough to follow:
2332 Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul. It especially concerns affectivity, the capacity to love and to procreate, and in a more general way the aptitude for forming bonds of communion with others.

2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.
Following the logic of the CCC is easy enough. Sexuality, clearly seen as heterosexuality, affects all aspects (not just a sex act) of our human personhood. It’s the you of you. Homosexuality is seen as disordered sexuality which affects all aspects of our human personhood in our body and soul … Homosexual Persons are disordered persons. Refraining from sexual activity (chastity) does not, according to the CCC, make me ‘unbroken’; does not allow me to love in a truly human way, ever.

No where in the CCC is it stated that Homosexual Persons can have positive, healthy sexuality (not sex, please, understand that) with loving relationships. It implies quite the opposite. It treats me as a homosexual woman as if I were a child … I’m to be treated with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Does it state in 2332 that all people should be treated with respect, compassion, and sensitivity? Of course not. I’m the one who according to the CCC is broken in my very human essence … not so with heterosexuals. I supposedly need the support of “disinterested friendship”, but nowhere does it state that I can give “disinterested friendship” to others. The reasoning throughout this CCC Section is that the Homosexual Person cannot truly love anyone (not sexual activity).

The implications from the CCC are very, very disturbing. I would ask all who really want to understand this topic to read the CCC concerning the Sixth Commandment in its entirety, not just the section on Homosexual Persons. Take the time to digest what the Church is stating and implying for the Homosexual Person as a Person. Consider reading this in the light of what it would mean to you if you were a Homosexual Person.

I’m wondering, Deo Volente, how the Church can posit the last sentence of 2359, and what She truly means in light of the forgoing logic She has presented. Do you have any thoughts about this?

As always, Deo Volente, you continue to elucidate the arguments splendidly.

maria_teresa
 
If I believed that same-sex sexual orientation came from God, consistency would force me to believe that the sexual orientations toward children come from God.

Then I would either be forced to believe that paedophilia a part of God’s design, or that God gave some sexual orientations that were not meant to be acted on.

To me, the simplest explantion is that alternate sexual orientations are somehow a part of the fall and do not come from God. I think that is what your article is saying, albeit in a lot more words.👍
Well put.
 
“Science” doesn’t teach anything. You’re talking about the opinion of SOME scientists. But other scientists disagree.

The real question is: ARE there seven sexual orientations? I guess we would have to look carefully at specific scientific studies to find out. And even then, we wouldn’t be sure. 🤷
Do those 7 practices exist? In other words do people have sex with children, with people of the same sex, with animals, etc? If so, then it seems you’re being quite nit-picky.

Actually, I think you misunderstood the OP’s point.
 
To say science is the mediator of understanding is just plain wrong. Scientists have been wrong more on any given subjects in history than other sources time and time again. I hate it when people say, "listen to the scientists they know the truth ".Anyway, there or many given testimonies of gay people going to straight. It is a choice to be gay, a sexual perversion of what God wants.
I think you misunderstood the OP’s point.
 
Ah, so can you tell us how homosexuality “destroys lives”?

Surely, you’re not going to say, “Homosexuals get diseases!”
I like my chances with my monogomous relationship with my wife as a protection against STD’s, as we keep SEX within our marriage.

Can you say the same about those who ‘sleep around’? Please don’t tell us about condoms; they aren’t ‘fool’ proof.
 
Religious opinions need to stay out of secular laws.
As many of our founding fathers have written, this country was founded on Christian principles (I’m NOT saying to be a Christian nation). So which of it’s laws on moral issues do you want taken away - thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, etc.?
 
AP said:
I don’t see why the whole lot of these sexual orientations can not be alternatively explained by good ole fashioned “temptation and addiction”. But I guess I am real backwards because I also believe in a real being called satan.
And of course science can not acknowledge the realm of the satanic, so it seeks alternative explanations. I get that…but still…
But does science ever tell us what is TRULY the root cause of mental illness? I don’t think so. So I think spiritual forces are a potential explanation.
Aren’t these two saying the same things or am I missing something?
 
Two responses to this:
  1. why, exactly, can’t we legislate on the basis of religious belief? Who says? It’s been done in the US for two and a half centuries now. Need some examples? The separation of church and state is strictly about the state not being allowed to name an official, state religion.
  2. you’re setting up a false dichotomy between religion and reason. I do not believe in spite of my reason…in fact, I believe because of my reason.
Good points; well stated. Thanx.
 
Without getting into graphic detail, since there are children on board and possibly reading along - there are sexual practices which, if engaged in repeatedly, can cause serious physical damage.

I don’t think anyone seriously believes that homosexuals are just harmlessly cuddling on the couch, do they? They are trying to match body parts together that simply were not meant to be put together in that particular way - over and over again, until damage occurs.
Great point.
 
Greetings, Deo Volente,

I have never read such a clear presentation of what’s really happening for a homosexual. It continues to be beyond most heterosexuals comprehension of what is asked by the Church for homosexuals … the usual answer is we’re called to be chaste, so are you … end of story.

Well, that’s not the end of the story according to the Catechism, as you aptly point out. The syllogism is easy enough to follow:

Following the logic of the CCC is easy enough. Sexuality, clearly seen as heterosexuality, affects all aspects (not just a sex act) of our human personhood. It’s the you of you. Homosexuality is seen as disordered sexuality which affects all aspects of our human personhood in our body and soul … Homosexual Persons are disordered persons. Refraining from sexual activity (chastity) does not, according to the CCC, make me ‘unbroken’; does not allow me to love in a truly human way, ever.

No where in the CCC is it stated that Homosexual Persons can have positive, healthy sexuality (not sex, please, understand that) with loving relationships. It implies quite the opposite. It treats me as a homosexual woman as if I were a child … I’m to be treated with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Does it state in 2332 that all people should be treated with respect, compassion, and sensitivity? Of course not. I’m the one who according to the CCC is broken in my very human essence … not so with heterosexuals. I supposedly need the support of “disinterested friendship”, but nowhere does it state that I can give “disinterested friendship” to others. The reasoning throughout this CCC Section is that the Homosexual Person cannot truly love anyone (not sexual activity).

The implications from the CCC are very, very disturbing. I would ask all who really want to understand this topic to read the CCC concerning the Sixth Commandment in its entirety, not just the section on Homosexual Persons. Take the time to digest what the Church is stating and implying for the Homosexual Person as a Person. Consider reading this in the light of what it would mean to you if you were a Homosexual Person.

I’m wondering, Deo Volente, how the Church can posit the last sentence of 2359, and what She truly means in light of the forgoing logic She has presented. Do you have any thoughts about this?

As always, Deo Volente, you continue to elucidate the arguments splendidly.

maria_teresa
I disagree. S/He does not elucidate; rather, seeking justifiable validation in the details and render them subjective instead of accepting simple language!

I also sense an indignation in your views which lean toward defense, rather than illumination.

The language is clear that homoSEXUALITY is a disorder of a kind. It is not addressing homoAFFECTION because the orientation can only mean and include one MAJOR flaw; the sex bit!

I am drawn to my father, my mother, my brother, my sister, my neighbour, strangers!

If I can master the ‘urge’ toward my parents and siblings, so too can I master the ‘urge’ to strangers! Many may say this mastering toward your parent or sibling is natural, but it ISN’T! It may be easier but it is NOT NATURAL!

You know that there are many who do not master this urge in our society! Guess what their argument is! It’s natural!

The finest example is Jesus and His Apostles! A man loved his friends so much that he gave his life for ‘them’! They gave their lives for him, because they loved him! That kind of love surpasses ALL orientation! Nowhere does it say they had homosexual tendencies.

Soldiers give their lives for EACH OTHER, out of a common cause, but they get and learn to love each other! This does not REQUIRE homosexual tendencies.

Jesus and His Apostles as well as the 200 Spartans have had their fair share of ‘homosexual treatment’ in recent (90s) literature just because some cannot accept that men can actually have unlimited affection for each other WITHOUT the homosexuality bend! The truth is, they did not because they MASTERED that aspect of their affections.

The Catechism calls all of us to the same!..to be SUPERnatural.

:cool:
 
Without getting into graphic detail, since there are children on board and possibly reading along - there are sexual practices which, if engaged in repeatedly, can cause serious physical damage.

I don’t think anyone seriously believes that homosexuals are just harmlessly cuddling on the couch, do they? They are trying to match body parts together that simply were not meant to be put together in that particular way - over and over again, until damage occurs.
How many lesbians practice anal sex? WHy are you focused only on this? Injury from sex (a familiar heterosexual condition, by the way) is a common thing, and not one that the Bible discusses in any way…is it?
 
How many lesbians practice anal sex? WHy are you focused only on this? Injury from sex (a familiar heterosexual condition, by the way) is a common thing, and not one that the Bible discusses in any way…is it?
Did I say “anal sex”? Lesbians also do things to one another that involve mismatched body parts, and my statement was also including those things.

Injuries from sex are caused from doing it wrong - and it’s not really physically possible for homosexuals to do it right, is it? 🤷
 
Grace & Peace!

Deconi, while maria_teresa is more than capable of speaking for herself and responding to you (as I’m sure she will!), I’d like to jump in, too.
I disagree. S/He does not elucidate; rather, seeking justifiable validation in the details and render them subjective instead of accepting simple language!
I honestly don’t know what you think I’m doing here, or what my argument is. I’m not trying to render the catechism subjective, whatever that means. Nor am I seeking justifiable validation from the catechism for homosexual acts, something which it is clear cannot be found therein (my previous posts indicate as much). I’m explicating my understanding of what the catechism says. Review my posts, review what maria_teresa writes and tell us: where are we going wrong?

If your argument is merely that a plain reading of the catechism would not lead us to these conclusions, I think you’re displaying some truly myopic and intensely uncritical thinking tending toward an attitude of, “but the catechism was never meant to be interpreted! It’s simple!” I find such an attitude perplexing and ultimately naive, particularly in light of the history of Christian moral and theological explication. Stating, as you do, that something like this is just a of matter of “accepting simple language” is usually just a confession that we *wish *something like this were as easy as we’d like it to be. It isn’t. And that’s too bad, but that’s just how things are.
I also sense an indignation in your views which lean toward defense, rather than illumination.
I will confess to having an ax to grind here. But it is because I find the logical conclusions of the catechism simply inexplicable. You say I’m reaching those conclusions in error. Where am I going wrong? And if I *am *wrong, show me how the *practical *consequences of my conclusions (quoted in maria_teresa’s post) are in fact different from those of your conclusions. I don’t think you’ll be able to. Which, to me, only raises this question: “if the practical consequences of our conclusions are identical, then are not our conclusions representative of the same idea, but only stated differently?” My hypothesis is that you don’t like my conclusions because you would rather not have to admit that you actually believe them already. Prove me wrong.
The language is clear that homoSEXUALITY is a disorder of a kind. It is not addressing homoAFFECTION because the orientation can only mean and include one MAJOR flaw; the sex bit!
If I knew what you were saying here, I may be able to respond to it more effectively.

But let’s look at what the catechism says and what it doesn’t, yes? It uses the term homosexuality. It does not use the term homoaffection. It does not use the term “orientation” either. These are terms that perhaps you would like the catechism to use. It does not. It has nothing to say for or against homoaffection, probably because the term is a neologism. It has nothing, for that matter, to say against the term homosocial, which is the more well-known word used to describe the idea I think you’re trying to describe. But it doesn’t matter, ultimately, because homosexuality is not merely a disorder after a kind, it is a disordered sexuality. Which is to say, it is a disordered affectivity, a broken relational capacity, a flaw in the very thing that the catechism says affects all aspects of the human person.

The catechism states that the homosexual inclination is objectively disordered. This before any act has been committed. Again, the catechism says that the inclination is objectively disordered. The initial flaw isn’t in the presence of the recollection of a sinful act (which is the only way I can imagine an act as a flaw in an orientation…), the flaw is in the sexuality of the “afflicted” person. The flaw is that they are homosexual. That may not mean that homosexuality is sinful (the catechism is clear on this). The flaw is that they are homosexual. This is the logic of the catechism. That you may not like it is immaterial.

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If I can master the ‘urge’ toward my parents and siblings, so too can I master the ‘urge’ to strangers! Many may say this mastering toward your parent or sibling is natural, but it ISN’T! It may be easier but it is NOT NATURAL!

You know that there are many who do not master this urge in our society! Guess what their argument is! It’s natural!
But the catechism isn’t so much talking about urges, it is talking about a quality of desire, it is talking about how homosexuals desire, and how that desire is objectively disordered. This isn’t about a purely sexual urge, but about how a homosexual desires relationship and whether or not it is possible for them to desire relationship appropriately. The catechism suggests it is not possible.

Here’s an example: gay priests. Many of the more traditionally minded Romans on this board are insistent that homosexuals should not be allowed to be made priests (and this is in line with the Vatican’s pronouncements on those with deep-seated homosexual inclinations). And what is the logic of this prohibition? That the homosexual’s relationship with the masculine and the feminine is out of whack by virtue of their homosexuality, their broken relational capacity–therefore, they will not be able to relate appropriately to either men or women. They cannot image the church properly to the faithful, and they cannot image the masculinity of Christ at the altar correctly. All of these criticisms relate to a perception of the homosexual’s relational capacity as disordered, a perception that is undergirded and supported by the catechism.

A homosexual urge is one thing. Heterosexuals can have homosexual urges and deal with them or dismiss them. An urge us fleeting. A homosexual urge doesn’t mean your sexuality is compromised. Having a deep-seated homosexual inclination, however, is objectively disordered. The catechism does not understand this inclination as fleeting or passing. It understandings it as deep-seated, ongoing. Your talk about urges is immaterial.
The finest example is Jesus and His Apostles! A man loved his friends so much that he gave his life for ‘them’! They gave their lives for him, because they loved him! That kind of love surpasses ALL orientation! Nowhere does it say they had homosexual tendencies.

Soldiers give their lives for EACH OTHER, out of a common cause, but they get and learn to love each other! This does not REQUIRE homosexual tendencies.
You are confusing the homosocial with the homosexual and assuming that others make a similar confusion. I do not. These examples are immaterial. No one is denying that loving friendships exist, or that love is an important part (if not the sine qua non) of friendship.
Jesus and His Apostles as well as the 200 Spartans have had their fair share of ‘homosexual treatment’ in recent (90s) literature just because some cannot accept that men can actually have unlimited affection for each other WITHOUT the homosexuality bend! The truth is, they did not because they MASTERED that aspect of their affections.
I think you have a grave misunderstanding regarding Spartan military society. You’re correct that the Spartans did not base unit cohesion or formation on homosexual pairings (as opposed to the Sacred Band of Thebes, one of the fiercest fighting forces in the Greek world and based on the idea that an army of lovers would be the most courageous), but these pairings were, nonetheless, common. Philip II of Macedon described the Spartans as one of those peoples more “susceptible to this kind of love.” Philip II of Macedon was not a revisionist historian from the '90’s.
The Catechism calls all of us to the same!..to be SUPERnatural.
This reminds me of Merton’s commentary on the mysticism of John of the Cross, and the idea that those who begin to experience visions and visitations often believe they are becoming angels or…supernatural. But, John reveals, they are actually just taking the first steps toward being truly human. Which is to say, I distrust religious sentiment that suggests that we are called to be anything other than truly human (and all that that means, particularly in light of the Incarnation).

Under the Mercy,
Mark

All is Grace and Mercy! Deo Gratias!
 
Deconi,

Thank you for joining this discussion. Your sentence shown below is exactly NOT what the Church sees as the MAJOR flaw. The defect lies not in the sex act, which is but an outward manifestation of the inner broken sexuality. The defective sexuality (homosexuality) prohibits, or makes impossible,
… affectivity, the capacity to love and to procreate, and in a more general way the aptitude for forming bonds of communion with others.
The language is clear that homoSEXUALITY is a disorder of a kind. It is not addressing homoAFFECTION because the orientation can only mean and include one MAJOR flaw; the sex bit!
It is unfortunate that the English language doesn’t have a better word that connotes an easier understanding of ‘sexuality’, which often, at least today, is immediately perceived as only sexual activity. Your term, Deconi, of homoAFFECTION is nowhere used in the CCC, and is a straw man used by you to derail the meaning of my original post. I’m assuming this is not in fact what you consciously meant to do. However, it is clear even from the use of your term homoAFFECTION, that you do not understand what the CCC is stating.

HomoAFFECTION is only possible for people that have a healthy sexuality, or this is at least what the CCC states implicitly. The CCC is very clear that there is a class of people it labels as Homosexual Persons. These Homosexual Persons “have deep-seated homosexual tendencies”, which means that the Homosexual Person has a defective sexuality; which renders them incapable of healthy homoAFFECTION.

The CCC is rather rigorous in its presentation of the Sixth Commandment. The logic flows in a sequential, ordered fashion. I have neither added nor subtracted any content or terms in my presentation. I ask you to take the time to read the CCC on the Sixth Commandment in its entirety. I would further ask that you pay special attention to the defintion of Sexuality in 2332.

Thank you again, Deconi, for your thoughts on this topic.

maria_teresa
 
Deo Volente,

Excellent discussion. I’m wondering if the CCC is reflecting a move away from Scholasticism and toward a presentation reflecting Phenomenology? If so, this would explain much of what we’re discussing.

Do you see Chastity as repairing the Homosexual Person’s defective Sexuality? From the statement of the CCC concerning Chastity, it seems not to do so.
II. THE VOCATION TO CHASTITY
2337 Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being. Sexuality, in which man’s belonging to the bodily and biological world is expressed, becomes personal and truly human when it is integrated into the relationship of one person to another, in the complete and lifelong mutual gift of a man and a woman.
The virtue of chastity therefore involves the integrity of the person and the integrality of the gift.
From the above quote from the CCC, it appears that Chastity acts not as a primary, reparative virtue to Sexuality, but as a secondary, coalescing virtue to Sexuality. A defective Sexuality remains defective; notwithstanding the self-mastery exacted. A Homosexual Person’s defective affectivity would imply that healthy friendship is never a real possibility. Is that what the CCC is implying, Deo Volente?

The CCC’s presentation on the Sixth Commandment is ‘interesting’ to say the very least.

maria_teresa
 
I like my chances with my monogomous relationship with my wife as a protection against STD’s, as we keep SEX within our marriage.
I like your chances, too. I like my chances in my committed heterosexual relationship, and I like the chances of my gay friends in their committed homosexual relationships.

Where is the demonstrable harm in homosexuality, exactly?
Can you say the same about those who ‘sleep around’?
No, I can’t, but I have no idea how it’s relevant to the conversation. We’re not talking about the dangers of promiscuity. We’re talking about the supposed harms of homosexuality (or lack thereof, as it seems to be).
 
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