Nope nope nope and a whole lotta nope.
Well, you obviously have more experience in this than I. But speaking for myself, If my wife died I don’t think it’d be fair for me to marry again as I doubt anyone could replace her.
Good for you to know that. But the first step is not thinking of someone replacing her.
That’s probably the issue for most people though. That they still love their deceased spouse and possibly feel guilty about marrying again.
I agree with agapewolf…
I think one would never stop loving a decease spouse. However , if they decide to go into a relationship or marriage, this should be because they also love their 2nd spouse and they should do what they can to make that marriage work by not making any comparisons. There is a reason why God did not take their lives and that they are still alive on Earth and I believe that if indeed they want to move on, they should do it willingly and not put any burdens on other people’s lives. Life is not easy and sometimes we just have to go with the flow…
Yeah. I do too to a certain extent. But is it not a bit unreasonable to want them to take the ring off. Maybe they get some comfort from it?
You can never force anything on anybody…but I think it would also be hard for the woman if he decides on his own free will to enter into a new relationship. It is a hard situation.
It is in no way unreasonable for a woman to expect a man to take his WEDDING RING TO ANOTHER WOMAN off before dating her. It should be long gone before hand.
Yes…because it’s that easy to just forget a person you may have been married to for years.
So, should women even consider widowers? or should they just be alone for the rest of their lives…It isn’t also fair for the woman to be with a man who does not love her. (what if widower was very young?)
This has nothing to do with what I said.
Yeah, but it seems that “ready” seems to consist of being able to “move on” from your previous spouse. I doubt that it’s as easy as you say.
Nowhere did I say it was easy. If you want to have an intelligent conversation you can’t be making things up here.
If the spouse is dead then they’re not married anymore. Regardless of ring. Perhaps if you’re dating a widow/er one should realise that they will have treasured memories of the first spouse and nothing is going to change that. So either deal with it or find someone else.
Again, stop making stuff up. One doesn’t have anything to do with the other.
Agreed. To leave a wedding ring on means one is not ready emotionally even if one thinks or acts like he is available. It seems a fairly good sign of as yet unintegrated conflicts to “date” and wear at the same time. It might seem strange that any straight thinking male could attempt to do both…yet sometimes the loneliness fighting the undead past bond arrests straight thinking
. I speak from complicated past experience. It took a while to take my ring off at 34.