- Regarding drunkards: I think it is important to understand too distinctions.
Some are alcoholics because of genetic disposition or other emotional causes. This is a disease requiring treatment (psycological as well as physical). Divine Mercy will be predominant when they meet their Maker if they never overcome this problem.
Others are alcoholics by lifestyle choice and unwillingness to conform to God. Divine Justice will be predominant for them upon death.
Unfortunately, we don’t have the omniscience to knwo who is which in many cases so we have to reach out to them in charity and love so as to be instruments of the Holy Spirit.
- You raise a good point about non-drinkers sometimes being uncomfortable in social situations that include alcohol consumption. Whether it be because they are non-drinking alchoholics or sacrificial teetotalers, I understand that they may have to sometimes choose to not be at those places. But that places greater obligation for some Christians to be there. Imagine an alcohol served social gathering with no Christians there? Will it provide greater opportunity or less opportunity for great sinfulness?
I am a child of an alcholic and so is my wife. We take great personal pains to both be moderate. Because of our parents example, we understand the ostracization that occurs to both one who has a drinking problem and one who chooses or HAS to abstain.
Let me tell you a little story that involves a different distortion of a gift from God. I went on a golf outing with seven other guys. After a day of golfing, we went to dinner and had a few drinks. Before long someone suggested that they go to the strip club. One person made his views known in a subtle and charitable way and retired to his room. I chose to go along.
The next morning, this fellow Catholic Christian said “I was really disappointed that you condoned their conduct and went along.” To paraphrase my response I said, "you have it wrong. I never condoned it. I went, placed my back to the stage and took great pains to let them know that I wasn’t enjoying the show but was enjoying their company. After listening to a couple of snide remarks about you and your “holier than thou” attitude (to which I said nothing), I was asked why I wasn’t looking at the girls. I responded, “I have daughters and they are someone’s daughter.” You could have heard a pin drop by the two guys who heard my comment who also had daughters. I was given an opportunity to witness in a way by being there that you weren’t. It is in combination that we spread the Good News. I didn’t have to quote scripture, I didn’t separate myself, and I appealed to their inner conscience where the Holy Spirit was already talking.
While this friend still thought I caused scandal, I am quite comfortable that I showed a greater good that I could hate their sin but I still loved them as persons. At the risk of sounding prideful

, several months later one of the guys said that he hasn’t been to a strip club since and never will.
Coincidentally, the other day I was with this same Catholic Christian. We had been forwarded a “joke” that was offensive. I responded by expressing that I didn’t see any humor. I told this friend that I was disappointed that he didn’t second my opinion. He responded that he just deleted it with no response. I was kinda hard on him for appearing to condone it. Now that I recall these two events together and realized that he always says “good joke” or some other positive response to unoffensive jokes, I realize that I need to better live by my own preaching of the following:
There are different strokes for different folks. We have to respond as we feel called. Not all responses are the same for everyone.