Yes, you read that right.
Indeed. As relationships and marriage are all about meeting each other halfway and learning new ways of doing things, you’re probably right not to bother looking.Green flag:
Red flag:
- Compassionate
- Great sense of humor
- Feminist (yes, men too can believe in equality for women)
- Non-smoker
- Vegan
- Understands that my children ALWAYS come first. FOREVER.
- Sleeps in another room; my pet pig sleeps with me and that ain’t gonna change
- Devout in any faith, as long as it doesn’t violate any of the items listed above
You see why I don’t even bother looking?
- Not meeting any of the above criteria 100%
I’m not willing to compromise anything about my current lifestyle. I’ve earned that right.
Jala
In all honesty, it would probably take a man who hates himself to bother with some of the items on that list. But hey, enjoy your pig!I know that some character traits are simply a matter of personal preference, but the ones in red are just objectively bad qualities. Especially if/once you get married, I can’t envision myself saying to the children, “why can’t you try be more cowardly, ignorant, and easily taken advantage of… you know, like your mother!”Yes, you read that right.
Yeah, the one that kind of made me goI know that some character traits are simply a matter of personal preference, but the ones in red are just objectively bad qualities. Especially if/once you get married, I can’t envision myself saying to the children, “why can’t you try be more cowardly, ignorant, and easily taken advantage of… you know, like your mother!”
was ‘obedient.’Ignorant and easily taken advantage of, well I’ll explain that later. Cowardly though? No, no, no you are confused there. Finding a cute girl that’s easily startled can be endearing but I can’t call that cowardly. Real cowards are simultaneously either villains or comic relief. They’re filled with so much fear that they’re paranoid. Mine is an ingenue. Fear levels in that archetype are in fact very much in the normal.I know that some character traits are simply a matter of personal preference, but the ones in red are just objectively bad qualities. Especially if/once you get married, I can’t envision myself saying to the children, “why can’t you try be more cowardly, ignorant, and easily taken advantage of… you know, like your mother!”
One of the nice things about this thread is that it allows us to see the diversity of values and attitudes that we have; what we prize and what we rejectJala:
In all honesty, it would probably take a man who hates himself to bother with some of the items on that list. But hey, enjoy your pig!Code:Compassionate Great sense of humor Feminist (yes, men too can believe in equality for women) Non-smoker Vegan Understands that my children ALWAYS come first. FOREVER. Sleeps in another room; my pet pig sleeps with me and that ain't gonna change Devout in any faith, as long as it doesn't violate any of the items listed above
I’d say that being ousted from the bed in favor of a pig is the big one.
Yes, I admit that I am puzzled by that as well. Why not just get a bigger bed? Or, if a king-sized bed is too small, why not push two beds together?I’d say that being ousted from the bed in favor of a pig is the big one.
Obedient? As in a domesticated house pet? A poodle perhaps? You can find a nice one at an animal rescue shelter near your home!
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This response is so typical, I’m surprised it took my post this long to snag one.
Yeah, just cuz I want woman I won’t have to raise some kind of guard around automatically makes me Edward Cullen. 
I wish the alpha female movement could’ve left at least one or two in my local population.OK, you’ve piqued my curiosity–why would a man have to hate himself to be a non-smoking vegan who believes in “family first?”
Do you have something against celibate marriages, or non-celibate partners sleeping in separate beds? Or is sex the only thing you value in a partner?I’d say that being ousted from the bed in favor of a pig is the big one.
A couple of the others, like the demanded focus on feminism, aren’t concretely that way, but seem to echo the sentiment. There’s nothing wrong with equality for women, but still: Feminism + giving up one’s space for an animal? What other conclusions does that lead one to primarily draw?
This response is so typical, I’m surprised it took my post this long to snag one.
Thanks for re-enacting the kind of character interaction my author avatars get and what I set out to deconstruct.
P.S.
And for the record? I know one or two female saints who have qualified for my list. The Bible also speaks very highly of obedient wives.
The best part is I’m not even on the same end as those extreme enough to impose such standards on other women.
I’m just your closet alpha wondering why he can’t even find just a single ingenue these days.
I’m sure you’ll find some girl out there that would be more than happy to be your domesticated pretty pet instead of your marriage partner It’s difficult to arrange a proper “list” (being a believer in compromise and flexibility) but like everyone else I look for certain qualities in a potential Mrs. Right.I saw this question on CM back when I tried online dating…and I thought it would be interesting to post it here too. So…
1- What turns you on in your quest of Mr or Mrs Right?
2- What turns you off?
It’s time to be honest y’all.
That’s quite typical too. Keep 'em coming. You’re making an excellent case of fiction having equally bizarre basis in reality.
(Oh and giving me material for my Snarky Feminist lines on the side.)