Am I being chaste?

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People please give up, the OP has only posted 1 post, I bet she hasn’t even looked at this thread again and we are going into some fancy theology lol.
 
Peasblossom said:
My boyfriend and I want to be chaste and we are sure to practice abstinence. However, I want to lay some concrete boundaries for us so that we don’t “go too far.”

What would be a good place to start? Is it alright for us to see each other nude?

He rationalizes the nudity question by claiming that he has no impure thoughts about it and he justs wants to appreciate the beauty God has given me. He says there is no chance that being nude right now would cause him to disregard the respect he has for me or to objectify me.

I just don’t want to bring him to the occasion of sin. What should I do?
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Basically, don’t do anything you don’t want your future spouse doing with anyone else. My husband and I had a rule that if we were doing something, and it was questionable, we’d imagine if our future spuse was doing that right now with someone else, and we usually stopped. There is also a general rule of “if you have to ask if it’s wrong, you’ve already gone too far”

the less you do before marriage, the better. PLEASE trust me on this. My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night, but we screwed up in the past, and we regret it more now that we did then.
 
Apodino,

Just wanted to thank you for your insights. They reminded me of what the Pope said regarding nakedness, and how we are called to see it not sexually, but as the work of God … with Holy eyes. Granted, a near impossible task in this modern day world. But one worth aspiring to.
 
Thank you to all who have participated. This thread is now closed.
 
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