When speaking of confidence, is that confidence is what is perceived when people have behaviors in the range from just outgoing or extroverted to rude and harsh. I don’t think many people like arrogance and bad personalities in itself.
The rescuing part is what your are describing about your friends. There is the idealization of flaws too. Something many nerdy girls indulge into. Related to the popularity of contemporary villians. More on that could be explored. I see a relation, to the abandonment and dissing of virtues, but that is another topic.
We can go onto other topics. For behold, this is a thread for all anime-related things, and we have free reign within it! Bwahahaha!
The idealization of flaws is a part of it, but only certain types of flaws. And it’s not entirely because of flaws, as I said before. It’s just… We like characters that feel human. I, personally, like characters that I can identify with, and that’s just as often due to negative characteristics as positive ones.
The last time I had a conversation with an IRL friend that consisted mostly of gushing about a male anime character, the consensus was that Tamaki Suoh from Ouran was the “ideal man” because he was a lovable idiot who nevertheless cared deeply about his friends and love interest. We weren’t really serious, but I think there’s a certain amount to be said for liking flawed characters who struggle to overcome their flaws. He’s an idiot who needs to be taken care of to an extent- it’s not that he’s helpless, but he certainly doesn’t always know what to do. And neither do we, but we like the idea of working together to figure it out.
Applying the idea to a more “bad boy” character- say Prince Zuko (I know ATLA isn’t anime, but it’s the first thing that came to mind)- nobody likes him because he’s proud or rude or cruel. They like him because he tries really hard to be good. Because he’s already failed once and is trying to get back up. Because his determination is admirable. And sometimes, paradoxically, because he can be really dorky and the opposite of cool. Because his flaws and awkwardness make him human, instead of being a boring “perfect” guy.
So in that sense, yeah, we definitely idealize flaws. Not always moral flaws, but that’s part of it. You know, it’s kind of funny, because on the Twilight thread they’re discussing whether women have a right to think about “perfect” men in the first place. But why would you want to read about a perfect person? You won’t be able to relate to them, nor they with you. You won’t be able to work together to solve problems, or grow stronger alongside them. You’ll always be dead weight, and I don’t think too many people like that idea.
About “girls like jerks because they’re confident”, is something I’ve seen in person.
I don’t doubt it, but that’s definitely not the only reason for liking “jerk” characters, or even villains. I guess I’m just saying that theories are fine (and good! And fun!), but this one doesn’t offer the entire picture.
Certainly with nerds there are other things going one. Like traumas, the consequences of social isolation in some parts of life, and the tendency to gravitate towards certain ideologies. A interesting topic to study. I’ve had the privilege of sorts, to interact with a varied range of people, having friends and acquaintances from various social environments, attitudes towards life and ideologies. There are certain things that I have perceived among nerds and geeks (the belief that their tastes are like High Culture being one of them) that has helped me gain insights about the influence of art and entertainment in people, and specially, the more dedicated to their entertainment or cultural interests.
Haha, well, I wouldn’t say we’re participating in “high culture”. But it is culture, or at least a subculture, and it sure is fun to analyze!
Or just gush about. However we’re feeling that day.
