I would just like to note that I am becoming disgusted with how characters of the same sex cannot apparently just be friends anymore in anime. Even in shows where there are no real yuri undertones, the fanbases will ship the two close friends anyways.
Chu2koi is one example, and this week’s episode focusing on Shinka and Dekomori brings it to the front. I don’t get any yuri undertones from their interactions. If they exist they are very subtle or ambiguous. Nevertheless, there are plenty of people saying “I can’t see Nibutani and Dekomori as anything but a couple. They need to get together NOW!” or some variation–all because they appear to have some kind of friendship beneath all the efforts to annoy each other and know how to push each other’s buttons (as the expression goes). Why can’t they just be friends?
Why can’t two guys or two girls in a show with no yuri undertones (talking about anime in general here) be just friends? That’s the way it’s been in my life. Is it that impossible for people to imagine friendly relationships with no sexual or romantic aspects between any two people, whether it’s two people of the same or different sexes?
I agree, but that’s how fandom is. It ships people. All the people. I think it’s really great when we can have close non-romantic friendships in fiction, whether it’s between two guys, two girls, or a girl and a guy. Friendship is really important, and I’m glad when people can appreciate friendship for what it is, instead of wanting it to be something else. I think there are a lot of people who do appreciate friendships, but there’s always going to be someone in the fandom who wants to make it romantic or sexual, and you just have to kind of ignore it.
Which is not to say that it doesn’t have negative effects- just that it doesn’t surprise me. Even apart from the same-gender ships, shipping everything devalues canon friendships, and, by extension, actual friendships in real life. We (fans) end up seeing relationships as meaningless or unimportant if they don’t include romantic feelings, and/or lead to marriage/sex. In real life, friendships are incredibly important relationships. They might not be as important as, say, a marriage relationship, but they’re really valuable in and of themselves.
Fortunately it doesn’t seem to be so much a problem with anime itself (I mean, it’s becoming a problem, but there’re still lots of uncomplicated friendships, as well as familial ties and other kinds of relationships) as with fandom. I guess the best thing we can do is just appreciate friendships the way they are.
Heh, yep, join the club!

Although, I’ve been tired of that for a while, to be honest. But usually, I just ignore comments like that and not let it get to me, since I can completely understand why people would want to see that. I’ve been there myself, and as I’ve said before (I think), if I wasn’t taking my faith seriously (and restraining my fleshly desires), I would probably still be shipping female couples delightedly.
For myself, when I used to ship females, I had a 2-fold reasoning (which I’m sure is the same for a lot of other people):
- There was something extremely… er… sexual/gratifying, I guess, about seeing female couples together. Not males, though…
- I wanted to see them happy! And unfortunately, back then, my perception of ultimate happiness was to see 2 humans together “in love”, w/out it even mattering if they’re the same gender, though preferably opposite.
I’d probably ship about the same things even without my faith. I’m not really a huge shipper, and the relationships I do like tend to be kinda bordering on platonic anyways. I usually just like seeing people interact and form bonds.
Your second point brings up another negative consequence of shipping everybody- namely, conflating romantic relationships with happiness. I like to think that romance isn’t necessary for happiness, or for having a fulfilling, enjoyable life.
Man, now you guys have me examining my shipping choices. I’m not sure any of my favorite ships are likely to end up married, or in some cases are even able to get married. Huh. That’s actually kind of weird, now that I think about it.