Anything about you that goes against "traditional" gender roles?

[LethalMouse]

Not a big sports watcher
Cooking skills

Also, for a short time I got into that desperate housewives show though it was promted by a female friend lol.

Oh and my girl babysitter got me and my buddy hooked on two soaps for a bit in the young teen years. Idk we were probably between 12 and 14? Who knows lol.

But Days of Our Lives and Passions lol. Only once missed for a bit you turn it on and most of the characters are new so you just give up LMAO

 

[bitterhope]

Huh?

I like and excel in math and science. That does not mean I am gay.

That means I do not fit the stereotype of how girls are supposed to be bad at math and science.

Just because none of us here fit the stereotype of being girly does not mean we are all gay.

Last time I checked it is sn’t a sin for women to like math and science or like things that aren’t typically liked by the stereotypical woman.

My mom was a full time working woman with a PhD in science. I’m pretty sure she was not gay. She had a great marriage to my dad and had more children than anybody else I know. Nothing at all wrong with making your own way in life.

Dad was retired Army. He became a police officer when he retired. He worked nights and raised babies by day. He always had one of us strapped to his back,out in the fields, or mopping the floor, or making a bed. He’s the one that taught me to cook and sew. The best lesson my parents taught me was in a family, you do whatever it takes to make life work. There is no woman’s work or men’s work in family life. Whoever is there when something needs to be done is the one that does it. Mom worked days so dad did carpool and diapers and laundry. He started dinner (or supervised it) before going to bed. Mom got home to finish dinner, we ate, she did homework duty, baths and bed. Dad would wake up in time for night shift. He set the bar high for my future husband. I mainly fell in love with the man I did because I saw him sewing up his own pants in the barn one day, and then he cooked himself lunch. When he came to my house one day when my nephews were there and changed diapers and played with them, I knew I found a keeper. In family, everybody pulls their weight and everybody does whatever it takes to keep things running smoothly. life throws curves, you learn to adjust.

 

[saellis]

I hate football and I take a pink coffee cup to work. My wife is cool with it

 

[LethalMouse]

I hate football and I take a pink coffee cup to work. My wife is cool with it

Real men do pink, you just aren’t allowed to buy it, you have to acquire it lol

 

[adamhovey1988]

The recent topic on how “women should appreciate masculine virtues” inspired this.

I suspect many posting on CAF have attributes that do not follow traditional gender roles.

For example, I work in a traditionally male-dominated career field, and I follow professional sports. I also participated in competitive swimming when I was young. I wear pants when I work, though I do wear dresses and skirts at home. I do think modesty is important but I do not think wearing pants is inherently immodest.

I also tend toward being messy, I have never figured out how to keep my home organized and pristine the way a 1950’s housewife supposedly did. But I think some of this is just not being taught, because my mother is also like that. On the other hand my mother is a great cook and I have followed in that.

I have never questioned my gender identity, I am certainly a woman even if I may not possess all of the traditionally “feminine virtues”.

I’m extremely open about my emotions to friends and family which is apparently considered a feminine trait but as far as gender roles are concerned I’m not quite sure. I think there are some positive things about traditional masculinity and some very negative things the traditional things that I think is positive is the protective status of the man the traditional thing I think is negative is the machismo of it

 

[zamyrabyrd]

As a compulsive organizer, I love cleaning. I am very much into girly stuff, jewelry, make-up, and most of my clothes are decidedly feminine. I always loved sewing, used to make clothes for my dolls and still have a few dolls I purchased as an adult. I am really not into “fix-it” but can figure out something if pressed to the wall.

One thing, perhaps not traditionally feminine, is my inclination to argue anything anywhere. Probably I got this from interacting this way with my father. If I weren’t a musician, I should have become a lawyer. I prefer spirited intellectual bouts with men than the typical gossip around the quilting table or after church tea and cookies.

 

[10gr8kids]

Captain America is who I wanted to be when I was a little girl. I love sports, especially baseball. I am very disorganized. I can fix anything including my van. I’d much rather watch the Avengers than any girlie movie. I live in jeans, tshirts and boots. I wrestle and roughhouse with my kids and climb trees even when I’m pregnant. I used to break Thorobred race horses for a living until I got married, now I never get to ride because I’m always pregnant. Basically I was, am, and always will be a tomboy. I don’t where makeup, rarely wear jewelry and have never colored/styled my hair. I just pull it back in a braid, ponytail or bun or I wear it simply in some way. My dad used to joke that it was good I was closest in age to one of my brothers because I probably would have hurt one of my sisters playing the way I did. But I’m also very comfortable in skirts. I’m very motherly, always was. I have no issues deferring to my husband’s judgment even though he rarely has in 20 years of knowing each other made a decision without me. Usually he asks me what to do and nearly always follows my lead. I do let my girls put makeup on me sometimes or paint my nails, and I love painting their nails for them. We have family tea parties too. So I guess I am just all mixed up.

This sounds just about like me, except I’m probably several years older. I broke Quarter horses (not nearly as high strung as Thourghbreds), and not for a living; just for fun.

 

[Faxero]

I’m a male and I think rabbits are cute. Does that make me nontraditional? Not at all.
We shouldn’t buy into stereotypes. At the same time, there are differences between the male and female person that are not stereotypes, but archetypes.

The Church recognizes key differences in a man and woman’s sexuality. Since sexuality affects all aspects of the human person (2332), then male and female flavors of it may be manifested in everyday life, starting at around age 5.

The truth and meaning of human sexuality
vatican.va/roman_curia/pontifical_councils/family/documents/rc_pc_family_doc_08121995_human-sexuality_en.html

1. During the years of innocence, girls will generally be developing a maternal interest in babies, motherhood and homemaking. By constantly taking the Motherhood of the most holy Virgin Mary as a model, they should be encouraged to value their femininity.
2. During the years of innocence, a boy is at a relatively tranquil stage of development. This is often the easiest time for him to set up a good relationship with his father. At this time, he should learn that, although it must be considered as a divine gift, his masculinity is not a sign of superiority with regard to women, but a call from God to take on certain roles and responsibilities. Boys should be discouraged from becoming overly aggressive or too concerned about physical prowess as proof of their virility.

 

[ThePCWife]

Yep. Don’t follow the traditional gender role of the woman who brags about how many manly things she does. It’s very old, very traditional and for some reason the women who are traditional this way think they’re doing something unusual.

 

[saellis]

Yep. Don’t follow the traditional gender role of the woman who brags about how many manly things she does. It’s very old, very traditional and for some reason the women who are traditional this way think they’re doing something unusual.

 

[gardenswithkids]

This thread is funny. I consider myself to be someone who generally falls into “traditional” gender roles. Several (if not most) of the things written here makes me wonder where some of you people got your ideas about gender roles.

I hate cleaning the bathroom

I never realized that as a women I was suppose to enjoy cleaning bathrooms. I want bathrooms to be clean and more importantly sanitary, therefore I clean them, but I consider the job of cleaning bathrooms to be drudgery. Scrubbing toilets makes me feel more like a janitor than a woman.

I dress up for Sunday Mass but am a comfy jeans and T-shirt type of girl the rest of the week.

I like jeans. I’ll argue that it’s still feminine but some think any sort of pants is masculine.

I like jeans too and wear them nearly every day in winter. As a gender-stereotyped woman, I use my stereotypically-female fashion awareness and I notice that most women wear jeans now. One could easily make the argument that it’s gender typical for women to look around and see what other women are wearing, then dress in a similar fashion.

Yep. Don’t follow the traditional gender role of the woman who brags about how many manly things she does. It’s very old, very traditional and for some reason the women who are traditional this way think they’re doing something unusual.

 

[Lea101]

I’m a male and I think rabbits are cute. Does that make me nontraditional? Not at all.
We shouldn’t buy into stereotypes. At the same time, there are differences between the male and female person that are not stereotypes, but archetypes.

The Church recognizes key differences in a man and woman’s sexuality. Since sexuality affects all aspects of the human person (2332), then male and female flavors of it may be manifested in everyday life, starting at around age 5.

The truth and meaning of human sexuality
vatican.va/roman_curia/pontifical_councils/family/documents/rc_pc_family_doc_08121995_human-sexuality_en.html

1. During the years of innocence, girls will generally be developing a maternal interest in babies, motherhood and homemaking. By constantly taking the Motherhood of the most holy Virgin Mary as a model, they should be encouraged to value their femininity.
2. During the years of innocence, a boy is at a relatively tranquil stage of development. This is often the easiest time for him to set up a good relationship with his father. At this time, he should learn that, although it must be considered as a divine gift, his masculinity is not a sign of superiority with regard to women, but a call from God to take on certain roles and responsibilities. Boys should be discouraged from becoming overly aggressive or too concerned about physical prowess as proof of their virility.

I find babies cute and a possibility in the future but motherhood (the reality of it, not just tickling babies) and homemaking honestly makes me want to cry and be a Leo instead

 

[kptrs]

My husband does all the cooking in our house. I don’t remember the last time I prepared a meal.

I do most of the childcare, though. So my husband’s taking on the traditional wife’s role of cooking frees me up to pay more attention to the kids, I guess.

 

[Lea101]

This thread is funny. I consider myself to be someone who generally falls into “traditional” gender roles. Several (if not most) of the things written here makes me wonder where some of you people got your ideas about gender roles.

I never realized that as a women I was suppose to enjoy cleaning bathrooms. I want bathrooms to be clean and more importantly sanitary, therefore I clean them, but I consider the job of cleaning bathrooms to be drudgery. Scrubbing toilets makes me feel more like a janitor than a woman.

I like jeans too and wear them nearly every day in winter. As a gender-stereotyped woman, I use my stereotypically-female fashion awareness and I notice that most women wear jeans now. One could easily make the argument that it’s gender typical for women to look around and see what other women are wearing, then dress in a similar fashion.

Traditional idea of femininity is more of ‘pretty’ stuff. So for the jeans and stuff, while girls wear it, people will generally think a feminine/girly girl will be into skirts ans dresses and makeup and lace and stuff like that.

As for housework, it’s seen as a “woman’s” job. While I don’t think people in general enjoy housework, you see christian women gushing about keeping the house tidy and being all sweet and demure for their husbands. This stuff was/is considered traditionally feminine, which is what most of us are probably thinking of when looking at this thread

 

[IWantGod]

The recent topic on how “women should appreciate masculine virtues” inspired this.

I suspect many posting on CAF have attributes that do not follow traditional gender roles.

For example, I work in a traditionally male-dominated career field, and I follow professional sports. I also participated in competitive swimming when I was young. I wear pants when I work, though I do wear dresses and skirts at home. I do think modesty is important but I do not think wearing pants is inherently immodest.

I also tend toward being messy, I have never figured out how to keep my home organized and pristine the way a 1950’s housewife supposedly did. But I think some of this is just not being taught, because my mother is also like that. On the other hand my mother is a great cook and I have followed in that.

I have never questioned my gender identity, I am certainly a woman even if I may not possess all of the traditionally “feminine virtues”.

I’m an extremely beautiful man. I keep getting chatted up by straight men because they think I’m a women. Little do they know is that i have a very large sexual organ hanging between my legs.

 

[Sarcelle]

Yep. Don’t follow the traditional gender role of the woman who brags about how many manly things she does. It’s very old, very traditional and for some reason the women who are traditional this way think they’re doing something unusual.

I have met some women who take pride in not being able to cook or do housework.

Why?



To me, being able to cook, garden, all the home making skills are way underrated.

 

[Lea101]

I have met some women who take pride in not being able to cook or do housework.

Why?



To me, being able to cook, garden, all the home making skills are way underrated.

It’s the whole “I’m not like other girls” mentality. We see this all of the time. “I’m not like them…I don’t like drama/drinking/I prefer hanging out with the guys”. Women (although usually younger, so girls mostly) tend to just like being different. Usually to look like a super “chill guy”. God knows why. Could be internalised prejudice against women/feminine women. Could be nature.

My friends like to act as if they can’t cook to look ditzy and cute. Pretty sure nobody finds it cute though! I can only cook if I follow a recipe (besides pasta) I cannot cook without looking carefully at one, which sucks lol! I would love to be able to whip up something just by using what we have in the cupboards

Housework is always a pain in the butt but everyone should be able to do it imo. While hardly anybody likes it, it’s weird to be proud of the fact that one sucks at it. I suck at it. Not proud of it. But then again I don’t do anything to help myself because lazy

Men should also start taking the effort to learn these skills if they haven’t already!

 

[Lea101]

Not a big sports watcher
Cooking skills

Also, for a short time I got into that desperate housewives show though it was promted by a female friend lol.

Oh and my girl babysitter got me and my buddy hooked on two soaps for a bit in the young teen years. Idk we were probably between 12 and 14? Who knows lol.

But Days of Our Lives and Passions lol. Only once missed for a bit you turn it on and most of the characters are new so you just give up LMAO

For hours I thought soaps as in the thing you clean yourself. I was quite shocked lol!

Cooking skills are always A+ in a man or a woman. My husband better be able to cook something because while I can follow a recipe, I have a bad habit of dropping knives on my bare foot. And also rubbing my eyes after chopping chilli. If he loves me he better be a little feminine and help me out

 

[DarkLight]

I suspect some of the adult attitude really depends on where and how you grew up. I grew up in circles where the expectation of women was that a woman’s ultimate goal in life was to get married and become a stay-at-home mother who kept the house for her wage-earning husband. So against that background having “unfeminine” traits becomes more noticeable.

 

[LethalMouse]

For hours I thought soaps as in the thing you clean yourself. I was quite shocked lol!

Cooking skills are always A+ in a man or a woman. My husband better be able to cook something because while I can follow a recipe, I have a bad habit of dropping knives on my bare foot. And also rubbing my eyes after chopping chilli. If he loves me he better be a little feminine and help me out

What is this thing that you clean yourself with?