Archdiocese criticized for implementing Courage

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I do not accept that there is any moral distinction between having sex with a child before or after puberty.

Alright, but I’m not trying to limit their culpability. Whether edo- or ephebophile, I only say that the acts were still largely homosexual.

The Church is confused between homosexuality in which one is attracted to other adults of the same sex, and attraction to children. Is there in fact a similar ban on those attracted to children? Or is it just gays?

I’m sure that if you admitted a comparable ‘deep-seated love of children’ or ‘involvement in the pedophile culture’ any given vocations director would tell you that your vocation isn’t behind a Roman collar or anything to do with the Church.
The John Jay Report, as well as a load of anecdotal accounts seem to indicate that the victims were not necessarily pedophiles or ephebophiles–the behavior in question often didn’t fit the patterns seen in pedophiles elsewhere.

Rather, a pattern was established where a sexually-repressed, developmentally-frozen, immature person under stress ‘acted out’ on someone close to him, who was unlikely to say anything.
 
The link you provide does not seem to me to show any such preponderance of preference for boys. It shows that more boys than girls were involved in the** total **number of abuse complaints. A hugely disproportionate number of boys, compared to girls, for examle were shown pornography. But the numbers of girls and boys subjected to ‘penile penetration’ are roughly the same. Same for other very serious abuse categories.
 
Well, that is not what the Vatican document says.
Another important thing to consider is something Pope Benedict XVI states very clearly in the Light of the World interview on the difficulty of genuine priestly celibacy as a fully-identified homosexual:
Homosexuality is incompatible with the priestly vocation. Otherwise, celibacy would lose its meaning as a renunciation. It would be extremely dangerous if celibacy became a sort of pretext for bringing people into the priesthood who don’t want to get married anyway. For, in the end, their attitude toward man and woman is somehow distorted, off center and, in any case, is not within the direction of creation of which we have spoken… The Congregation for Education issued a decision a few years ago to the effect that homosexual candidates cannot become priests because their sexual orientation estranges them from the proper sense of paternity, for the intrinsic nature of priestly being. The selection of candidates to the priesthood must therefore be very careful. The greatest attention is needed here in order to prevent the intrusion of this kind of ambiguity and to head off a situation where the celibacy of priests would practically end up being identified with the tendency to homosexuality.
 
This is my archdiocese. And I know the deacon quoted.

There have been blurbs in the local press but no real push back

My take thus far–right now it’s not making that much of a big deal…

I’ll let you know if it changes
 
I. The Church is confused between homosexuality in which one is attracted to other adults of the same sex, and attraction to children.
Are you trying to claim that teens cannot be gay, as they not adults?
 
That’s a great blessing that the radical gay bullies are a raising a stink about the Archdiocese implementing Courage. I bet there are people who are living that life that want out but would have never known about the Courage ministry otherwise. I have heard of similar situation where a gay radical tried to character assassinate a psychotherapist who helps people with SSA sometimes even becoming straight, and he got a lot of business because of it.
 
The link you provide does not seem to me to show any such preponderance of preference for boys. It shows that more boys than girls were involved in the** total **number of abuse complaints. A hugely disproportionate number of boys, compared to girls, for examle were shown pornography.
But the numbers of girls and boys subjected to ‘penile penetration’ are roughly the same. Same for other very serious abuse categories.
Now we come across a crossroads: what is the more important question here?–(1) the gravity of the abuse or (2) being able to handle those clerics who are abusers?

Let’s consider a couple points:
  • The ‘gravity’ of abuse is subjective. Excuse me for being callous, but what is traumatic for one person is commonplace for another. So we’d be sitting here for hours debating over whether ‘penile penetration’ is more damaging than showing a young child a homosexual rough sex pornography and then masturbating him to climax.
  • If a priest is on showing another person pornography, viewing it himself, or groping someone over their clothes, he probably needs to have his active ministry ‘looked at’ REAL closely by his bishop, superior, or dean. This is a problem that must be dealt with just as severely as those clerics engaging in ‘penile penetration.’
  • Penile penetration for male homosexuals, in general, is rarer than penile penetration for heterosexual couples. C.f. Wikipedia’s article on Male-Male anal sex prevalence. Surprising, I know.
In any case, the fact that the percentage of ‘serious acts’ committed were roughly equivalent for both categories, does not change that the overwhelming majority of the abuse was homosexual!
 
Well, that is not what the Vatican document says.
A careful reading of the document shows that it is EXACTLY what it says.
In the light of such teaching, this Dicastery, in accord with the Congregation for Divine Worship and the Discipline of the Sacraments, believes it necessary to state clearly that the Church, while profoundly respecting the persons in question[9], cannot admit to the seminary or to holy orders those who *practise *homosexuality, present *deep-seated homosexual tendencies *or *support the so-called “gay culture”*10].
In the first instance, there is no real distinction between a homosexual or a heterosexual. If either man is sexually active, they are going to be barred from the priesthood. Similarly, a man who supports the gay culture - whether homosexual or heterosexual - is properly barred from holy orders in the Catholic Church because that lifestyle is in direct conflict with Church teaching. The only remaining bar is to men with “deep-seated homosexual tendencies” - in other words, homosexual men who struggle deeply with an impulse towards unchastity. Those same “deep-seated” impulses in a heterosexually oriented man would also bar him from admission to the priesthood.

The language of the document is not an absolute bar to the man who has same-sex attraction. It allows for admission where a man maintains a chaste life, and does not support the gay culture. It would exclude only homosexual men who (1) live unchastely in thought or in deed; and/or (2) support gay culture. The priesthood is still open to the man with same-sex attraction who can live chastely and support the Church in all of her teachings.

Respectfully, Hokomai, your assertion is not supported by the plain language of the document.

Peace,
Robert
 
I do not accept that there is any moral distinction between having sex with a child before or after puberty. The Church is confused between homosexuality in which one is attracted to other adults of the same sex, and attraction to children. Is there in fact a similar ban on those attracted to children? Or is it just gays?
C’mon. Don’t both sides here agree that pedophilia is a mental disorder? Wouldn’t a declaration stating that pedophiles are excluded from the priesthood be akin to a mandating a warning label on a box of nails stating, “Do not eat.” :rolleyes:

Peace,
Robert
 
The Church, clearly and unequivocally discriminates against chaste homosexuals in relation to those seeking to be priests. This is what makes it difficult to defend the argument that the Church simply requires chastity. I does not. It requires people to be tempted only by “ordered” sins. Incidentally, I cannot find a similar prohibition on those with a desire to have sex with children.
I can see what you are saying here and part of me does feel that chaste homosexual men should be able to be priests.

On the other hand, as Archbishop Wilton Gregory (love this Bishop!) pointed out: an unfortunate “gay culture” began to emerge in US seminaries. This was and is not OK. So I can see the wisdom in discouraging “deep-seated” homosexuals from being priests.

That being said, I don’t know what “deep seated” is. I’m not “kind of” heterosexual. I’m just heterosexual so how can someone be more or less gay?
 
Well, that is not what the Vatican document says.
It would be helpful to know what your specific issue(s) may be, as well as your direct interest in this subject. None are apparent from your posts. Perhaps with better understanding we can be of better service to you.

You list yourself as a “non-believer”, so we don’t support you are interested in Holy Orders.

Have you or someone you know been effected personally by the issues alluded to in this thread? If so, we can provide many resources to help you or those close to you to begin a most challenging healing process.

However, since you post on all controversial subject relating to the Church on CAF, we’ll assume for the moment that you are simply attempting to antagonize.

That said, you haven’t managed to trip anyone up here yet. They have all responded fairly and with true Christian charity. You will not succeed in trampling over these good people, particularly on this most holy of feast days of the Church, when the Holy Spirit generously pours forth blessings on all those who do believe.

Respectfully suggest you search for another outlet to vent your frustrations, as this one has been exhausted …
 
It would be helpful to know what your specific issue(s) may be, as well as your direct interest in this subject. None are apparent from your posts. Perhaps with better understanding we can be of better service to you.

You list yourself as a “non-believer”, so we don’t support you are interested in Holy Orders.

Have you or someone you know been effected personally by the issues alluded to in this thread? If so, we can provide many resources to help you or those close to you to begin a most challenging healing process.

However, since you post on all controversial subject relating to the Church on CAF, we’ll assume for the moment that you are simply attempting to antagonize.

That said, you haven’t managed to trip anyone up here yet. They have all responded fairly and with true Christian charity. You will not succeed in trampling over these good people, particularly on this most holy of feast days of the Church, when the Holy Spirit generously pours forth blessings on all those who do believe.

Respectfully suggest you search for another outlet to vent your frustrations, as this one has been exhausted …
I am not sure who ‘we’ is in your post, but I am not trying to antagonise anyone. I am interested in Catholic belief, and have some views on the Church’s actions in a small number of areas. are people like me welcome on CAF or not?
 
I am not sure who ‘we’ is in your post, but I am not trying to antagonise anyone. I am interested in Catholic belief, and have some views on the Church’s actions in a small number of areas. are people like me welcome on CAF or not?
Indeed, contrary views are welcome - they are expressed even between Catholics that post here! The “small number of areas” on which you seemingly focus IMO happen to be the most controversial. However, it is enlightening to now know that you are genuinely interested in Catholic belief, and hope that helps lead you to a “believing” Christian state of being.

The Church, like any other organization, struggles with many issues. She must reconcile teachings to which She must remain True to all forms of external influences: societal; economic, etc; over the course of time. We Catholics try to distinguish between acts of man and will of God. The Truth as preserved by the Church, even if seemingly distorted at times by those who serve it, cannot and will not change. It was given by God, and we will not fully understand it until we realize the promise of salvation given to us, that is, all who seek it.

So, to some (perhaps many), we Catholics may not have always well managed to protect our children from the most egregious abuse, and now do so with restrictions that may seem unjust to some. We may not successfully defend life without seemingly suggesting that the exercise of free will (a gift from God) of women be limited, especially in cases where the expectant mother may have been violated in the most horrendous fashion. These are difficult issues. Many Catholics who work in noble vocations, supporting victims of abuse on a daily basis, struggle greatly with them. So, in fairness and in this regard, I suppose it is natural that your attention focuses on such.

We pray that you can sense the hearts and souls of those who reply to your posts with conviction and conscience, especially those who work to protect and defend the abused souls involved, so that you may best understand what it truly means to be Catholic.
 
I am not sure who ‘we’ is in your post, but I am not trying to antagonise anyone. I am interested in Catholic belief, and have some views on the Church’s actions in a small number of areas. are people like me welcome on CAF or not?
Idk, Hokomai, I don’t subscribe to the whole ‘stay and don’t **** us off, or get out’ mentality, but the only time I see your posts is on some of the more contentious stuff. Is this really the best way to learn about the Catholic Church: our positions on gay marriage, feelings towards atheists, &c.?

I’ve noticed this approach a lot by non-Catholics here and elsewhere, and sometimes I wonder how shocked they’d be if I approached them and said, you know: “the Catholic Church doesn’t exist to cause trouble with gays, deny science, and cover-up child abuse.”

Because if you look down the major headlines, that’s pretty much all someone would ‘discover’ about us, if they only knew the Church from the news…
 
Idk, Hokomai, I don’t subscribe to the whole ‘stay and don’t **** us off, or get out’ mentality, but the only time I see your posts is on some of the more contentious stuff. Is this really the best way to learn about the Catholic Church: our positions on gay marriage, feelings towards atheists, &c.?

I’ve noticed this approach a lot by non-Catholics here and elsewhere, and sometimes I wonder how shocked they’d be if I approached them and said, you know: “the Catholic Church doesn’t exist to cause trouble with gays, deny science, and cover-up child abuse.”

Because if you look down the major headlines, that’s pretty much all someone would ‘discover’ about us, if they only knew the Church from the news…
Thanks for your response. I know quite a bit about Catholic teachings themselves. What I am interested in is the way individuals come to believe them, and how they reconcile them with other beliefs or facts which appear to me to be contradictory. On the abuse issue I think I have offered as much praise of the Church as I have criticism on CAF, because overall I think the response has been good, and the abuse no worse than other institutions. But I do probe the fact that many on these forums believe that the Holy Spirit actively guides the Church in some areas but not in others. I also probe areas in which Catholics seem to accept moral relativism and situation ethics: crimes committed by Church people in the past. recently, for example, I pointed out the irony that a Catholic organisation promoting religious freedom was named for a person who used to burn people for practicing it. The chorus of “that was then, this is now” was pretty loud, as Catholic posters attempted to show that situations changed morality. I do admit to being less than charitable in some areas such as my inability to not comment on the pious people who believe in in-corrupt saints, bodies and similar things. On the comment that I only get involved in controversial issues - well, I guess that is true, but my efforts to do otherwise, such as the erudite thread I started on whether true idolatry exists don’t seem to attract much interest. Anyway, thanks for having me!
 
I thought I would throw my :twocents: in. I am SSA / Gay. I think it is great that the Church has Courage. I have not been to a meeting yet, but I am trying to get to one. I found it very helpful to know that there were others like me. When you are gay and trying to live according to Church teachings you feel pretty alone.

I really don’t think what the activists are up in arms over. No one is forcing anyone to go to Courage. No one is saying you have to change your attractions. The purpose of the group is to offer support and encouragement for those who are interested in living according to Catholic values. I think it could be even more devastating to a young person to think that they may not be able to remain Catholic since they have these attractions. They may be led to feel that their only choice is to “embrace” their gay identity and go with it. Courage simply helps them to realize that they can live a life of chastity and be a faithful Catholic all the while having same sex attractions.
 
I really just don’t understand why these gay rights activists have such a big problem with a faith based organization that aims to help homosexuals live a chaste life. Courage is not like the various fundamentalist faith based organizations in existence that supposedly try to help homosexuals. Courage takes a much more reasonable approach so I don’t understand why these gay rights activists have such a problem with Courage. I mean, if a homosexual man or woman wants help living the chaste life in a Catholic context then why would these gay rights activists have such a problem with that?
Its the sexually charged society we live in today. Many people think all priests are pedophiles or have secret wives or girlfriends because those people think everyone is sex crazed today and its impossible to live without having sex. Homosexuality especially is all about sex. Just look at how sexually charged gay pride parades are. The homosexual agenda today is about the sexuality. If you take that out, then its an attack on their very being.
 
I thought I would throw my :twocents: in. I am SSA / Gay. I think it is great that the Church has Courage. I have not been to a meeting yet, but I am trying to get to one. I found it very helpful to know that there were others like me. When you are gay and trying to live according to Church teachings you feel pretty alone.

I really don’t think what the activists are up in arms over. No one is forcing anyone to go to Courage. No one is saying you have to change your attractions. The purpose of the group is to offer support and encouragement for those who are interested in living according to Catholic values. I think it could be even more devastating to a young person to think that they may not be able to remain Catholic since they have these attractions. They may be led to feel that their only choice is to “embrace” their gay identity and go with it. Courage simply helps them to realize that they can live a life of chastity and be a faithful Catholic all the while having same sex attractions.
Mustang,
Hello and thanks for sharing your thoughts!

I was just talking with the deacon mentioned in the article (he is a great guy, BTW) . He is looking forward to building bridges with the gay and lesbian communities in the Hartford area. He has high hopes to find ways of mutually finding ways meeting the needs of this part of our community that are hurting and have been marginalized. He will be meeting soon with the president of one of the local organizations to start building those bridges.

Keep praying for COURAGE and it’s initutives.
 
Hello Marie5890! You are very welcome. I just think the Courage group is so very important. It lets us with SSA to know we are a part of the Church. A lot of society tells us to embrace our SSA and act out on it. It is so very important to hear the voice of Jesus calling us back home. God Bless!
 
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