Are daily toddler temper trantrums a concern?

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Serap - I think it is normal for toddlers to have temper tantrums. Since my son was born, my 2.5 year-old daughter has been having tantrums almost everyday as well. I think a lot of it has to do with 1) wanting attention since it’s not all about her anymore, 2) A very strong/defiant personality trying to test her boundaries and wants her own way (what toddler isn’t lol!) and 3) she’s 2.

Needless-to-say, it has been exasperating at times especially when I haven’t gotten enough rest the night before to stay calm when handling her tantrum. Yesterday and the day before I was ready to explode and was asking for Calgon to take me away, (Never understood that commercial as a kid until I had kids.) I couldn’t wait for my husband to come home so that I could decompress for an hour. But he’ll be doing some side work at home for extra income to pay the bills, so I’m trying to mentally prepare myself with handling the parenting work all day/night for a while. I’m sure you have been experiencing the same, so :hug1: from one mommy to another. I do agree with others, though, that if you are concerned, just check it out with your ped.
thank you very much
 
:rotfl::nope::rotfl::nope:

Yeah, I tried to tell myself that lie…Didn’t work. So far, all the stages with my son have been difficult. The irony is that I had him in 4 hours total, with 2 good pushes. He was easy to give birth to, but has been a challenge ever since!

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When things are going well with him, it’s like a bit of heaven though.
Bite your tongue experienced lady!!! sssshhhhh! we want to remain ignorant 😃
 
You forgot widows, divorcees, single moms, foster care, war-torn lands, and two-mommy households.
:confused: No, Scripture says honor your mother and father. It says a mother’s authority over her sons is confirmed. Jesus came home from the Temple and was obedient to his parents. Both parents have authority over their children. Do you dispute the Scriptures on this matter?

All you have offered here is sarcasm, and you have not explained what any of it means. Do you actually think a mother doesn’t have authority over her minor sons? Please elaborate on your views. A person can believe a husband is the head of the house and still believe mom ranks higher than the sons…
 
:confused: No, Scripture says honor your mother and father. It says a mother’s authority over her sons is confirmed. Jesus came home from the Temple and was obedient to his parents. Both parents have authority over their children. Do you dispute the Scriptures on this matter?

All you have offered here is sarcasm, and you have not explained what any of it means. Do you actually think a mother doesn’t have authority over her minor sons? Please elaborate on your views. A person can believe a husband is the head of the house and still believe mom ranks higher than the sons…
don’t take his bait sweetie. his opinion means nothing to you or me. unimportant.
 
I don’t know if you have anything like Early Intervention in Canada. All three of my kids qualified for services in the home including occupational therapy, speech and behavioral support. I learned a lot from those therapists and they really helped me develop the tools I needed to help my kids progress in the world. It turned out that DS1 and 2 have Asperger’s syndrome and we aren’t sure about our three year old girl…she isn’t using a lot of words and never stops moving. She is fearless and runs out into the street and dances if I don’t hold on to her.

I agree with the other posters who have suggested an evaluation. You need help and if your son has sensory or neurological differences, he is entitled to services. The sooner these services are in place, the better. Things don’t have to be this stressful. Don’t be afraid to look for some answers. You may have to be assertive about getting the eval and services. Don’t worry about your son having a label. That label (if he gets a DX) will help you and your family get help and support and help you as his parent to reach his highest potential. Take care and God Bless you and your family.
 
Bite your tongue experienced lady!!! sssshhhhh! we want to remain ignorant 😃
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Sorry. I just had my hopes up for an easy teenage period and it didn’t happen, things got worse for a long time. I no longer count on this kid being easy ever.
 
My 2.5 year old has intense temper tantrums everyday. I never went through this with DD. I am concerned about it. He loses control and starts screaming, kicking and biting. It will happen at least once a day and up to 3 times a day.

We have been isolating him in his bedroom until he calms down - may take up to 15 min, but b/c he’s kicking and biting, comforting him only makes it worse. Then we go and get him and cuddle him. Sometimes, when I come to him, he tells me he wants to be alone some more and I leave him alone until he calls me.

Should I consult with his doctor? Is this behaviour normal for a 2.5 year old? I worry about ADHD and unnecessary medications.

*Edited to add: * He also hits other kids at the park when my nanny is looking after him. He doesn’t do this under my watch b/c I give him a time-out. I’ve told my nanny to give him time-outs also, but I think she’s softer than me.
I’ll give you a bit of hope here. My son who just turned 4 was like this. He was always crying as a baby. We tested him for everything…nothing wrong with him. He continued on like this till he was towards the end of his 2nd year. One day he saw a book and just started naming all the letters in it. Within a few months he was reading on his own. He started to really calm down after that. I don’t want to come off as one of those parents who brag about their children doing things earlier than other children…really. The reason I mention it is because, in his case at least, the issues seem to be related. I think a lot of his tantrums were related to frustration. I think he understood more than he could communicate(which is probably common with all children to some degree). He needed more stimulation than what he was getting. When he was able to start reading he got the stimulation he needed.

My two other children were as calm as an average child and didn’t start reading till five (normal age for kids). Anyways, that’s my unprofessional opinion on why my son was throwing tantrums and crying all the time. Maybe you just have a smarty pants on your hands. 😃
 
I had my youngest son tested around 2 1/2. He was very difficult and no self control.

He had both sensory issues and ADHD. The neurologist did not think medication would help because it was mostly a sensory problem. Kids with sensory issues can be much more difficult when the hit the teen years if they don’t learn how to cope with difficult situations.

Some of example of his sensory issues, over reacting to normal situations, can not handle people invading his space, needs warnings for schedule changes or new events happening to prepare himself, can not eat certain foods, needs food cooked a certain way, can only wear certain clothes, sleep problems. You don’t have to yell at him, he gets upset if just your tone changes.

The mixture of the hyper activity and the sensory issues resulted in constant calls from the school. I had almost daily calls through 8th grade. He has learned to control himself. He is 16 now. And has not had one problem in high school. But boy those first 14 years were hard. He regulates himself with running every day and doing a sport every season. He still needs warnings for schedule changes and visiting family so he can prepare himself mentally. He told me that he needs a 3 day warning for anything that involves my family LOL!
 
I had my youngest son tested around 2 1/2. He was very difficult and no self control.

He had both sensory issues and ADHD. The neurologist did not think medication would help because it was mostly a sensory problem. Kids with sensory issues can be much more difficult when the hit the teen years if they don’t learn how to cope with difficult situations.

Some of example of his sensory issues, over reacting to normal situations, can not handle people invading his space, needs warnings for schedule changes or new events happening to prepare himself, can not eat certain foods, needs food cooked a certain way, can only wear certain clothes, sleep problems. You don’t have to yell at him, he gets upset if just your tone changes.

The mixture of the hyper activity and the sensory issues resulted in constant calls from the school. I had almost daily calls through 8th grade. He has learned to control himself. He is 16 now. And has not had one problem in high school. But boy those first 14 years were hard. He regulates himself with running every day and doing a sport every season. He still needs warnings for schedule changes and visiting family so he can prepare himself mentally. He told me that he needs a 3 day warning for anything that involves my family LOL!
very interesting. thanks
 
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