Sophie:
Unfortunately for cultists, they are taught their first and foremost goal in life is to befriend people only to try to bring them into the group. They are taught this is what they must devote their lives to. So, Contrafool, hopefully your Mormon friends are being sincere with you. But, if you should happen to find out someday that they are not, don’t feel bad. This has happened to many people. Lots of folks have even lost relationships with loved ones because of cult involvement.
Unfortunate souls lost in cults need many, many prayers!
I know that the Jehovah’s Witnesses take some measure of pride in holding the casually-interested investigator ‘responsible’ for the information that a Witness might attempt to teach them about Watchtower doctrine. One who displays a ‘bad spirit’ about such doctrines would usually be shunned.
Mormons have no such strict attitude and the anecdotal stories you tell, Sophie, could be duplicated by Mormons who were ill-treated by Roman Catholics. Among themselves, by the way, Mormons are none too certain that it isn’t the Roman Catholics and the Protestants who aren’t the ‘cultists’: after all: Mormons meet many nominal Christians in their door-to-door canvassing and via other sorts of contacts who seem utterly ignorant of the basic doctrines of their own denomination. I have personally met professed Roman Catholics who insisted upon denying doctrines which the RCC definitely teaches, or who believe in things or engage in practices which the RCC definitely discourages.
When folks ask me how to evangelize Mormons I do commend a certain number of core LDS books with which Mormons would be generally familiar, as a way of getting some insight into how Mormons really think. I recommend VERY FEW anti-LDS books, because I find so few to be fully reliable as well as because one often gets caught up in the excitement of ‘dueling apologetics’: Mormons have their own analogues to Catholic Answers and can often give reasonable if not fully adequate (IMHO) responses to most of the common criticisms of their faith. More often: the practice of ‘dueling apologetics’ grows boring fairly quickly. So far as that goes: most opportunities to evangelize someone of any faith or of no faith at all are rather fleeting and life is too short to memorize extensive ‘responses’ to Mormonism, Watchtower doctrine, Christian Science, ‘Oneness’ Pentecostalism, Unificationism, Paganism, Eckancar, Scientology, Zen Buddhism, Nichiren ShoShu Buddhism, Amidist Buddhism, Zoroastrianism, umpteen brands of Hinduism, and so forth. Most of us have jobs, families, and lives to get on with: we can’t study comparative religions ad infiniturm.
Rather than a laundry list of ‘tactics and techniques’ to bedazzle the unwary or ill-studied Mormon or whomever, I think it is better to get so thoroughly familiar with orthodox Christian doctrine and it’s exposition that one can answer all or most objections rather readily. And then, KNOW WHERE TO GO for the more sophisicated questions. And then cultivate a willngness to listen and to dialogue in a meaningful fashion rather than ‘blast’ someone with definitive ‘refutations’ of their faith.