At what age is it weird to be single?

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I’ve read what everyone has said and I’d like to say that even though it shouldn’t matter, singleness after a certain age is looked down upon. Especially if that person is looking for a spouse.
 
Le_Crouton said:
I’ve read what everyone has said and I’d like to say that even though it shouldn’t matter, singleness after a certain age is looked down upon. Especially if that person is looking for a spouse.
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If you persist in negative thinking, then you greatly increase your chances of negative outcomes.
 
Le_Crouton said:
I’ve read what everyone has said and I’d like to say that even though it shouldn’t matter, singleness after a certain age is looked down upon. Especially if that person is looking for a spouse.
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That’s just sheer prejudice, and any potential “spouse” who would reject a good person because of that doesn’t deserve that good person, or any good person.
 
That’s just life. People reject each other for all sorts of reasons. Height. Career. Interests.
 
Le_Crouton said:
singleness after a certain age is looked down upon.
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I don’t think that is a prevalent idea. And at your age, it shouldn’t be more than a passing thought. People are marrying later and there is nothing wrong with that.

You need to adopt a more positive “vibe” for yourself.
 
Sure it is. I mean that’s the whole joke behind 40 year old virgin
 
And a lot of those are petty, shallow reasons for rejecting someone without taking the time to get to know them, and it’s not only unfair, it could be a missed opportunity for a lifetime of happiness.

If all that matters in a relationship is someone’s height, career, interests or how long they’ve been single then I would say there’s very little value being placed on the deeper, richer things that are much more important in a relationship, and much more fulfilling. Things such as good communication, respect for the essential goodness of a person, genuine love and caring, compassion, honesty and trustworthiness.

If the only focus is going to be placed on superficial criteria, then the one doing the rejecting is likely to end up more alone and lonely than the person he or she is rejecting.

And that would serve him or her right.

BTW, “That’s just life” is one of the lamest, most dismissive overused excuses to avoid right thinking that humanity has ever come up with. It’s also lazy.
 
Le_Crouton said:
singleness after a certain age is looked down upon. Especially if that person is looking for a spouse.
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So?

There will be people who will look down at you no matter what you do.

Can’t go through life worrying about what other people think. It’s a gigantic waste of the limited time we have on earth. Better not to waste it.
 
Le_Crouton said:
I’ve read what everyone has said and I’d like to say that even though it shouldn’t matter, singleness after a certain age is looked down upon.
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Unfortunately, after a certain age people start questioning your sexuality if you are not married or “living sinfully”.

Additionally, there was once a thread here on CAF where one of the posters said it looked creepy for middle age men to be volunteering at church. So, if people here on CAF are looking down at middle-aged single men as creepy, then we have a problem in our own house that requires the old-school nuns to take out their rulers and give a smack-down.
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That’s just sheer prejudice, and any potential “spouse” who would reject a good person because of that doesn’t deserve that good person, or any good person.
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Be on the lookout for any posts here on CAF where posters state that the reason a person isn’t married after a certain age is because there is something wrong with them. I know I’ve seen it.
 
Norseman82 said:
Additionally, there was once a thread here on CAF where one of the posters said it looked creepy for middle age men to be volunteering at church
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“There was once a thread here at CAF where someone said” is about on the same level as “Someone from YouTube said…”

There is nothing creepy about a man of any age volunteering at church or anywhere else. It would only be creepy if the man were acting creepy, for instance trying to date women who were 25 years younger than him or otherwise had made it clear they were not interested.
 
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Norseman82 said:
Unfortunately, after a certain age people start questioning your sexuality if you are not married or “living sinfully”.
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People will still question your sexuality if you don’t behave as they do.

I was in my late teens and the rumor that I was gay was circulated. This was because I did not sleep around with guys like a lot of the girls around me did. I was an atheist so the decision to remain chaste was not out of morality but out of practicality.

I could see the unintended pregnancies, the shotgun marriages and the drama that came out of sleeping around. I wanted none of that, so I decided to abstain from the root cause.
 
Remember the posters who insisted that the world was flat?

No, it’s not a typo. I meant to say posters, not poster. 🥴
 
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