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Irishmom2
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Wish I had a dollar for every dumb idea I have read on CAF. 
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Cruciferi
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Thereās nothing abnormal or wrong with being single.
It gets weird when you start acting strange and desperate.
It becomes sad when you mope around lamenting it.
As this seems to be an ongoing issue, I suggest discussing this with your therapist.
It gets weird when you start acting strange and desperate.
It becomes sad when you mope around lamenting it.
As this seems to be an ongoing issue, I suggest discussing this with your therapist.
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Buks
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Be patient. Tune in to people you meet in day-to-day situations. The more you focus on them as simply another person (not a prospect), the more likely you are to notice a special person to you, and feel less self conscious to boot.
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Sparrowhawk
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Where are you getting the idea that itās weird or sad to be single?
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MNathaniel
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This. Iām in my 30s, single, and very, very happy.
Iām not ambivalent about vocation ā I do have a spiritual director and am keen to avoid falling into the trap of a life revolving around myself. But Iām walking with God right where I am, and Iām blown away daily by Godās graciousness and gifts to me.
It literally does not cross my mind to worry about what others might āthinkā about me not being married or in a convent. Thatās not their business (and whatās in their heads isnāt mine!)
Maybe one day Iāll be married or in a convent. Maybe Iāll be single until I die. But no matter what, so long as Iām walking with the Lord, Iām looking forward to it! And Iām at peace with it. I know that Heās shaping me into exactly the person He wants me to be, and thatāll end up much better than if I were in charge. God is my most important relationship and Iām so excited to see Him face to face on the other side of the grave!
In the meantime there are 1,000 ways to love Him and other people. Romantic love isnāt the only way to show love. I still have parents and grandparents, friends and neighbours, there are strangers in need. Jesus is there in all of them to be loved and served.
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1ke
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What an odd question. Some people never marry. We are not all called to a vocation to marriage.
Terms like āweirdā or āsadā are inappropriate. They arenāt a thing in Catholic teaching.
They arenāt even really a cultural thing.
I was 38 and my husband was 43 when we got married. We were neither weird nor sad.
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1ke
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Me too!
I wear pajamas to work. Iāve been doing telework/home office for 15 years.
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1ke
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Oh here we go again with the weird virgin obsession. That is what is weird, and sad, not singlehood.
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CoffeeCatholic
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DarkLight
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I was going to say, I resemble that remark. And I believe I am a decent bit younger. I plan to spend the day teaching myself javascript so I can do more work on our communal tabletop RPG universeās new website.RolandThompsonGunner:
I resemble that remark.
I revel in being weird and the older I get, the weirder I get.
Weird is good.
My life goal is to be able to afford a big enough house to have all the cats I want.
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JanR
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And, theyāll be lucky cats, indeed! The ones the donāt get chosen might picket in front of your house, though, so you might have to take all of them. Kitties know a good thing when they see one.
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Julius_Caesar
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Priests and nuns are married to the Church and God respectively.
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stpurl
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And are āsingleā with regard to ālegalā status. I am not disagreeing with the nuns being brides etc, but legally they are single persons. I should have said perhaps legally, or in the secular view.
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